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I hate this

98 replies

frozendaisy · 05/07/2020 16:42

Oh god I hate this, just need to vent I know there are no answers that aren't already reported. But this is rubbish.

And we are a more "lucky" household if you can call this that.

Since lockdown I have two amazing, yet confused and at times sad children (11&9), I became sad and paranoid which hasn't happened in a long, long time, grandparent has operation delayed. And now close ones are being made redundant.

There's just no escape in life is there? The Mr used to have a couple of pints on Friday on way home from work, trivial perhaps, but it kept him sane, we visited people and jumped on trains and went swimming and schools had trips and playtime.

Would take a vaccine, any vaccine in a heartbeat.

Hate this.

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 05/07/2020 16:46

Yeah, it's shit.

justinhawkinsnavalfluff · 05/07/2020 16:47

I know exactly how you feel spent most of the weekend crying. Just want this whole virus thing to go away.

Orangeblossom78 · 05/07/2020 16:52

Well, he can go for a pint if he wants to, schools are re-openign and will have playtimes. You seem to be over exaggerating a little

A few weeks ago i would have agreed with you

and yes the rest is shit

Spinakker · 05/07/2020 17:19

Most of those things you mentioned are possible now. Pubs have reopened ? I know it's awful when the kids are sad but there's alot of stuff reopening now. We just need to make the best of it and think optimistically that things will go back to normal x

trinity0097 · 05/07/2020 17:22

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19
, reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.

RaiseTheVibe · 05/07/2020 17:22

Yes I've had enough of it now.

DH and I have decided that from yesterday we are going to live our lives as close to the old 'normal' as possible and accept the risks of doing that. We went out for dinner last night and have made some nice plans for this week as we are both off work.

Keepwarminthisroom · 05/07/2020 17:24

The long term worries are very real but you can do a heck of a lot more now than a couple of months ago

Bollss · 05/07/2020 17:26

@trinity0097

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19 , reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.
Do you really think this is the right thread to post that?
Borgmann · 05/07/2020 17:27

I agree. It's worse than proper lockdown in March/April. There is no joy of spontaneity in anything. I'm not bothered in the least about catching covid, it's the social distancing stress, queuing and seeing terrified old people with masks on in the supermarket that upsets me.

Atadaddicted · 05/07/2020 17:29

It’s not great
But it does seem a bit extreme your end insofar as I have a 10 and 7 year old - and we have explored every woodland, forest, park in our vicinity and that’s been brill.

We are now seeing now.

And I’ve had some lovely socially distanced drinks in neighbours and a friend’s garden.

And my children seem pretty unfazed!

Helpmyhair2019 · 05/07/2020 17:30

I agree with you OP. The thing I find hardest is people who say ‘well you can go to the pub or shops now’. Yes you can but it’s far from pleasant! Tried to buy a new toaster today from curries rather than amazon as felt I should support shops. Was stopped at The door in an aggressive way and told to use their hand gel (fine but I’d already put my own on as coming in), was asked what I wanted to buy and told I had to wait in a holding area for 20 mins before I could enter shop. I came home and ordered it off amazon. So yes, the shops are open but it’s not the way I want to shop. Pubs are open but I don’t want to wear masks, sit behind plastic screens etc so I will not be going. I wish I didn’t feel this way but it do. As for saying this is the ‘new normal’ - normal isn’t new hence why it’s the norm. Anyway, rant over. But I totally get where you are coming from op x

justanotherneighinparadise · 05/07/2020 17:30

I can’t fucking stand this new normal. I have had some desperately unhappy times in my life. Been mentally unwell, lost my jobs and friends due to ill health, had multiple miscarriages and had to terminate a chromosomally abnormal much wanted child in the second trimester yet this period of my life has to go down as the worst. Im desperately, desperately unhappy.

Atadaddicted · 05/07/2020 17:30

It really seems that most posters who comments about how paranoid and anxious they feel - comment that their children feel the same.

It’s no coincidence I suspect. Children feed off their parents.

crosser62 · 05/07/2020 17:35

Yes it’s rubbish.
We are ok though.
I just look ahead to a year from now, I think of it as a chink of hope. Looking forward to this time next year.

LaurieFairyCake · 05/07/2020 17:37

We went to the pub for lunch today and the first ten minutes were proper weird as fuck - staff all stood away from us, getting us to download the check in app and then ordering from them.

After that it was GREAT! Super chilled. When we left through the differently signposted door - one way in, one way out we felt much better.

It was so nice to eat food out. It was quiet and easy. The town was busier but a lot of fear has gone now we know you're at very little risk walking briskly past people - people were smiling and distancing correctly.

I'm so glad I went out, I was feeling proper shit about all this a few days ago.

rosie1959 · 05/07/2020 17:46

It’s rubbish but we have no choice we just have to keep moving forward
My husband has gone for his first pint in the next village have a large garden so expect he will enjoy it
As for shopping haven’t even bothered I am getting quite good at click send
Have booked a UK hotel for August we never go abroad so no different just had to cancel our Jersey holiday due next week which is a bit of a shit but will return next year
No point sitting about worrying about it life just goes on

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 17:48

It’s a pile of fucking shite

I am teetering on the brink of depression.

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 17:49

And as for going to shops etc - I have no job any more as a result of all this crap. No idea when I will get one. So not really in a position to go out buying stuff to cheer myself up.

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 17:51

I just look ahead to a year from now, I think of it as a chink of hope. Looking forward to this time next year.

Yes I have been trying to do this today. Browsing nice holidays we could go on if I get a decent enough job. Of course no doubt someone else will be along to tell us we will be in the eleventy billionth wave and still locked down.

Deelish75 · 05/07/2020 17:57

My dc are in the yr groups who have gone back to school, so they’ve gone back, it’s only part time but it felt like normality was starting to return.
Sunday mornings we’d do something, swimming, soft play or big playground in the park. We still can’t do the first two but we did the playground this morning - it was so nice.
I think (hoping) the swimming pools are opening later this month, which will make the summer holidays easier.
My main form of exercise is swimming and I have really missed it. (I have a knee problem and Drs orders not to take up running) I’m starting to get VERY frustrated with the government over it.
I’m going to Bluewater on Tuesday, first time I’ll have been non essential shopping (only been into one shop to buy Father’s Day cards).
Starting to think about seeing family again which I didn’t think would be possible this year - they live quite a distance.
I do feel as though things are getting better. I don’t know if we are coming to the end of this storm or if we in the lull but I’m going to try to enjoy the summer as much as I can whilst trying to keep me and mine safe.

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 05/07/2020 17:58

I am feeling very low too. I have a sore throat and no other symptoms, well it's only just a niggle. I started back to WFH last week and have to go in tomorrow, using public transport. I am dreading it, as have not been out of this town since March. I'm just feeling sad and alone, and it's a horrible feeling of dread. I have other stresses going on with my kids (grown up), live alone and keep trying to snap out of it by going for walks etc.

Fishfingersandwichplease · 05/07/2020 18:13

I am usually a glass is half full type of a person so went to some shops the other day to support the local economy. Not their fault l know but my God l felt like l was trespassing around the place and l couldn't get out quick enough. Couldn't try stuff on anyway so would have to return for a refund - love a mooch about the shops usually but am afraid l will be doing it online for the foreseeable because it is much less hassle. OP it is absolutely shit and you are totally justified feeling like this. We all have good days and bad days just hope it doesn't go on for ages.

Tartan333 · 05/07/2020 18:40

Sorry you feel like this OP but I agree, it's shit, awful. I just need it all to go away.

That's a very disheartening post about the vaccine trinity Sad

AgentCooper · 05/07/2020 18:53

I hear you OP. This feels like having PND all over again for me, and that’s probably not too inaccurate as I’m sure my hormones are going mad as I’m breastfeeding lots more than I was before lockdown and having periods. My PMS is off the scale and lasted throughout June. My period is due again within days and I’m feeling low, nauseous, achy all over and I’m spotty.

I had blood tests done by the GP but all came back normal (though I’ve requested a copy in case anything’s NHS normal ie actually quite low). I just want to go back to work and for my house to be somewhere I come home to after a long day again, to read on the bus, go to the gym, wear nice clothes. I want to look forward to planning days with my toddler, not wake up thinking here we go again.

GoldenOmber · 05/07/2020 18:55

@trinity0097

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19 , reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.
Hmm Well you can reassure her/him that immunity is a bit more complicated than that, vaccine-induced immunity doesn’t have to match the immunity you get from catching something naturally, and that the worst-case scenario there is yearly vaccines like we already do for flu.