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Honestly who’s broken lockdown at least once?

151 replies

Madwife123 · 08/05/2020 01:23

I’ll start by saying I have. I’m NHS staff so have been back and to at work anyway but my sisters baby was stillborn and so I broke the lockdown to visit her, she needed it and I felt it was more important at that time than the coronavirus risk. In fact her mental health team suggested it so no guilt and no regrets.

I imagine many of us have had situations where they have done the same for various reasons? Which makes me wonder how effective it really has been.

OP posts:
DustyMaiden · 08/05/2020 01:32

So sorry for your loss. No I haven’t broken it, I would under those circumstances.

Mkh873w · 08/05/2020 01:32

I had a very very slow wander around the supermarket, and I bought things I didn’t need. Blush

NaomiFromMilkShake · 08/05/2020 01:32

Yes and no.

I am shielded, I had to get out of the house on Sunday, it was either that or a trip to the loony bin, so my DH drove me around for about twenty minutes and then we came back.

I had a telephone appointment with a GP from our practice on Monday, confessed, he said as long as you stay well away from people and places, going out in your car for ten minutes around the block every few days is ok.

I think after seven weeks people need to assess the risks for themselves to a certain degree.

NaomiFromMilkShake · 08/05/2020 01:33

I am so sorry, I meant to say I am sorry that you and your family are so unhappy in such difficult and hard times.

Monty27 · 08/05/2020 01:34

I sat with a friend in his garden on Easter Sunday
I had Sunday dinner with a friend in her garden a couple of weeks ago.
No physical contact.

Casmama · 08/05/2020 01:36

I have barely been out the house other than to go to the supermarket but when i dropped off gloves to my sister the other day i did pop into her flat for 10 minutes. She has just postponed her wedding as her fiance is abroad and unable to return. It will be 5 months minimum before she sees him and i thought 10 minutes might make her feel better. I don't feel guilty

pfrench · 08/05/2020 01:36

Isn't it something like 60% of a population need to adhere to it, for it to 'work' in reducing impact on nhs?

I took food to my parents even though they live 30 miles away and my brother is closer to them. Not essential, but 'essential'. I'm a key worker so did it on a long way home from work. Stood 5m away and had a chat for half an hour. Will do it again next week.

If someone died in my family, there is no chance I'd stay away. Grief without support has massive mental health implications.

pfrench · 08/05/2020 01:40

I had a very very slow wander around the supermarket, and I bought things I didn’t need

Ha, I spent 45 minutes in Waitrose, then bought easter eggs. I also went to the shop for icecream, the petrol station for bedding plants and two walks today.

Justgivemewine · 08/05/2020 01:47

madwife I think your situation would be classed as assisting someone who needed help anyway. And no decent person would criticise you anyway

We are shielding but after 6 weeks of staying in, me and the dcs have been out for a walk/run/cycle around our local deserted park the last couple of days for the sake of our sanity

RhymingRabbit3 · 08/05/2020 01:58

I dropped some non essentials to my parents house 15 minutes drive away and it was raining so I went into their kitchen and we chatted for over 15 minutes at a 4 metre distance.

I met a friend at the park and we walked together at a 2 metre distance.

The risk in my opinion was minimal here. None of the people involved over 60 or with any condition. We have all been generally careful e.g. only going out for supermarket runs

imabusybee · 08/05/2020 02:21

Yes, went with my lovely dad to walk the family dog one last time, then went to the vets with him for the dog to be pts and had a cup of tea at his house afterwards.

You did the right thing OP. Hope your sister is okay Flowers

Monty27 · 08/05/2020 02:23

@pfrenchz that made me smile 😊

managedmis · 08/05/2020 02:25

I had a wine with my neighbour in her garden last week. We sat apart though.

So sorry about your sister Flowers

Flippinfurloughed · 08/05/2020 02:41

I’m sorry about your sister’s loss Flowers

We are shielding but my son was becoming scared of going outside and it was becoming a big thing for him to even stand on the driveway and clap. We now go for a walk round the block every few days.

Joywillcomeagain · 08/05/2020 02:43

It's important to reduce the risk of spreading the disease but that's pointless in my opinion if we lose our humanity while doing it. I'm so glad you went to support yr sister.
I haven't stuck with lockdown to the letter but I've done as much as I can.

NeedAUsernameGenerator · 08/05/2020 02:46

Providing support to a vulnerable person is not breaking lockdown OP. I have also spent time with a family member with a MH condition, I didn't see it as breaking lockdown. I haven't seen the rest of my family or any friends.

Autumnchill · 08/05/2020 02:47

My mums partner came to see us as he's still struggling following her death. We went into the back garden and talked about plants for 30 minutes or so whilst maintaining a distance although I was desperate to give him a hug. He's suppose to be indoors for 12 weeks but those 30 miniutes lifted him and he went away feeling better.

Sunday is my sisters 50th and we had planned a family weekend away in Wales as she lost her husband to cancer last year so on her own. I'll be sneaking round early to her house and putting some balloons and banners up outside her house and then we're going to have distancing coffee in the garden and chat then I'll bugger off and we'll have an online meal and games later.

So breaking of the guidance but I would argue their mental health needed/needs it.

Magissa · 08/05/2020 05:12

My father's funeral yesterday. I am terrified for two reasons. One, someone came towards me to give me what I thought was going to be a virtual hug...but actually grabbed me and hugged me. I just stood frozen. It was seconds but much too close for comfort. (Not a funeral guest but one of my father's carers who came to see the funeral off). Secondly in the service I got upset and was wiping my eyes and blowing my nose with a tissue. However I realised later that I had been holding on to a hand rail in front of my seat while standing to sing hymns. Since the beginning of this situation I have been so careful, avoiding people on my very rare times of leaving the house, cleaning my hands, changing clothes when I come in etc and yesterday I feel I really screwed up. All the rules forgotten. I'm going to be overly anxious about this for the next two weeks.

Funtcase95 · 08/05/2020 05:35

DM is 30 miles away & has only seen 6mo DD three times since she were born (DM abroad for first 3 months then lockdown) so DH decided to drive us up to see her on Monday. She had no idea. We beeped and made sure she stayed at the front door and we stood at the end of the driveway (approx 4m) and chatted for half an hour, it was lovely. Both me and DM needed it.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 08/05/2020 05:43

I've been going to the supermarket more than once a week. Firstly because DP has the car for work so I'm shopping on foot and can't carry it all and also because I genuinely can't see how it's possible to just do a weekly shop. I know people do but all the fresh stuff doesn't last.

Myownwendyhouse · 08/05/2020 06:57

Nope. Only been to work and Tesco. That’s it. Xxxx

poppym12 · 08/05/2020 07:42

I had a telephone gp consultation and needed antibiotics so I drove the very long and scenic route to the pharmacy to collect my medication. The journey is about 15 minutes' drive usually but I was out for an hour.

FagAshJill · 08/05/2020 07:46

Every day.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 08/05/2020 07:47

No, I haven't. But I go to the local shop in between my main shop when I run out of bread/milk and only buy a couple of items. Not against the rules but I'm sure some people would have an issue with it.

Aurorie11 · 08/05/2020 07:50

My Dad is in the shielded group, I hugged him on the day my Mum died. I drove him to the funeral and sat with him at the crematorium. It’s a balance of risk and compassion won out

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