Hi all for the last few years me and my ex have been co parenting my DS who is now 5. Things are not perfect but he does take him twice a week 6pm on an evening so I can go to work (sleeps overnight). Then he will drop him to school on a morning and then I will pick DS up after school and go and do my night shift again. My ex also has his Son once a month for the full weekend. He pays for his Son through CMS.
Here’s the problem when we were together me and my child’s dad he didn’t pull his weight and the relationship changed drastically after giving birth almost instantly. He did not move in with me (major red flag I know now), when I was on MAT leave he said it was my responsibility as I was the parent at home and it was my job role. He said he was paying my taxes so I could stay at home (not true I worked and still do that job role till this day). Fast forward I moved from my flat into a bigger house and my ex moved in with us. I returned back to work when my Ds was 13months old.... finicial abuse had started and he didn’t want to pay his way other than £200.00 a month. To cut a long story short I split up with him but feared that I wouldn’t be able to maintain my current job.
Today we have had a massive bust up and I’m at my wits end that he thinks he can dictate to me because he helps out with childcare so I can do my job. This is an ongoing problem and I am seriously considering giving my job up telling him to F**k right off and go on UC.
Single mums tell me is it doable???