Grandparent drop offs rule of 6

[bunnyonthemantle]

My in-laws pick up and drop off my stepdaughter on a Tuesday. They usually come in for a while and sometimes have dinner with us. There are 5 of us in the household once dh comes back from work so with the in-laws that's 7. Dh is saying if they leave when he arrives that this is ok. I'm not sure. Im also having a baby soon so that would take us to 8. Do we need to stop grandparents from coming in? It seems a bit rude because they travel an hour to do this pick up and drop off for dh

What a fucking carry on.

Just go with what you think. It is ok.

I'm glad nicola has ruled under 12s dont count avoids all this shit.

Although I've not agreed with much she has conjured up recently.

Should you really care, you could go out for a walk or do the shopping when your dh gets home

@WellRiddleMeThis they haven't had the grandchildren all day. They just do school pick up

Good lord..are people really going to stick to this Morris dance of a life.
Seriously?
Don’t you think we’ve all suffered enough and call time on the bull shit.

Well school pick up then..... they could take them for tea afterwards and then the park.... then they will have spent time with them!

@SimpleComforts. The continued 'need' for support bubbles is 'human touch' single adults living alone, forming a bubble with another household means they get to have a hug as they are classed the same as 'one household).

We should still be Social Distancing with others outside of our household, the '6' rule doesn't change that.

@WellRiddleMeThis they're only picking up one of the kids. The other grandchildren are here already so they want to see them. It's a bit complicated

Could they take the children back to their house after pick up. Otherwise perhaps you could have afternoon tea and make husband come back a bit later. It’s difficult to have to pick and choose.

@ilovemyrednosedaymug

Thank you, I think OP would be be covered by first bullet point of exceptions.

There will be exceptions where groups can be larger than 6 people, including:

… where everyone lives together or is in the same support bubble, or to continue existing arrangements where children do not live in the same household as both their parents

Well you could try putting your foot down and saying no?

@bunnyonthemantle

My in-laws pick up and drop off my stepdaughter on a Tuesday. They usually come in for a while and sometimes have dinner with us. There are 5 of us in the household once dh comes back from work so with the in-laws that's 7. Dh is saying if they leave when he arrives that this is ok. I'm not sure. Im also having a baby soon so that would take us to 8. Do we need to stop grandparents from coming in? It seems a bit rude because they travel an hour to do this pick up and drop off for dh

I wouldn't worry about it in this situation & whilst your baby is very small I wouldn't be counting him/her. (Different if they go to any kind of childcare as very small babies really aren't an independent risk factor).

A bigger issue is how they are behaving when not with you (seeing lots of friends/shopping a lot)

Also their risk, not only picking DSD up & presumably having her in their car (They should all be wearing masks) & then seeing the other kids who have been in germ soup school.

They'd be better taking DC out for a walk to the park or something, than coming in the house (but obviously that's going to get less pleasant as the weeks go on)

I know it's nice to all have dinner together, but keep an eye on the cases where they live as well as where you live and keep reassessing the situation.

Best wishes with the arrival of the new little one 🌷What a lovely thing to have to look forward to!!

Honestly? This wouldn't bother me in the slightest and of course I'd continue to have them over if they were happy to be here (up to them in my opinion, if they are at the highest risk).

It's all bollox - I think it's fine I really wouldn't worry about your husband stepping outside

Also agree with what Dowser said!

@WellRiddleMeThis

Well you could try putting your foot down and saying no?

Yes that won't go down well. Idk whether I'm just hormonal and stressed, worrying about everything.

Here’s the official guidance from gov.uk. Still max 6 at any one time.

2.7 Can I look after my grandchildren?
Yes. People in groups of up to 6 can meet indoors or outdoors, which enables you to spend time with your grandchildren. We recognise that grandparents and other relatives often provide informal childcare for young children, and this can be very important. Although you should try to maintain social distance from people you do not live with wherever possible, it may not always be practicable to do so when providing care to a young child or infant. If this is this case - and where young children may struggle to keep social distance – you should still limit close contact as much as possible, and take other precautions such as washing hands and clothes regularly.

If you have formed a support bubble with your grandchildren’s household, which is allowed if either you or they live in a ‘single adult household’, then there can be close contact and social distancing is not necessary.

@fatgirlslimmer none of those exceptions apply to the OP.

Totally ridiculous

[quote Augustbreeze]@fatgirlslimmer none of those exceptions apply to the OP.

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I think the continue existing arrangements where children don't live in the same household would. It's down to interpretation I suppose and the government themselves have previously stretched interpretation of the rules further.

Well, OP, don’t you fancy a night out once a week? When your DH gets home, you can clock off and be the one to step outside for a bit! Go for a swim, or book a pregnancy yoga class or just head out for a coffee?

I’d not worry about it myself; leave it to DH to talk to his parents and decide the party line for the ex wife.

[quote bunnyonthemantle]@lifesalongsong we're in England. So once baby comes we can have one visitor only when all children are with us?
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No you can't have any visitors. Because there are 6 of you.

@NoSquirrels I'd love to but given I'm a Sahm
as of recently and dh has a demanding job I feel like I should be doing the tea and making sure the kids are out of uniforms etc. Also I like to keep an eye on my own dc in the blend with the step siblings

@NoSquirrels

Well, OP, don’t you fancy a night out once a week? When your DH gets home, you can clock off and be the one to step outside for a bit! Go for a swim, or book a pregnancy yoga class or just head out for a coffee?

I’d not worry about it myself; leave it to DH to talk to his parents and decide the party line for the ex wife.

This is the best plan. Even better, leave as soon as the ILs arrive and they could do cooking with all their grandchildren, so you come home to a wonderful dinner once they have left!!

Dh seems to think the kids don't count in the 6. We have a similar problem as there are 6 of us to visit in-laws (numbering 2).

What we've said is we will have to split visits so one of us will take 2 children and then the other will take 2 if the kids do count. I'm not prepared to increase my in-laws risk factors as they were on the shielding list previously.

What did make me laugh though was 2 households numbering 8 cannot meet, but I can now meet 5 of my friends coming from 5 different households.

We've followed the rules but my parents do pick up 2 days a week and inlaws do 1 day. After school club isn't running. That's us mixing 3 households (different days but still)

We're sticking with the routine. What's the alternative? Not to go to work??