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I'm so angry...

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MaryShelley1818 · 05/10/2020 14:22

We are in an area with local restrictions so high transmission rates in the North East of England.

Someone I know had her 40th at the weekend and photos on FB of her having a party in a pub, cake presents, her and kids, her parents, her sister who works at a local University in a very high position, and about 4-5 friends. No Social Distancing, drinking, cuddling, shots, photos.
How are people just carrying on as normal??!! How can you be so bloody thick as to post all the photos on FB. Am I missing something?? I'm furious.

We've followed every single rule but seems I'm in the minority and the longer people just do whatever they want for, the longer I'll have to go without seeing my friends and family.

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GalaxyCookieCrumble · 06/10/2020 22:28

@MaryShelley1818

We are in an area with local restrictions so high transmission rates in the North East of England.

Someone I know had her 40th at the weekend and photos on FB of her having a party in a pub, cake presents, her and kids, her parents, her sister who works at a local University in a very high position, and about 4-5 friends. No Social Distancing, drinking, cuddling, shots, photos.
How are people just carrying on as normal??!! How can you be so bloody thick as to post all the photos on FB. Am I missing something?? I'm furious.

We've followed every single rule but seems I'm in the minority and the longer people just do whatever they want for, the longer I'll have to go without seeing my friends and family.

I live in the same area as you @MaryShelley1818 and your anger who is misguided, how about redirecting it to the clowns running the country eh!
HermioneMakepeace · 06/10/2020 22:46

Aussies generally know how to behave though.

This is true. If only people in the UK would FOLLOW THE RULES Covid could be defeated. Just a few months of pain could see the end of this. Close the pubs and restaurants, prioritise keeping schools and hospitals open, ban parties and weddings, increase mental health support, give financial help to people who have lost their jobs and fine people heavily for flouting the rules.

With all this in place, I believe we could see the end of Covid by Christmas.

NRatched · 06/10/2020 22:50

@HermioneMakepeace

Aussies generally know how to behave though.

This is true. If only people in the UK would FOLLOW THE RULES Covid could be defeated. Just a few months of pain could see the end of this. Close the pubs and restaurants, prioritise keeping schools and hospitals open, ban parties and weddings, increase mental health support, give financial help to people who have lost their jobs and fine people heavily for flouting the rules.

With all this in place, I believe we could see the end of Covid by Christmas.

This is just magical thinking at this stage IMO.

It would be nice if it was even half true, but its not and pretending it is is just daft.

Covid could be defeated indeed.

HermioneMakepeace · 06/10/2020 22:58

@NRatched Why is this daft? We now have ZERO community transmission in Sydney.

LangClegsInSpace · 06/10/2020 23:03

If only people in the UK would FOLLOW THE RULES Covid could be defeated.

No it couldn't.

Social distancing, respiratory hygiene, hand hygiene, masks, rule of 6, local restrictions bla bla bla are all important but they're just extra tools that can help a bit. Unless we get the central strategy right (test, trace isolate) then we're just rearranging the deckchairs.

People will only put up with that shit for so long if there's no end in sight and no coherent exit strategy.

MadameBlobby · 06/10/2020 23:05

@HermioneMakepeace

Aussies generally know how to behave though.

This is true. If only people in the UK would FOLLOW THE RULES Covid could be defeated. Just a few months of pain could see the end of this. Close the pubs and restaurants, prioritise keeping schools and hospitals open, ban parties and weddings, increase mental health support, give financial help to people who have lost their jobs and fine people heavily for flouting the rules.

With all this in place, I believe we could see the end of Covid by Christmas.

This is all just naive sadly. In Scotland we had really low levels. It’s just been too late to try it.
dontbelieveboris · 06/10/2020 23:07

[quote HermioneMakepeace]@NRatched Why is this daft? We now have ZERO community transmission in Sydney.[/quote]
But we have Boris over here..my friend tested positive 10 days ago, track and trace never called to get a list of contacts. That's just one person. 16'000 positive cases had the same, how many are asymptomatic and working with the vulnerable? Is it their fault if they "kill a grandma" as all the hysterical idiots like to say?!

SwimSwim · 06/10/2020 23:10

@watermelon999 that is exactly what they have been doing for over 6 months now. Cancer screenings cancelled. Routine ops cancelled (unfairly trivialised when these include life altering/improving things such as hip replacements etc.), support for mental illnesses, special needs respite... numerous things like this that have massive knock on impacts have been affected. Lockdown is and will cause more premature deaths than covid ever will. Yet the hospitals have been empty (I've been up a few times during lockdown) and millions spent on covid hospitals that never saw a patient.

What would I do? I'd do what Sweden did, where they allow the people with medical knowledge make decisions for the country. Yes we should protect the vulnerable as best we can but not to the detriment of countless others. When furlough ends we're going to see massive unemployment rates and with that comes poverty and desperation.

When did saving covid lives matter more than cancer lives? Suicide lives? Heart disease lives? Quality of lives of the elderly who spend what could easily be the last year of their lives lonely? Quality of lives of those with special needs children who have had services stopped and who are seeing regression in their child or who are simply struggling to survive without respite. It's terrifying that this is being allowed and people like yourself are calling for more restrictions.

NRatched · 06/10/2020 23:40

[quote HermioneMakepeace]@NRatched Why is this daft? We now have ZERO community transmission in Sydney.[/quote]
You acted early, and well.

We have left it WAY too late for eradication.

I honestly wish it was as simple as you make out and we could have a quick harsh lockdown or whatever, and be fine for xmas. I really do. But its just..not going to happen. As I said, genie is out of the bottle, for us, and spain, and some other places. We cannot just shove it back in at this stage.

Guylan · 07/10/2020 00:02

To those on this thread who believe the virus can’t be controlled in any way, there is a big possibility a vaccine or therapeutics may be developed by late spring. For this reason many epidemiologists (there is a separate group who hold a different view but the claim is they are smaller in number) believe it is worth trying to keep community transmission levels down until then. If the virus is left largely uncontrolled the NHS may become overwhelmed over the winter affecting not only people with Covid and the many more CoVid deaths that would occur. Also there are still a lot of unknowns on the long term health complications for people of all ages including those only mildly affected and how many that will be.

My view is if by late spring it seems they are no nearer in developing a vaccine or therapeutics then it is perhaps time to consider that we will have to live with the virus and it’s bad consequences for some. However, as we are at a stage where they will know in 6 months or so whether a vaccine could be possible it’s worth waiting until that time.

Guylan · 07/10/2020 00:06

To add to above, those working in public health who think there should be efforts to still try and least limit the spread of the virus in the hope a vaccine might be available by spring, they are not advocating another full lockdown but certain measures and further temporary restrictions in some areas if the case numbers are getting v high.

Willyoujustbequiet · 07/10/2020 01:20

Report her. Im sick of selfish idiots who think the rules dont apply to them.

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 07/10/2020 04:05

@IrmaFayLear

TheDailyCarbuncle I unilaterally award you the prize of the most intelligent MNetter!

I second this, literally every post written I have been cheering at, 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 07/10/2020 04:08

@rainbowbear10

My daugfhter is in university accomodation and it was her flatmates 21st at the weekend and without asking invited sudents and friends not ay Uni into the flat for a party// the flat have just came out of isolation after another flatmate byfriend tested positive in the week before my daughter arrieved ....shocking behaviour cobsidering they are supposed to be adults and had notice from accomodation and university that this was not allowed

All University's knew months ago that lectures would be moved to online, don't blame the students for wanting to live their lives, the Unis greed following the money for accommodation is now the reason many cases have incurred across this sector.

Userzzz · 07/10/2020 04:15

Get over it. People have a right to live their lives and see their families.

YogiBearcub · 07/10/2020 04:28

For everyone still hoping for a vaccine.... Wake up! We've got several doctors in the family and none think a vaccine will solve the issue of covid transmission, in the same way there is no vaccine for the common cold. The government is also not going to give it to people who are fit and healthy as they've only bought about 30,000 treatments. It may learn the symptoms in those that would have otherwise died, that's what we're aiming for. The thought of long COVID is enough not to make me want COVID myself and to my mind being a sociable person should also entail me having the social conscience that I don't want to infect the old, immunocompromised, etc. For anyone now drawing on the example of Trump being 74 and having seemingly made a swift recovery, keep in mind he has been under constant supervision of an army of medics which is not going to be the situation for your gran or parents if the NHS is overwhelmed by all the usual winter illnesses + COVID patients.

There will always be selfish people who urinate on the street, burgle your home, or flaunt the COVID rules. However if we want to live in a civilised society this does rely on the majority observing the rules that are set for them even though its not what their impulse tells them to do, in the knowledge that it is for the greater good of everyone.

lovelemoncurd · 07/10/2020 04:44

I'm afraid I'm just getting more and more disappointed with people as this pandemic rages. I think non mask wearers are attention seekers. I think people that throw parties are selfish fuckers. They don't have to face death on a daily basis so they don't give two hoots. I was talking to a care assistant two weeks ago who over a 4 week period sat with individual 44 people as they died without family present. Face that during your daily work and you wear a mask- even if it does make you a little light headed!

jamdonut · 07/10/2020 06:52

I’ve worked (school) throughout and I follow the rules as best I can. Hate wearing a mask as it makes me breathless , but I do it for as long as is necessary for whatever circumstance I’m in. I don’t personally know anyone who has died from COVID-19 although I live in East Yorkshire. We endured the crowds in the hot weather descending upon our town, and still nothing happened. It becomes harder and harder to understand all the restrictions when nothing of note is happening around you.
I do not believe things have changed forever. The minute we can ... and will... things will get back to normal. If places have gone bust, there will be an opening for someone else to take it on and make it viable.
Hate all the doom -mongering that goes on. Look beyond it.

NannyMcphee39 · 07/10/2020 07:27

Totally agree with you OP.

Selfishness abounds. It’s tough when you’re following all the rules and you see selfish bastards throwing caution to the wind.

Sounds like a lot of people on this thread are also very selfish.

TheDailyCarbuncle · 07/10/2020 07:43

@HermioneMakepeace

I find the idea that if everyone followed the rules everything could go back to normal utterly incomprehensible.

Why? I live in Sydney. We had lockdown for a few months and most people stuck to the rules. We have zero community transmission now and are more-or-less back to normal.

As @TheKeatingFive says, for how long? As soon as someone from another part of the country or the world comes along with covid, that's it, it starts to spread again. How is this not obvious?
TheDailyCarbuncle · 07/10/2020 07:55

[quote Watermelon999]@TheDailyCarbuncle

“An ideal alternative would be to have a healthcare system and a disaster plan that has actual capacity to deal with situations like this.”

Yes completely agree. The reality though is the opposite. Every winter our hospital literally runs out of beds due to “normal” winter pressures. That’s despite using every available space. Routine care and surgery invariably gets cancelled for bed space. You’d think that they would learn but it happens every year. I can’t imagine what will happen this year. It’s very scary.

“the next thing would be to look properly at the actual data and look critically at the actual benefit (or otherwise) of 'protecting the NHS.' It's beyond bonkers to protect the NHS by making people sicker and more depressed, by tanking the economy such that you reduce revenue and increase poverty and the resulting effects of job losses.”

I agree with proper analysis of the data in order to determine the best way forward. I would hope the experts are doing this, but there seem to be vastly differing opinions, and conflicting decisions. Plus no one explains the reasoning very well, so people don’t get on board with it.

The problem with not protecting the NHS and carrying on with life, even with extra precautions, is that we will become overrun with people struggling with breathing who require urgent medical intervention, like in April. It was a very scary time.

In the short term this will quickly become unmanageable. In our hospital covid admissions have more than quadrupled in 2 weeks. ITU is nearly full already. Without some action to slow/reverse this, what do we do? Turn people away?

The more patients admitted with covid, the more other services are restricted or stopped. The fact is there is just not the capacity for both. We are already backlogged from having departments closed and staff redeployed in April.

“It's political pandering from politicians who would rather tank the economy and destroy people's lives than say 'there is a hard limit to what we can do in this situation.' I am genuinely shocked that people not only accept being told they can't see their own families, that they must leave elderly people isolated, lonely and struggling, they demand it. Such is the level of tunnel-vision and lack of understanding about what you can really do in this situation. “

I’m not sure it’s that simple. There’s a fine balance between allowing freedom, boosting the economy and protecting the vulnerable. I wouldn’t fancy making those decisions. People have been allowed to care for their vulnerable relatives, and single people allowed to bubble up. We were allowed to see friends and family, at distance, but unfortunately people started ignoring the distancing and therefore the rates increased.

If people could be trusted to be sensible, wash hands, keep distance, wear masks, isolate when needed etc, these extra measures may not have been needed. Along with a fully functioning test and trace as well.[/quote]
People have not been allowed to care for vulnerable relatives in care homes - some people in care homes have barely seen a loved one for months and months, 'for their own good.' Research has shown that over lockdown a significant proportion of care home residents died, not from covid, but from the effects of isolation and despair. Many simply stopped drinking and died of dehydration. How is that a positive outcome? That's a genuine, honest-to-god question. How is it beneficial to prevent a person having human contact 'for their own good' resulting in that person's death? How? I am so angry asking that question I can't tell you.

'Protecting the vulnerable' means focusing on the politically hot issue, protecting politician's reputations. It doesn't mean actually protecting vulnerable people, because if it did 'vulnerable' would include care home residents who need family contact to continue living, people who need jobs to be able to eat, people with mental health issues who need face to face treatment to avoid deteriorating, and the many many other people who are vulnerable to abuse and despair made worse by lockdown.

If your 'vulnerable' only includes one group of people, and the needs of those people are prioritised to the extent that it actually causes the death of other vulnerable people then you have to really ask do you actually care about vulnerable people? Or are do you have fatal tunnel-vision where fear has made you focus on one thing?

annabel85 · 07/10/2020 08:00

@NannyMcphee39

Totally agree with you OP.

Selfishness abounds. It’s tough when you’re following all the rules and you see selfish bastards throwing caution to the wind.

Sounds like a lot of people on this thread are also very selfish.

What gets me as well in my high risk area, with one of the highest infection rates, is people did stay at home in March and April when cases were relatively very low here. Then things opened up in June and July and fair enough cases were practically zero through that period.

Now though it's an epicentre - cases picked up in August with foreign holidays, eat out to help out and back to the office etc and then the schools and unis really kicked in the second wave - and you still get people just doing what they want. Did they comply in March and April because they had to (i.e. it was actually policed) or did they comply because they were weary of catching the virus? I think part of the issue now is people don't give a shit if they do get it, unless clinically vulnerable, because they just think it's a cold (regardless of who they pass it on to)

BikeTyson · 07/10/2020 08:01

This is true. If only people in the UK would FOLLOW THE RULES Covid could be defeated. Just a few months of pain could see the end of this. Close the pubs and restaurants, prioritise keeping schools and hospitals open, ban parties and weddings, increase mental health support, give financial help to people who have lost their jobs and fine people heavily for flouting the rules.

We did all of this. For months. (Apart from increasing mental health support, obviously, that doesn’t matter because it’s not covid.) Adherence to the first lockdown in Britain was really high. Much higher than the authorities expected. And yet, here we are again. People won’t do it again, because they know it doesn’t work in the longer term. And I’m inclined to agree - why should they ruin their lives for 6 months when the virus will just spread again once anything is eased a little? It’s not just Britain, we are not special. It’s France, Spain, Italy too.

annabel85 · 07/10/2020 08:32

why should they ruin their lives for 6 months when the virus will just spread again once anything is eased a little?

Because if everyone just does what they want then the NHS will not be able to cope over the winter.

It's true that full lockdowns aren't feasible and this is why the government are keeping things open (schools, shops, pubs, restaurants, universities, offices, factories etc) but are relying on the public to socially distance, keep to the rule of 6 and wear a mask if they can. If they do then although cases might still be high then the health service could cope.

caughtalightsneeze · 07/10/2020 08:41

People have not been allowed to care for vulnerable relatives in care homes

As evidenced on this thread, where just a few posts further up on this thread, someone mentions a care assistant having to sit with 44 different people whilst they died without their family around them. I very much doubt that those were the only 44 people in the UK that that happened to.

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