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Anyone else just fed up?!

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Ginandbitterlemonplease · 07/06/2020 23:04

Sorry I know there has been a million other posts like this, but I’m really struggling tonight and just needed somewhere to vent!

I’m actually dreading waking up in the morning to another full day of working from home with just me and my 4 year old. I’m actually trying to stay awake late tonight just so I get a bit me time.

My little boy is getting far too much screen time, and the guilt is overwhelming but even he has lost his motivation to do anything! I feel bad that I can’t play with him for most of the day and his new best friend is the tv or tablet 😭
Home schooling has went straight out the window, he is just refusing and I haven’t got the energy to battle anymore.
I’m sick of fucking cooking, washing up, even eating and the weight I’ve put on. Jesus!!! Yet I’m still eating a friggen cheese cake whilst moaning about how much I’m eating.

Everyone I know seems to be coping so well and tonight I just feel like a bit fat failure.

Sorry for such a negative post, I just needed someone to tell me they feel exactly the same and I’m not losing my mind! The thought of tomorrow just fills me with dread. Eurgh!

OP posts:

Deblou43 · 07/06/2020 23:12

I feel
Exactly the same I broke on Thursday and cried but I know so many people feeling the same you are not alone x

TheMurk · 07/06/2020 23:17

I am the same, dreading the week ahead.

HairyFloppins · 07/06/2020 23:20

I think most people feel the same at the moment.

Littlemiss74 · 07/06/2020 23:20

Yes feel the same. Bored of the repetitiveness and not being able to have any alone time in this madhouse. Am also eating crap and my clothes are tight so I feel horrible but I can’t seem to muster any motivation to do anything about it.

I just find it hard not knowing how long things will be this way for. My dd is so sad at missing school and I want to see my lovely Dad who is shut away with dementia in a home and hasn’t seen anyone of his family for 10 weeks. I worry that he won’t ever know who I am again now.

Dottydoodoo · 07/06/2020 23:20

You are not losing your mind, not at all. I feel exactly the same, in fact I could have written your post! I am constantly knackered because I stay up stupidly late to just have a bit of me time when my four year old is in bed, and if it’s not that I’m staying up stupidly late because I can’t bear to wake up and have to do it all again in the morning. DH doesn’t understand why I’m feeling so frazzled because I get two days away from the house each week (while I work as a nurse on a busy surgical ward)
Grrrrrrrrrrrr! I have had positive days in amongst my fed up days and I will snap out of it soon enough but I am finding it all quite difficult. But no you are definitely not alone

listsandbudgets · 07/06/2020 23:27

Are you me? DS is 7 and I feel the same.

Can you forget lessons tomorrow, make a picnic, have a walk and maybe take a ball and a bottle of bubbles ?

If you feel the need for lessons do a nature hunt along the way.. make a list of things and give him a penny for each he finds.. pink flower, tall grass, worm, bee, butterfly, slug, snail etc.

Then go home, heat up a pizza for tea relax. Tou may both feel better for a few hours outside

listsandbudgets · 07/06/2020 23:28

PS Yes I hear you.. its utterly relentless and depressing

listsandbudgets · 07/06/2020 23:30

^ sorry just spotted you're working from home.. well that's just rubbish. At least I'm only part time

Babyroobs · 07/06/2020 23:30

Yes I feel the same although normally I don't really do much or go out much but now it just seems to be the absolute same routine every day, even the same dog walk so DH can avoid seeing anybody( shielding). I'm sick to death of hearing my teenage boys shouting at their Xboxes until the early hours but don't really have the heart to stop them as it's the only interaction they are getting with friends. Everyone I know seems to be bike riding/ running/ crafting/ zooming with family groups having quiz nights etc. WFh is a challenge, even my colleagues little faces popping up on the group chat thing that work uses are irritating, people are getting little done working from home and some just taking the piss ( no young children at home, just not doing much work).

ChippityDoDa · 07/06/2020 23:31

Are you me? Except I have two kids 😩. It’s really hard now isn’t it. You’re not alone. Plan some stuff - I know it’s “breaking the rules” but have a play fate in the garden or at a park. If a load of bloody idiots can have a protest/riot you can have a play date.

EnlightenedOwl · 07/06/2020 23:32

@Ginandbitterlemonplease

Sorry I know there has been a million other posts like this, but I’m really struggling tonight and just needed somewhere to vent!

I’m actually dreading waking up in the morning to another full day of working from home with just me and my 4 year old. I’m actually trying to stay awake late tonight just so I get a bit me time.

Everyone I know seems to be coping so well and tonight I just feel like a bit fat failure.

Sorry for such a negative post, I just needed someone to tell me they feel exactly the same and I’m not losing my mind! The thought of tomorrow just fills me with dread. Eurgh!

Feel exactly the same x

trappedsincesundaymorn · 08/06/2020 07:38

I'm beyond fed up. Now starting week 12 of furlough. The boredom and endless days of nothingness are crushing.

Drivingdownthe101 · 08/06/2020 07:43

Yep. At least my oldest is back at school, but I still have my reception aged DD and my 17 month old to deal with, plus working from home. It’s shit.

TheMurk · 08/06/2020 07:47

Up at 6am this morning, the days are so long.

Three hours to fill before it’s even 9am, and then what? More empty hours until it’s time for a walk which is max 1.5 hours as that’s all the toddler has in them.

Then back into the house for more hours.

It’s not good for any of us.

woodlands01 · 08/06/2020 07:50

Big Fat Yes here and I've got older teens - at least I'm not home schooling but my god are they miserable ................

Had a meltdown at Tesco yesterday as I went later than normal so had to queue in AND out. Bloody woman pushed in between me and ANO queuing - at least I was sensible to keep my mouth shut as pleasantries would not have come out.

Off to secondary school this morning to supervise key worker and vulnerable children (plus a few others who's parents can't get them to work and the pastoral team think its OK to allow in). Any politician who thinks kids can social distance should come with me.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 08/06/2020 07:54

I feel the same. I've been on furlough for nearly 3 months. Every day is the same. It feels like I'm just wasting a whole year of my life. Trying to get DS to do schoolwork is like pulling teeth, he just won't concentrate.

gracielooloo · 08/06/2020 08:12

Can I join?
Had enough now, home schooling’s shit, DD’s are fighting constantly. To top it all off we lost our dog last week, who was only 2 and was at least keeping me sane walking him!😭😭

LoisLanyard · 08/06/2020 08:12

I'm the same - working from home and home schooling etc. I love my work normally but at the moment I dread it. I have to start ultra early to try and fit everything in, i'm tired, emotional, and just want some time to myself... I'm worried there will be a second wave and this virus will never be over and we'll be stuck in this situation forever!

tigerbear · 08/06/2020 08:17

Totally agree OP.
I had a total melt down on Friday re helping her with her school work. I’m useless at maths and HATE it - trying to get her to do maths everyday, when I don’t even understand it either, is so hard.
She picks up on my frustration and says she can’t do it, and as I can’t either, I’m at a loss what to do. Both of us in tears Friday, I was on the whiskey by 4pm, then set the smoke alarm off making dinner, and poor DD in tears, waiting at the door for DP to get back from work.

They’re also doing Shakespeare at school (DD is only 9, and I’m surprised they’re learning this early. I didn’t study it until A-level!) Finding it hard going - one if they’re tasks is to watch The Tempest in full .

I’m still in bed, trying to motivate myself to start the day, but dreading it.
Also, I’m self employed, and my business has tanked, so desperately trying to figure out what to do to resurrect it, but just not enough head space to figure out how...

It’s all totally shit!

BlusteryLake · 08/06/2020 08:18

Every morning I wake up hoping it's been a dream and I am not going to have to work, teach and run a bloody cafe all at the same time,all of it with not one single thing to look forward to. I have a depressed child who is a shadow of his former self of twelve weeks ago. It is a total shitshow every day.

muminmanchester · 08/06/2020 08:23

I feel the same. I am so fucking over it now. It's been raining here for a few days now too which is making it all so much harder. I've just lost all my motivation to try and make this positive or fun, I feel like it's just tv and iPad from breakfast til lunch, quick walk so I don't feel 100% guilty and then back to screens until bedtime. I know that too much screen time makes my 4yo horrible, but I can't be bothered to do anything else with him. I really feel like I'm slipping into a depression, I actually feel as though there's something heavy on me weighing me down. I've never felt this before, I'm usually a really positive person but this prolonged isolation from society has undone me.

So, OP and everyone else, I suppose at least we have solidarity in each other

sunandrose · 08/06/2020 08:27

yes!! I’m at home with a 10m and nearly 3 yr old energetic little boy. DH runs own construction business so is now out and about and busy. My little boy desperately misses staying over at my parents’ house and his friends too. I’m just desperately sad that we can’t get back to normal to see my parents as they’re elderly and my mum has Type 1 diabetes. We used to be out all the time, seeing friends and going to groups. We miss that.

The days are long, I’m wishing the time away to a vaccine- if we ever get one! That saddens me so much as this is time we’ll never get back with our little ones and time missing out on making memories with their grandparents.

I’m eating and drinking too much. There’s too much screen time here too.

I’m done.... as for the ‘new normal’ it fills me with dread. This is far from normal, this isn’t life...

TokyoSushi · 08/06/2020 08:30

I felt like this last night, I think my main issue is that it's just going on and on and on and there is no end in sight! Week 12 of home school & WFH starts today and I really can't bear the thought of it!

But I promised myself I'd wallow on self pity last night, and get up abs get on with it today which is what I'm about to do. Good luck folks!

Mummiepig · 08/06/2020 08:37

I hear you, so it’s just been the weekend, but it didn’t feel like a weekend, nothing to do, so bored, wasted my time feeling grumpy now back to work today :(
Fed up

rosie1959 · 08/06/2020 08:39

I feel for those with children mine are grown up but I am also so fed up with everything
Nothing to look forward to if this thing had an end date it would probably be more bearable
Going to make one positive move today to rejoin Weight Watchers even though it’s just online my eating has definitely got out of order.
Each day is relatively the same my husband hasn’t stopped working and as we have our own company he only tends to stop when we go away. He has furloughed me .....
Oh well going to paint the ruddy kitchen how exciting

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