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I hate this

98 replies

frozendaisy · 05/07/2020 16:42

Oh god I hate this, just need to vent I know there are no answers that aren't already reported. But this is rubbish.

And we are a more "lucky" household if you can call this that.

Since lockdown I have two amazing, yet confused and at times sad children (11&9), I became sad and paranoid which hasn't happened in a long, long time, grandparent has operation delayed. And now close ones are being made redundant.

There's just no escape in life is there? The Mr used to have a couple of pints on Friday on way home from work, trivial perhaps, but it kept him sane, we visited people and jumped on trains and went swimming and schools had trips and playtime.

Would take a vaccine, any vaccine in a heartbeat.

Hate this.

OP posts:
HopeClearwater · 05/07/2020 18:56

@Atadaddicted said:
It really seems that most posters who comments about how paranoid and anxious they feel - comment that their children feel the same.

It’s no coincidence I suspect. Children feed off their parents

From my experience at primary school with the year groups which have returned, I would say there is a great deal of truth in this.

Orangeblossom78 · 05/07/2020 19:06

My Dc are fine but I have always explained we are just staying in to help the old people. and we never watch the news

children are not a place to project your anxieties on to

cafes and pubs can be ok once you get used to it, the parks, museums and library is opening too, living in a top flat this is great for us.

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 19:07

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19
, reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.

I doubt the parent at school knows any more then the scientists racing to develop a vaccine who seem fairly confident of success. I’d take that with a pinch of salt.

SunbathingDragon · 05/07/2020 19:09

@trinity0097

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19 , reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.
Still no evidence of that. A colleague had it early March and was tested last weekend and still has antibodies.
peaceandgin · 05/07/2020 19:14

Ageeed. Currently going through a full on breakdown mainly caused by ill health, lockdown and worries about the recession.

On top of all that we have a house to sell in a few months and I reckon we’ll lose money on it Sad

Usually in August I start getting excited about Christmas. Now I’m dreading it.

On a good day I think “yeah we’re ok! And money is only money. 2021 will be awesome”

But that’s a rarity Blush

labyrinthloafer · 05/07/2020 19:18

I hear you OP.

We can do more, but none of it is like it was and actually my three favourite things are not yet possible, swimming, theatre, train to local city.

I used to like a browse at the deli etc but the whole queue/gel stress has taken that away.

I am very bored and also feel like the school plans are total bullshit, which means i'm more grumpy looking forwards.

I have done some decent outdoors stuff and the garden looks better.

But boring!

labyrinthloafer · 05/07/2020 19:20

I also usually get excited for Christmas in August, this year I said to DH 'we'd better start shopping because it'll be a nightmare' which kind of sums up how positive I am Sad

Ori37 · 05/07/2020 19:23

The reality people need to get their heads around is there isn’t going to be a return to what was. There will be a new normal. It’s not going to be the same. This has fundamentally changed everything, including the models of how we work, how we socialise & everything in between. It’s about adapting to a new norm, & altering our expectations of what ‘normal’ is.

That doesn’t mean you have to live a miserable existence. You just need to work out what this new world is & operate to your best advantage within it.

ktp100 · 05/07/2020 19:26

I'm in the opposite camp of having absolutely loved lockdown, am perfectly happy at home, as are the kids, not missing anything and utterly shitting myself about having to rejoin society.

This too is shit.

Northernsoullover · 05/07/2020 19:28

@trinity0097 Don't sugar the pill now! Confused

labyrinthloafer · 05/07/2020 19:29

Yes I know, but there's a lot of 'you need to do this' 'you've got to adapt'... I will, I already am, but a bit of time just letting things sink in is needed by me.

Everyone is different and I guess like grief it will be different for different people.

Nanalisa60 · 05/07/2020 19:33

Yes it’s shit, the whole world had its Highest rate of new cases yesterday. It just feels like ground hog day every day. I hate it .

BumbleWumble · 05/07/2020 19:34

@trinity0097

A parent at school, who is at the frontline of testing etc for Covid-19 , reckons that a hope of a vaccine might be short lived as antibodies seem to wane after a couple of months in people who have had it.
Oh great...
Nanalisa60 · 05/07/2020 19:36

And if another person say the “new normal” again to me I might just f**king explode

Tartan333 · 05/07/2020 19:36

I hate the phrase "new normal" It's far from normal, I want this to be relatively temporary and new normal makes it sound permanent

AdultFishcakes · 05/07/2020 19:38

I get you OP... so he’s the pubs are open now but it’s not the same; on a Friday I’m sure your DH could have just wandered down the road and met his chums at the Dog and Duck or something, have a few jars, a laugh and wander home.

Now he’s likely to have to queue or precook, half the regulars will be too shit scared to come in lest they catch it plus several folk will have half their faces obscured and every social interaction you wish to have will need to be risk assessed in his head first in case by giving Dave a shoulder squeeze that means Dave and his wife are now shitting themselves for a fortnight they have COVID19.

I’m with you OP: I want the old normal back. And it will get there, I have to believe it. But a lot longer than we hoped for.

AdultFishcakes · 05/07/2020 19:39

*yes

*prebook

(no I’ve not had a pint)

Tartan333 · 05/07/2020 19:41

#Nanalisa I agree!!!

SunflowerProsecco · 05/07/2020 19:42

Unfortunately it's necessary OP. Sorry to hear you are finding it hard. Try and find small pleasures in life and focus on them.

ScarlettDarling · 05/07/2020 19:45

Op, we're through the worst. You've come this far and you can keep on going. Things are on the up and when your dc get back to school and see their friends regularly I'm sure they'll feel much better for it.

Trinity0097 your friend sounds like a real ray of sunshine! Immunity might not be long lasting. It isn't long lasting for flu and so people get a flu jab every year.

This isn't the new normal, it's temporary. This will pass. We've been through many epidemics/ pandemics before and things always return to normal. Covid is awful but it's not Ebola. Just hang in there Flowers

Cam77 · 05/07/2020 19:47

My advice would be to go and get into some outdoor exercise. Even if you have to do it separately, to fit around the kids. Even just longish brisk walks. You can’t go “out out” but you still need to go “out”. That’s what we have started doing.

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 19:47

The reality people need to get their heads around is there isn’t going to be a return to what was.

Yes there will. Normal life has resumed after every other pandemic. The life that had been built was done on what people want. People aren’t going to accept this miserable existence without the things they enjoyed indefinitely, virus or no virus.

FizzFan · 05/07/2020 19:49

I also don’t believe it’s all “necessary” either. I’d put money when this is all done and dusted on lockdown having actually done very little to minimise overall deaths, especially when deaths due to other non Covid factors that might not have happened are taken into account

formerbabe · 05/07/2020 19:50

It's awful. I could cry when I wake up every morning at the thought of another day trying to make everything fun and jolly for my dc, with no break from the endless cleaning and cooking

peaceandgin · 05/07/2020 19:52

I can’t wait for it all to be a distant memory Smile

I was so poorly last year. In & out of hospital constantly. I deemed it the worst year I ever had but looking back - 2019 was amazing compared to 2020 Flowers