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Am I being over the top?

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AlwaysWithTheCherries · 16/06/2020 17:08

MIL has invited us over on Sunday. I accepted, said as long as the weather is nice then that would be lovely. She asked if we'd like a roast. I thanked her but said not to worry, we wanted to see her not have her in the kitchen cooking while we're outside. Well, you'll be in the kitchen with me, she says. No, I won't, I say. She asks why, I tell her because the rules are that you can meet in gardens but not inside houses. She then goes in to a rant about how over the top I'm being, I'm keeping her grandkids from her, she'll speak to DH and she's sure he'll agree.

I'm just getting really sick of this. I've followed the rules completely the whole time and I'm planning to continue following them because it's what I believe is the best thing for my family and our situation. There are medical issues which make this even more important to me. Both sides of our extended families have broken the rules in one way or another and that's absolutely their own choice. But I'm now being made to feel like I'm being ridiculous for refusing to do the same. Am I?

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Chesneyhawkes1 · 17/06/2020 11:22

I'd go and go in the house. But if you don't want to, you shouldn't.

banjaxxed · 17/06/2020 11:29

I wouldn't do it. I agree with others that yes the risk is small and some on here have broken 'the rules'

The individual risk is small. But what if MIL then invites the BIL and his family who have also been going to Tesco etc and maybe work and they have also been to HiS in laws who have also had their other offspring over.

As an individual event, the risk is low, but effectively if everyone did this with the 'I'm alright jack' attitude everyone would be mixing households and infection rates would increase. Spending 2 hours with your in-laws indoors in close proximity is not the same as going to Primark and being 2 metres from strangers for about 5 seconds each.

I want us out of this and my kids back at school with no social distancing in September.

I think the risk is dropping and if we keep on rule following just a few more weeks, the risk will drop and drop for everyone

pinktaxi · 17/06/2020 12:12

I'd consider asking DH to cancel it regardless. May make the MIL think twice before being an arse to you again!

userxx · 17/06/2020 13:11

Boris will probably send you a badge of appreciation. There might even be a clap for you this Thursday.

:)

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