Is there anyone early 30s who is like me?

[Lelophants]

Well late twenties/early thirties (I've just turned 30).

I'm still social distancing. I have a family 'bubble' who I'm close to and we let each other know what we've been up to, but no one else do we get close to. We have our click&collect and have popped into our local supermarket for very occasional items late at night when it's empty (I can count on one hand how many times this has happened). Apart from this, no shops, no restaurants (not even outside). It doesn't logically seem safe enough to me. I meet up with other mum friends in the park or a garden. I have to say I am social distancing before we do, because apparently that is not assumed anymore? Even those who are very nice about it, I feel like I'm being weird. All the babies crawl and touch each other. I initially kept my baby back (he's not crawling anyway) and felt like I got looks from one of the other mums. I then decided to let one of the babies play with mine as am worried about his lack of play with other babies (although he's only 9 months). Since this though I have felt guilty about it as I know children can spread things. I don't exactly think it enriched his life to take that risk! I have a science background and I listen to science and news programmes. I just feel torn.

DH is very busy wfh so hasn't really had to face whether he is different to others or not.

I sometimes feel like I'm mad for still being careful and not wanting to get this hideous virus or give it to my loved ones! But the truth is, for a million reasons I won't bother posting I DO NOT want to get the virus, so surely I need to keep doing what I'm doing?
Am I the only one my age like this? Do others not mind getting it?

Even those I think are the same I see hugging friends on social media and going on dinner dates etc.

Is it really just me?

I won't be putting ds in nursery once I return to work (from home) as family will have him, so I don't see any reason to get him more exposed. Some of the research is still really worrying to me.

Am I the only one my age like this? Do others not mind getting it?

Yes you are the only one doing it right and everyone else is doing it wrong hth

Yes you are the only one doing it right and everyone else is doing it wrong hth

Sorry but this did make me smile.

Just do what you think op. It's your life, make your own decisions based on your circumstances.

I do a fair bit, my DC are in nursery (have been since 1st June), I'm back in the office, I go to shops for things I need, I meet up with friends, I've been to the pub for lunch once.

I'm not unbothered about catching COVID but neither am I particularly concerned about it. I'm lowish risk and community rates are very low in my area (I keep an eye on them).

At the end of the day everyone has to find the level that they are comfortable with. It is what it is.

I don't think anybody really wants to get the virus however no you are clearly not the only person still being very cautious which im pretty sure you know yourself really.
As others have said if it's not causing you any harm do what you want until you feel safe.

But at the same time, as someone of a similar age, based on my experience you do seem more cautious than the majority of thirty year olds. Things like having a drink or coffee in an outside pub or cafe are proportionally extremely low risk so you do seem to be a bit over cautious to be so convinced you will catch xovid if you go to one. You say you are seeing all these photos of people out and about....well are they all still perfectly fine? If so why do you assume you will be more likely to get ill?

Again there's nothing wrong with what you're doing if you're happy - I just think a lot of people are taking advantage of the weather to do these things now while they can be done. Come October/November you won't be able to go to the beach or sit outside for a drink (which has a statistically much lower transmission rate) so if you don't start dipping your toe into some things now it might be a long old wait for you (and your baby) until next March....

I'm about to turn 30, not bothered about getting it. But that's me. It's personal to everyone.

@newyearnoeu because of course some of them might get it. We've still have over 40,000 deaths and I don't think many of them thought they were going to get it so I guess people have gone back to being naive?

It seems like is just me according to responses on me.

If I want to keep seeing my family I can't just go and have a drink with someone anyway as they wouldn't be happy.

why can't people meet outside without touching each other? Just find it so weird.

I'm 34. I have only been socialising with close family. I go to the supermarket. That's it really.

I'm pregnant, my DH works in security and public transport. So it's more about protecting other people from us than vice versa. I wouldn't hug my 85 yr old Nan but I'll go see her in the back garden.

If we've not had it already I'd be incredibly shocked. If we get it, cest la vie. And I don't mean that in a dismissive way to others opinions and feelings about it. It will just be one of those things that we will deal with if and when. It feels inevitable given my DHs job. I'm not going to worry about it.

My DC will be going back to school as long as school will have them.

[quote Lelophants]@newyearnoeu because of course some of them might get it. We've still have over 40,000 deaths and I don't think many of them thought they were going to get it so I guess people have gone back to being naive?

It seems like is just me according to responses on me.

If I want to keep seeing my family I can't just go and have a drink with someone anyway as they wouldn't be happy.[/quote]
40,000 deaths - but the vast majority of those people were old, and or sick and likely would've died of something else.

So no - people arent being naive by getting on with their lives, they are just assessing the risk and choosing that its 'safe' enough to go back to some normality. That their need for some normality outweighs their personal risk of a) catching covid in the first place and b) if they are unlucky enough to catch it, getting really sick or dying from it

I think everyone has to make their own decisions as to what they are/arent comfortable with. If you're not comfortable OP then stay as you are if you're happy with that life, but I think you're wrong to judge others for wanting more.

I'm mid-30s. I have been taking necessary precautions but we are at the point now where some activities, such as meeting people outdoors, are a very low risk. I haven't hugged anyone outside my household but my kids have gone to nursery, I have met friends in the park or gardens, I have eaten in restaurants. For me a life locked away is no life, I would rather take measured risks and have some enjoyment. There is a lot in-between never leaving your house and hugging random people in busy pubs - you have to strike a balance that you are comfortable with.

I'm late 30s with 2 DC. I'm a teacher, I have to go back to work in less than 2 weeks and be in several rooms with up to 12 children (age 11-19) with SEND and up to 3 other adults. My DC have to go back to school and nursery, we have no choice!

Therefore I don't really see the point of social distancing from the people I love and like 🤷🏼‍♀️ if they want to see us, then we will see them!!

Well there are quite a lot of statistics to show that the virus is low risk for anyone under 50 without serious health conditions. So if you're taking a lot of steps or worrying a lot about catching it yourself then it's out of proportion (IMHO). But generally we should be following guidelines, to prevent spreading it to other people if we were asymptomatic more than out of concern for catching it ourselves. I don't strictly social distance (and definitely don't make my children do it) but neither do I touch people who aren't in my family!

I have known people also in their thirties who have been off work very sick for 4 weeks. I literally wouldn't cope with that amount and illness with my baby. My baby has also had illness in the past so I wouldn't want to risk him. It's also not fair on my parents.

I’m sure it’s not just you, but others might not feel the need to come onto mumsnet and boast about how amazing they are for following a set of simple rules.

There are statistics of people having long-term health conditions too..

It just seems odd that the same people who were worried over lockdown now suddenly aren't. Basically people just got burn out and human psychology. The reason lockdown was so late in the first place. It doesn't mean it's suddenly all OK.
I just feel sad that more people my age aren't like that.

And I don't sit in my house all day. I go out to parks and will to the coast when it's not busy.

@RaspberryRuff yeah because that's clearly what I'm doing when I'm feeling down and alone with a baby 🙄

How is it naivety OP?

By now they know all about Covid, so it's an informed choice they are making isn't it, not naivety.

Of course no one wants to get it but we have to live a life whilst waiting for a vaccine which could be years away. I’m back in the office getting the Tube to work. DH is a doctor and has worked throughout. DT’s have finished Uni term but out with friends most of the time. We go supermarket shopping, have meals out and friends around to the house.

I'm a bit older than you, but I'm not doing anything outrageous in terms of SD- I've been out to eat but only with members of my household, got a bubble with close family, only see friends outside (although that's mainly them, not me, I don't mind).

I think it's harder for you as you have a little one and so issues of socialization/physical bonding are a bit different.

I don't want to get corona either, but I feel currently with rates very low, this is a good time to be out and about and meeting up with people before the autumn/schools/universities go back- I hope rates don't soar, but simply don't know.

I've just turned 30 too. I'm being cautious and risk-assessing things, but I am seeing people and going out to eat etc.

It just seems odd that the same people who were worried over lockdown now suddenly aren't.
You said that you've been watching the news and things - have you caught the coverage about the falling death and hospitalisation rates? There was a great article yesterday about how data has changed across Europe, and lethality has massively dropped since June.
I don't want to suggest that it's fine now, or that everyone who was going to die has done, or that those people would have died anyway... that's analysis well above my knowledge, and I'm not sure it could be accurately determined yet anyway. But I think the risks have changed since lockdown, and that's why behaviour has changed.

For most people, getting Coronavirus now is going to be 7/14 days of being inside, feeling various levels of unwell, or not being able to go on holiday... it's not equating to being hospitalised and potentially ventilated now.

But you have to live in the way you're happy with. For us, that's living, but keeping distance from people, I'm not really hugging anyone, we're socialising outdoors, we're only going to places that seem to be following guidelines and we're sanitising our hands a lot. We're cautious about what we do before we see fiancé's parents, as they are older. But we're not mostly staying in. We're both back at work, etc.

I am early 30s and has my 3rd baby in March. I was really worried earlier in the year but felt so lonely and was at real risk of post natal depression so I get out and about everyday now with the kids and baby. We see family (indoor and out) and friends outside. I go to outdoor baby groups. Go on days out - we have been to the zoo and forests etc. I've been out for lunch indoors once. I am still concerned but my kids go back to school soon and my partners been back to work since his furlough ended when our daughter was 10 days old so there is no point being a hermit and feeling so, so miserable and alone like I was

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At the end of this I'm sure the birthday honours list will be full of people as marvellous as you, OP!

I'd make the most of the good weather and meet your friends outdoors regularly. Once winter comes and you are back at work, you might regret how you isolated yourself this summer.