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Is this now the new way of life?

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Wannaflyaway · 05/09/2020 00:42

Hi, I just wanted to ask those, who are a lot more knowledgeable than me, if, the way life is now, i.e. face masks in enclosed places, social distancing, the constant threat of local/national lockdowns, travel restrictions, quarantining, no theatres, no concerts, no mass gatherings etc. is really the new normal, not just temporarily, but for the long-term?. I think that it actually really is. I also feel that I'm now starting to come to terms with this new normal, which is what I thought I never would, but it isn't a nice feeling. It's a low-level depression and the feeling that I'm just existing, but not living, and that I have fuck-all to either plan for or to look forward to in the future.

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SnuggyBuggy · 08/09/2020 06:44

Many of us actually liked our pre covid lives just fine

derxa · 08/09/2020 06:57

I don't envy anyone with the job of getting a bunch of belligerent farmers to keep their masks on. Grin I know. Did you see the video of the sale of the record price Texel at Lanark? The farmer was struggling at the end. He had the old mask under the chin. Can't say I blame him. Kelso is cancelled this year and we have to take our tups to a tiny sale. It's a bit of a bugger because our shearlings are truly magnificent beasts. We'll just have to thole it as we say in Scotland.

Bollss · 08/09/2020 07:46

@eaglejulesk

Stop fucking judging what is an entirely natural reaction to your life being turned upside down and your support network being forcibly removed simultaneously.

And yet in real life so many millions are coping - it seems that a huge amount of MNers are lacking in resilience.

No, you think they're coping. You have NO idea what goes on behind closed doors. My colleagues would say I am coping just fine, because that's what I show at work. But at times I've really struggled.
Bollss · 08/09/2020 07:47

@eaglejulesk

You can have weddings. They are holding them here in the gardens - small ones though but intimate and lovely.

Sorry, you are wasting your time trying to offer hope. Some people would rather wallow in self-pity - this is MN after all!

No, she's not. We considered a tiny wedding for quite some time but unfortunately the rules in our reg office are so ott it wouldn't make for an enjoyable wedding. We will get married next year regardless though because we aren't prepared to wait any longer.
Pixel77 · 08/09/2020 07:50

the weddings here have seemed lovely, in the pretty gardens in the park, it is a little package, council doing it. Outside. Might not be as nice in the winter. We had a tiny wedding so i recommend them.

Bollss · 08/09/2020 07:58

@Pixel77

the weddings here have seemed lovely, in the pretty gardens in the park, it is a little package, council doing it. Outside. Might not be as nice in the winter. We had a tiny wedding so i recommend them.
I originally wanted to elope actually! Unfortunately the council won't do outside weddings and the reg office that holds 50 on a normal day were allowed 8 including the photographer and the guests have to be masked and the photographer can't stand up. Then we realised we'd struggle booking a meal anywhere that isn't a proper wedding venue because you can't meet family inside for a meal anywhere so restaurants wouldn't do it, even though weddings are allowed. The "proper venues" wanted closer to 30 than 8 to make it worth their while and tbh it just totally put me off. Weddings are supposed to be relaxed and enjoyable in my mind and this wouldn't have been. We could have got married in s different council area but I cba with the faff.
Pixel77 · 08/09/2020 08:24

Ah, that us a shame Genie, yes we eloped! It was just me and DH and two random witnesses office staff from the registry office!

We went there in Devon, then stayed at a lovely hotel which had a mini cinema, just the two of us. It was fab.

If you ever wanted to Bath is doing the weddings I mentioned, I keep seeing them as I pass by on my bastard walk Wink

www.bathnes.gov.uk/services/sport-leisure-and-parks/parks-opening-times-and-locations/civil-ceremonies-bnes-parks

www.theweddingsecret.co.uk/botanical-gardens-and-the-temple-of-minerva-wedding-venue-bath.html

SnuggyBuggy · 08/09/2020 08:51

Small weddings can be lovely but we already had the option to have a small wedding before covid.

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