Grandparent drop offs rule of 6

[bunnyonthemantle]

My in-laws pick up and drop off my stepdaughter on a Tuesday. They usually come in for a while and sometimes have dinner with us. There are 5 of us in the household once dh comes back from work so with the in-laws that's 7. Dh is saying if they leave when he arrives that this is ok. I'm not sure. Im also having a baby soon so that would take us to 8. Do we need to stop grandparents from coming in? It seems a bit rude because they travel an hour to do this pick up and drop off for dh

Kids don't count in the 6 if you're in Scotland. Still a max of 2 households though

@Bridecilla

We've followed the rules but my parents do pick up 2 days a week and inlaws do 1 day. After school club isn't running. That's us mixing 3 households (different days but still)

We're sticking with the routine. What's the alternative? Not to go to work??

Well are there more than 6 of you together at a time? If not, that's fine.

[quote bunnyonthemantle]@NoSquirrels I'd love to but given I'm a Sahm
as of recently and dh has a demanding job I feel like I should be doing the tea and making sure the kids are out of uniforms etc. Also I like to keep an eye on my own dc in the blend with the step siblings[/quote]
But it’s The Rules so it’s not your fault... your DH wants to spend time with his parents, surely, so you’re only being a caring wife to allow him to

Or take your DC out for a bit of one-to-one and so in-laws can fuss over other DC?

Such a diff stance from MN when you replace the word child with grandparent. The way people have jumped down parents throats on this site when they question 1 extra child at a trampoline park or outside party- but with grandparents it’s fine....

Children living between two houses is for separated parents.

OP, all the more reason for you to have a 20 minute stroll for once! Tell your DH that's going to have to be the arrangement...

• the info I posted was just to confirm that children living over 2 households can make bubbles bigger than 6, but it wouldn't apply to grandparents etc.

Since they’ve already sat in a car or similar with DD I wouldn’t worry about them coming into your house. The whole thing is ridiculous.

My SIL and Bro have 6 kids so a family of 8, will they never be able to see one other person?!!! Being penalised for being a large family.

@OverTheRainbow88

Since they’ve already sat in a car or similar with DD I wouldn’t worry about them coming into your house. The whole thing is ridiculous.

My SIL and Bro have 6 kids so a family of 8, will they never be able to see one other person?!!! Being penalised for being a large family.

Thing is it may be ridiculous but it is now law, not just guidelines. So people breaking it will be breaking the law, and can be fined. Doesn’t matter if people think it’s stupid or not really.

@Wannabangbang I agree! You couldn't make it up 🤣

Yes, it's the law, but no decent police officer is going to fine you. They probably wouldn't even call out if it was reported to them.

Having the seven of you in the house is no greater risk than having six of you in and swapping over. Use your common sense.

@Wannabangbang

I wouldn't worry, no one to police this lunacy whilst you are indoors.

Complete barm pots this government telling us we can't meet in more than 6 but can go play football and prance about in the supermarkets and in gatherings of 30 at weddings and restaurants. Sometimes i wonder if I'm having some weird dream, can the rule of 6 really be real😂

The spread is through households mixing indoors with no social distancing. That's why the rules have changed.

The govt are guided by scientists and drs. It's not BoJo having a wild guess.
If ppl dont follow you will eventually have full lockdown in local areas.

@Racoonworld

Meh. I’m so over it.

We have a similar issue. I work two days a week with my husband, we drive in together and home together - on those two days we drop off and pick up the three children from my parents. So I guess we will be law breaking...

@minisoksmakehardwork

Dh seems to think the kids don't count in the 6. We have a similar problem as there are 6 of us to visit in-laws (numbering 2).

What we've said is we will have to split visits so one of us will take 2 children and then the other will take 2 if the kids do count. I'm not prepared to increase my in-laws risk factors as they were on the shielding list previously.

What did make me laugh though was 2 households numbering 8 cannot meet, but I can now meet 5 of my friends coming from 5 different households.

6 is easier to police.

Otherwise people will simply lie.

I’m absolutely horrified at the number of people who are blindly willing to comply with a law without challenging the reasonableness of it. How far does it go? Are you willing to comply with absolutely any law that the Governement passes?

Put a meal in the slow cooker in the morning and go out. Then they can see the children and your dh can come home and nobody needs to break and laws. And you get an evening to yourself.

The spread in Bolton is through pubs. That's why they are closed. I expect pubs in Bolton are different to other pubs

And yes ... 6 different households making 6 in total ... so much safer than 2 households of 6 people

OP is just carry on with what you’ve been doing.

Sorry I’d not is

Just carry on as you are , I really can't see the police paying you a visit for having one extra person in your house.

I would class it as 'providing support to a vulnerable person' on their (government) exemptions.

You are now heavily pregnant, and then you will have a newborn. The support they are providing is to help you go about looking after your children.

@Racoonworld Imagine if no one ever challenged unreasonable or unfair laws...I mean, apartheid would still be going strong in SA, the Nazi’s would still be exterminating Jewish people, people would still be executed in this country, women wouldn’t have the vote....I could go on and on...when do you get to the point when you feel it’s ok not to challenge? Personally, I feel very, very uncomfortable about a law which is so much harsher in one U.K. country (i.e. England) and has such a potential significant impact on family life, mental health and wellbeing.

[quote BunsyGirl]@Racoonworld Imagine if no one ever challenged unreasonable or unfair laws...I mean, apartheid would still be going strong in SA, the Nazi’s would still be exterminating Jewish people, people would still be executed in this country, women wouldn’t have the vote....I could go on and on...when do you get to the point when you feel it’s ok not to challenge? Personally, I feel very, very uncomfortable about a law which is so much harsher in one U.K. country (i.e. England) and has such a potential significant impact on family life, mental health and wellbeing.[/quote]
I hate the law too, I’d much rather everything was ended now and everyone was left to live with the virus. But this isn’t happening and if people continue to break the rules it will go on for so much longer and the government with impose and enforce stricter rules.

We have the same issue. My friend is a police officer and even they said not to worry about it!

@PremierInn

The spread in Bolton is through pubs. That's why they are closed. I expect pubs in Bolton are different to other pubs

And yes ... 6 different households making 6 in total ... so much safer than 2 households of 6 people

The incidence in Bolton never went down like it did most everywhere else. Even when the pubs were shut.