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Mixing with people

37 replies

GreatBigBeautifulTommorow · 05/10/2020 17:47

As the title says are you mixing within the rules freely or trying to restrict your contact with people?

Cant decide if I’m being over the top or not?
Live with DM, late 60s.

The only people we have had in our house since March is DB and wife.
I’ve met one friend outdoors for a walk.
I work full time.

I’m so worried DM catches covid so limiting my contact as much as I can.

Just made me wonder as family friend asked about popping for a cup of tea and I’m not comfortable mixing indoors?

How much are you mixing with people?

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RedskyAtnight · 05/10/2020 17:53

Not at all indoors. We have 2 children in secondary school and 2 sets of vulnerable grandparents, so we are choosing to not increase our risk any further. We are meeting people outside and being meticulous at social distancing.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 05/10/2020 17:56

My uncle and his partner are the only people who've visited us and we've also visited them, all indoors. We've also been out with them.

1990shopefulftm · 05/10/2020 17:57

we're in a local lockdown area and i m 37 weeks pregnant so we're now not mixing with people at all (if we got covid then I'd be giving birth alone so it's just not worth taking any risks now) apart from getting a click and collect for food as i'd feel bad using a delivery slot when we've got a car.

DH had met people outdoors a couple of times when it was allowed that are friends that live locally but as the rest of our friends and family aren't local and we haven't risked travelling to see them, i've not seen anyone that wasn't a work colleague or medical professional since the start of lockdown.

would the family friend be happy to meet you for a takeaway drink and then you could go to a local park or if your back garden is accessible if you'd be comfortable with that?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 05/10/2020 18:14

Seeing family and friends as normal but within the guidelines.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 05/10/2020 18:17

Not mixing indoors, don’t mind SD outdoors. Not worth the extra risk when there are plenty of other ways to keep in touch.

Ilovemycat13 · 05/10/2020 18:21

Yes and no. Friends not so much, family yes. We actually discussed it with them as I think people are sometimes worried about saying for example ‘I don’t think you should come round anymore, I’m worried’ etc.
My grandmother is 90 and we had a conversation with my dad (who goes every night to cook for her) whether he wants us to stop seeing her/stop seeing him etc. He said the first thing she’d say if I didn’t is ‘ I haven’t seen (name) in a while, where is she’ and we felt it would be better to see her whilst she’s still around.
Likewise with mum, she’s happy and is playing it by ear. We won’t be silly but we wanted to be sensible and involve everyone in our decisions. We’re also not a huggy family so distancing fine.

pepperwood · 05/10/2020 18:22

We haven't visited anyone indoors or had anyone here. We've been inside two well ventilated pubs since they reopened.
We did have a weekend away with another couple but we distanced and they are also being very careful so it felt like a minimal risk.

Socially I'm being very very careful.

Lazypuppy · 05/10/2020 18:22

Mixing as normal within the 6 person rule.

Had friends round for takeaways, been out to pub for food and drinks etc

MadameBlobby · 05/10/2020 18:24

It’s up to you I wouldn’t say you’re being OTT but it sounds a completely miserable existence, especially as you are going to have to sustain it for several more months.

Your mother isn’t even that old, is she particularly vulnerable?

MadameBlobby · 05/10/2020 18:26

In answer to the OP i haven’t been into or had anyone else in my house. I’ve been out for meals with my family a few times and with a friend at the weekend. It all was distanced and felt quite safe.

VictoriaBun · 05/10/2020 18:26

One other couple , in their garden only , distanced, since March.

Tangledyarn · 05/10/2020 18:27

Mixing a bit but I'd say but limiting it, been in my best friends house, been at my mums but otherwise meeting people outside. Have been to a pub a couple of times but just with my partner. Dont think I'll be seeing anyone inside now other than my mum (if I can, think we are likely to go into lockdown this week) as case numbers are higher again.

lljkk · 05/10/2020 18:29

I barely see anyone. Not counting supermarket trips, I see Only one person outside my household & even that person, I see only a few times on the weekends typically.
I broke rules constantly in first lockdown because of exercising too much. Away from people, but that wasn't allowed to matter then.

So I am a total Lockdown failure criminal after all.

RepeatSwan · 05/10/2020 18:32

Outdoors only, but if you stay 2m away and outdoors I'm happy to meet.

My manager has just suggested an indoor team event Hmm er, great idea!

OverTheRainbow88 · 05/10/2020 18:33

I’m surprised at those saying no one in houses... but I’ve been to a Restaurant/pub with friends!

I see my family inside our homes. Been out for brunch/lunch/dinner with family and friends. Kids going to nursery and pre school.

Friends with kids same age we tend to meet in parks/zoos etc as we have so many kids between us we did that anyway to avoid houses Being destroyed.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 05/10/2020 18:34

Very limited. Met a few people outside during the summer, DS is 15 and has been meeting friends outside too

Went for lunch once, with one friend, who lives alone; and dinner with same friend, once, and to her house, once. All whilst permitted. Local restrictions now, so not meeting anyone at all, apart from my mum who lives down the road and is technically support bubbled with us, but still doesn't come inside.

My view is that with 3 DCS at 3 different schools and 2 at secondary using public transport to get there, plus OH teaching university (currently face to face, all credit to him, though masked and distanced), that I am more likely to be exposed than most people, so because I can, it seems responsible to keep my distance.

cologne4711 · 05/10/2020 18:35

Outdoors is fine, I am less keen on indoors. But your DM is only in her 60s - does she also have a condition that makes her vulnerable?

middleager · 05/10/2020 18:36

My mother and aunt in their 70s won't keep away. Trying to come over even during local restrictions!

My kids are at school with cases in a high risk area so I don't want to mix.

However my aunt and mother are up the pubs, round numerous shops.
I bumped into my aunt when I ventured to the first non food shop in weeks (big mistake , queuing in the rain, people coughing and no SD inside) she was wearing her mask under her nose and kept walking towards me when I backed off.

Sorry OP, no help accept to say not all parents want to be 'protected'. They are adults and while we want to protect them, they can make the call. What does your mother want?

middleager · 05/10/2020 18:37

Except

movingonup20 · 05/10/2020 18:41

Umm. Doing pretty much as I please throughout but not breaking the law, just perhaps flexing it within the guidelines. I have adult DD's and travel to see them as one has sn, travel for care was allowed

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GreatBigBeautifulTommorow · 05/10/2020 18:44

@1990shopefulftm yes I did suggest outdoor meet up, just rain rain rain here!

DM is over weight, no other risk factors I guess. My job is high risk, so trying to limit exposure socially and work shows me the worst bits of covid so maybe I’m a bit over anxious?
I aren’t in general a social butterfly.

Thanks for all the replies, a mixed bag which reassures me others are doing the same Flowers

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GreatBigBeautifulTommorow · 05/10/2020 18:45

@middleager DM is VERY risk adverse.

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Deelish75 · 05/10/2020 19:03

Since my children went back to school I’ve not been in anyone’s house. I’ve not met anyone in an indoor setting (coffee shop or restaurant since this started back in March) No one except trades people have been into my house. I have met/bumped into friends in the park and walked home from school with other parents/grandparents.

DP is WFH.
My children go to school - one in secondary - 240 bubble. one in primary - 90 bubble.
I’ve been to the hairdressers. A mobile hairdresser comes to us to cut DD’s hair. Both myself and hairdresser wear masks. DP and DS do their lunch hair with the clippers.
I swim once a week. DS (11) goes to outdoor football training. DD’s swimming lesson are on hold at the moment but once a space becomes available we’ll take it.
I get most of my shopping delivered, but I do nip into the supermarket to pick up fresh fruit and veg etc.
I’ve been to my local shopping centre a handful of times since the non-essential shops opened in June.
As a household we do go to restaurants.
We don’t use public transport.

I’m just hoping that we don’t have an awful winter weather wise so we can still met up with people outdoors (keeping my fingers crossed)

MadameBlobby · 05/10/2020 20:20

I’m surprised at those saying no one in houses... but I’ve been to a Restaurant/pub with friends!

Because meeting in a restaurant or pub is allowed here. Meeting in a house isn’t.

lljkk · 05/10/2020 20:35

Come to think of it, my elderly parents (abroad, terrified of covid, wouldn't dare set food in a restaurant) have done much more indoor socialising than we have since March.

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