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What a terrible day

142 replies

TotallyHadEnoughNow · 31/07/2020 19:44

I've tried to remain positive but today is it for me. Just awful. Why did I bring a child into this shitty world? According to WHO, the effects of this pandemic will be felt for decades to come. I can't begin to describe how sad I am.

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OhCaptain · 31/07/2020 19:46

Felt for decades how?! I haven’t seen this.

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TotallyHadEnoughNow · 31/07/2020 19:48

Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, head of the WHO warned the effects of the pandemic would be felt for decades to come.

BBC News onlineSad

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OhCaptain · 31/07/2020 19:52

What effects though? Economically, medically, mentally? How?

Llamapolice · 31/07/2020 19:53

OP I'm really struggling today too. My family Inc my parents are in greater Manchester and I was going to see them next week for the first time in 6 months, I'm absolutely gutted. I'm sure you'll get lots of comments telling you how much worse you could have it but I feel you, it's been a bleak day. Nothing to do but hang in there.

Jellybean100 · 31/07/2020 19:55

@OhCaptain

What effects though? Economically, medically, mentally? How?
Probably all of the above
JayAlfredPrufrock · 31/07/2020 19:57

We all need to crack on then and cope.

And we ain’t seen nothing yet.

When those poles reverse you’ll be longing for something as simple as a pandemic.

NothingIsWrong · 31/07/2020 19:58

Yup. Same here. I would be very glad to not wake up tomorrow

Orchidflower1 · 31/07/2020 19:59

It’s a sad situation but I think I’m feeling increasingly angry and the people who are not social distancing and thereby prolonging this phase.
Looks at all the gits on the beaches today.

Namechanger20183110 · 31/07/2020 20:00

Tedros says a lot of things. I would take what he says with a huge pinch of salt. I feel sad too but largely because of the steps back that it seems to have taken today, and also because I'm anxious and scared of rising racial tensions. I'm BAME, not Muslim, but some of the commentary out there is awful, it's hard not to be upset by it

The way I reassure myself is that if the world could recover pretty quickly from the Spanish flu (Roaring 20s anyone?) then I'm sure we can, with all of our advancements in every walk of life compared to 100 years ago We just need to hang in there

SleepingStandingUp · 31/07/2020 20:00

@JayAlfredPrufrock

We all need to crack on then and cope.

And we ain’t seen nothing yet.

When those poles reverse you’ll be longing for something as simple as a pandemic.

Well aren't you helpful
SummerHouse · 31/07/2020 20:02

Something I learned very early in this. Can you do today? If today is doable, you can get through it, children fed and everyone ok, then that's all you need to do for now. Today.

YgritteSnow · 31/07/2020 20:02

I do think many are being unrealistic about the long term outcomes tbh. We are only six months in yet people seem to be expecting us to be Back To Normal. The whole world shut down, it's going to take a while to recover from that and it's not even as if we are free and clear of the virus. We are all going to have to adjust and accept things are going to look different for a long time, years even. I'm no doom and gloomer, have just today booked a load of London museum visits and am trying to give my kids some kind of decent summer holiday but it's clear to me that we aren't just going to reset back to where we were. I think if we accept that we might be able to manage better with regards to mental health etc.

I feel like many of us, especially here on MN, are stuck in the shock and denial grief stage of this situation. Others are at the anger stage and still others at depression. It's all perfectly normal and that's why I don't give anyone a hard time for their views on it. We all process things at different rates.

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 20:03

When those poles reverse you’ll be longing for something as simple as a pandemic.

That raised a wan smile. Thank you.

ilovecherries · 31/07/2020 20:06

I won’t pretend I’m not sad and worried and we are shielding a young adult dd who has fought and overcome so many health issues in her life that I’m gutted it’s come to this. However feeling the impact for decades to come is a broad phrase with little meaning really. My grandma who died at 90 felt the impact of the 1918 pandemic all her life as she lost her dad and her baby brother to it and her mum never really recovered. But it was was a personal loss and she had a happy and fulfilled life. It doesn’t necessarily mean we’ll be living in an apocalyptic scenario.

SleepingStandingUp · 31/07/2020 20:06

I get you OPM. My twins were born Dec, they only really know being cooped up at home. That isn't particularly a life of choose for anyone. Ds is 5 so big enough to remember having a fun life, too young to really get it. Would it have been better to have had them younger so they'd be old enough to understand, or have them later when it might be over bit then I might never had had then at all...or is it better they'll never know/ soon forget how rich life used to be?

TwentyViginti · 31/07/2020 20:20

@YgritteSnow

I do think many are being unrealistic about the long term outcomes tbh. We are only six months in yet people seem to be expecting us to be Back To Normal. The whole world shut down, it's going to take a while to recover from that and it's not even as if we are free and clear of the virus. We are all going to have to adjust and accept things are going to look different for a long time, years even. I'm no doom and gloomer, have just today booked a load of London museum visits and am trying to give my kids some kind of decent summer holiday but it's clear to me that we aren't just going to reset back to where we were. I think if we accept that we might be able to manage better with regards to mental health etc.

I feel like many of us, especially here on MN, are stuck in the shock and denial grief stage of this situation. Others are at the anger stage and still others at depression. It's all perfectly normal and that's why I don't give anyone a hard time for their views on it. We all process things at different rates.

Excellent post.
SomeWateryTart · 31/07/2020 20:28

I agree, that was an excellent post by @YgritteSnow.

I definitely understand your post op and I have to admit, I have been feeling it lately. I think my dcs will be ok, and we will all adjust, but it is just such a huge upheaval. I am very sad to hear that infection rates seem to be rising again. My dc is booked in to some classes this summer, which have been allowed to run. If they're cancelled, we'll cope, but it is very saddening. The whole thing is just horrendous.

There is a lovely video I will try and find for you. It made me cry and was about babies born in a pandemic.

SomeWateryTart · 31/07/2020 20:30

Ugh sorry, it doesn't show the actual video - it is a video about the video! Will keep looking Flowers

SomeWateryTart · 31/07/2020 20:33

Hopefully that one works^^

HeronLanyon · 31/07/2020 20:33

ygritte great way of looking at it. Recently lost both parents and this is so true of this shitshow too !! I think I had just got to anger about my dad when my mum went and was still in shock/depression when this happened !!
Bloody hell - messy.
I also keep hold of campers of huge human forebearance dealing with things which had decades of effect. Ww2 here in U.K. and example. People are generally at their best when challenged. Hoping once I’m through shock and denial I’ll pull myself together better.

HeronLanyon · 31/07/2020 20:34

Examples not campers ffs

Beebityboo · 31/07/2020 20:36

I completely sympathise OP. I feel actually bereft today. My 5yo DD might never get a proper childhood, at least not the one I wanted for her. My two eldest are starting to get withdrawn. I also feel so much guilt for being 'vulnerable'. I feel like if I wasn't around my DC's and DH wouldn't have to be so overly cautious and things would be better for them. Awful day Sad

SomeWateryTart · 31/07/2020 20:36

@HeronLanyon

ygritte great way of looking at it. Recently lost both parents and this is so true of this shitshow too !! I think I had just got to anger about my dad when my mum went and was still in shock/depression when this happened !! Bloody hell - messy. I also keep hold of campers of huge human forebearance dealing with things which had decades of effect. Ww2 here in U.K. and example. People are generally at their best when challenged. Hoping once I’m through shock and denial I’ll pull myself together better.
So sorry to hear this Flowers.
eeeyoresmiles · 31/07/2020 20:41

@YgritteSnow

I do think many are being unrealistic about the long term outcomes tbh. We are only six months in yet people seem to be expecting us to be Back To Normal. The whole world shut down, it's going to take a while to recover from that and it's not even as if we are free and clear of the virus. We are all going to have to adjust and accept things are going to look different for a long time, years even. I'm no doom and gloomer, have just today booked a load of London museum visits and am trying to give my kids some kind of decent summer holiday but it's clear to me that we aren't just going to reset back to where we were. I think if we accept that we might be able to manage better with regards to mental health etc.

I feel like many of us, especially here on MN, are stuck in the shock and denial grief stage of this situation. Others are at the anger stage and still others at depression. It's all perfectly normal and that's why I don't give anyone a hard time for their views on it. We all process things at different rates.

This is so true.