Anyone else feeling anxious?

[TwinkleTwinkleLittleBlue]

I'm not sure what to do, I'm a single Mum of 2 DC and I feel like we're lifting lockdown too early. Family disagree and are having BBQ's and blaming my anxiety for not attending.

I just feel like waiting and seeing what is going to happen over the next few weeks before visiting and getting back into 'normality'.

Is anyone else feeing this way or does it sound like my anxiety is creeping up on me again?

I think yours is a sensible approach x

No, no point being anxious.

To me, it’s obvious there will be a second wave (not obvious to everyone, apparently), so I’m just doing what I need to do to keep my household as safe as possible. (We have two family members with chronic illness, and one with a disability.) I really CBA to argue about it with anyone.

Can’t you just tell extended family you won’t be attending their BBQs? Won’t they understand your reasons?

Unfortunately they don't understand, I've told them that they can do what they want but we won't be visiting and rather than asking how we are we're being told how much we're missing out on.
They've always been the same, very opinionated and my DM said to me 'it's such a shame, I thought you were controlling your anxiety' which hurts because I feel as though I've coped okay through this.

That’s really barbed and unkind of her (putting it mildly).

You sound perfectly appropriate and balanced to me.

Just tell family "plenty of time for BBQs later in summer" everyone will come out of lockdown in their own time in their own way. Say to family "look I would just be fretting all time I was there so wouldn't be much fun at the moment". Blame yourself, say I know I am probably being ridiculous (which you're not) but they might at least back off a bit.)

We’re due to send DD back to school today and I can’t sleep for worrying.

A second wave is inevitable and the beaches / demonstrations / hotspots here definitely makes it feel like it’s when not if. But DD was so excited to go back she cried. She needs structure and to see her friends. We’re keeping everything else locked down to minimise risk and I thought rationally I was fine. But I can’t sleep.

Sorry to hijack your thread. But for what it’s worth I think you’re right. Also your mum is actively unkind.

Try not to be anxious. as it solves nothing. You are being sensible to wait and see how things pan out for a few weeks, so just go with your own thoughts on all this.

no point being anxious

Since when was it a choice ?

Seems totally reasonable to me. Too many measures are being lifted too soon without other measures in place.

Yes, I am.

I mean it wouldn’t make any difference to me personally - my family are all going to continue as we have been. We’ve no intention of meeting up with anyone or going out.

But, I’m 27 weeks pregnant. I have to go to the Huge hospital every two/three weeks for tests. Two midwives there died from covid in May. For that reason, I’m shitting it. I have no choice but to keep going there regulary and I have to have a section in August regardless.

And op that was very unkind of your mum.

All the experts are saying it's too early. Only our useless government are saying it's not. Who do you believe?

The problem with a second wave is that capacity in hospitals has now reduced due to resumption of some other activity so those idiots who catch it in the second wave may well find out they can't access their local ICU bed!

Ah you’ve got one of those. I had one op, helped my mh a lot when I told her to stay out of my life. She wasn’t at all supportive and was quick to put the boot in.

I know that’s a big step to take. Before I made the leap I would ignore the calls and texts. At times I would block so she went straight to voicemail. When she started with the negative stuff, I had to go and hung up, of course I was called back, ringer off and ignored.

I think you are doing to right thing. I am not changing anything as yet (clinically vulnerable not the shielding group) as I don't trust that the timing of lifting lockdown. Too many scientists and medics are saying it is too soon, I trust them over the government, especially as SAGE members have also spoken out (and not talking about the independent SAGE).