Is there anyone early 30s who is like me?

[Lelophants]

Well late twenties/early thirties (I've just turned 30).

I'm still social distancing. I have a family 'bubble' who I'm close to and we let each other know what we've been up to, but no one else do we get close to. We have our click&collect and have popped into our local supermarket for very occasional items late at night when it's empty (I can count on one hand how many times this has happened). Apart from this, no shops, no restaurants (not even outside). It doesn't logically seem safe enough to me. I meet up with other mum friends in the park or a garden. I have to say I am social distancing before we do, because apparently that is not assumed anymore? Even those who are very nice about it, I feel like I'm being weird. All the babies crawl and touch each other. I initially kept my baby back (he's not crawling anyway) and felt like I got looks from one of the other mums. I then decided to let one of the babies play with mine as am worried about his lack of play with other babies (although he's only 9 months). Since this though I have felt guilty about it as I know children can spread things. I don't exactly think it enriched his life to take that risk! I have a science background and I listen to science and news programmes. I just feel torn.

DH is very busy wfh so hasn't really had to face whether he is different to others or not.

I sometimes feel like I'm mad for still being careful and not wanting to get this hideous virus or give it to my loved ones! But the truth is, for a million reasons I won't bother posting I DO NOT want to get the virus, so surely I need to keep doing what I'm doing?
Am I the only one my age like this? Do others not mind getting it?

Even those I think are the same I see hugging friends on social media and going on dinner dates etc.

Is it really just me?

I understand OP and sorry you've had so many grumpy replies.

My baby is a similar age to you. We're not in the UK and tbh most people where I live are not meeting up. Maybe young people with no children or older people whose children have left home, but most people who have children under five espeically, are really not socialising.

Whether that is over the top or not, I don't know, but it has been controlled very well here and I think part of that is because many people have decided to sacrifice their social life for the sake of public health.

Ignore the people who say you're boasting, I think everyone is on edge and feeling defensive these days.

And children really don't need social interaction outside the family til they are around 3 years so don't worry about that.

@RaspberryRuff

I’m sure it’s not just you, but others might not feel the need to come onto mumsnet and boast about how amazing they are for following a set of simple rules.

OP, I don't think you're coming across as boasting. It sounds like lots of people in your social groups have abandoned social distancing, so you probably feel like you are the only one doing it! Everyone has their own personal risk level and reasons.

@DancingCatGif

I understand OP and sorry you've had so many grumpy replies.

My baby is a similar age to you. We're not in the UK and tbh most people where I live are not meeting up. Maybe young people with no children or older people whose children have left home, but most people who have children under five espeically, are really not socialising.

Whether that is over the top or not, I don't know, but it has been controlled very well here and I think part of that is because many people have decided to sacrifice their social life for the sake of public health.

Ignore the people who say you're boasting, I think everyone is on edge and feeling defensive these days.

Nope not defensive. I’m following the rules too, don’t feel the need to boast about it or seek validation though. It’s been the same since lockdown, people boasting about how much better they are following the rules than everyone else, it’s long become more tedious than the actual rules themselves

@RaspberryRuff then I suggest you skim by things which are bound to irritate you.

Why even give it headspace if you find it boastful or whatever?

The OP has a small baby. She is worried. Those of us who gave birth for the first time during or just before the pandemic are a little at sea, having no idea what is "normal". So instead of attacking, why not either try to understand or just ignore if you think it is so silly?

Yes it is good that you are isolating and what you do is right for you.

I don’t think you are boasting about how good you are but I do think you are not taking into account that everyone’s life is different to yours.

What would happen if you didn’t have your dh working and you had lost all your income?
You would have to go out to do a job to get some money in otherwise you wouldn’t be able to feed your baby and keep a roof over their heads

What if you couldn’t afford/get a supermarket delivery?

We haven’t had a supermarket delivery. We like a lot of people lost every bit of income so couldn’t afford it even if we could have got one.

What about those people who were suffering because of lockdown and need to get out and meet people just to keep their MH

You are fortunate to be able to continue to keep yourself in your little bubble and asking why other people aren’t doing the same is more about your inability to see that other people don’t live the same life as you do.

FWIW we think we all had this virus December/January time. I know if I got it again I probably wouldn’t survive as i feel I really strained my heart and lungs with all the coughing
We as a family need to work for some income. Given the type of work dc and Dp have been involved with they have to take a Covid test before starting any work.

We all need to see friends just to let off steam. We have been out to eat as a family and sat on SD tables and felt quite safe and it was a benefit to our MH.

We maintain SD to other people when we go out and wear our masks. Our friends have been doing the same so really the chances of catching this thing is really quite low.

You might be happy with your life but you can’t believe that everyone has the same life as you.

I am sorry OP. I shouldn’t have said anything. I hope you and your baby are OK and for all of us that this eases up soon.

Your also lucky,your dh is work from home and you are home , many people have had to return to work so can't stay at home so much and have to work and many have had to work throughout so i think if thats the case you often have a different perspective