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Honestly who’s broken lockdown at least once?

151 replies

Madwife123 · 08/05/2020 01:23

I’ll start by saying I have. I’m NHS staff so have been back and to at work anyway but my sisters baby was stillborn and so I broke the lockdown to visit her, she needed it and I felt it was more important at that time than the coronavirus risk. In fact her mental health team suggested it so no guilt and no regrets.

I imagine many of us have had situations where they have done the same for various reasons? Which makes me wonder how effective it really has been.

OP posts:
MorrisZapp · 08/05/2020 10:30

I chat with the neighbours in our communal garden. Their kids aren't the greatest at social distance but I'm sure it's fine. The dad is a doctor on the respiratory ward in our big city hospital, so if chatting in gardens led to death I'm sure he'd mention it.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 08/05/2020 10:30

Obviously that was supposed to read socially distanced, not scilg

PhoneLock · 08/05/2020 10:32

On an individual level they couldn’t care less

Presumably, there's nothing to stop an individual extending lockdown indefinitely if they wish.

Chillipeanuts · 08/05/2020 10:33

No. I’m fine but my husband’s shielding and two other family members are in vulnerable groups. I’m allowed out for the walk but have only been doing it a couple of times a week for the last two weeks, ridiculously early, to exercise increasingly chubby dog. Went later in the day once at the beginning and even then there were so many people about it just didn’t feel safe. So for several weeks thereafter, I didn’t go out at all. 🤪

mrscatmad31 · 08/05/2020 10:35

Right at the start of lockdown I collected our two new guinea pigs, but they needed to be separated from the mum. We were getting them anyway we didn't get them because of lockdown and we remained at a social distance from the family we got them from (was an accidental litter)

happyjack12 · 08/05/2020 10:39

yes, found out i have cancer on tuesday.my DP and I don't live together, haven't seen each other for weeks, both kept to isolation rules til then.I hadn't told him about the lump, or hospital tests etc.I drove to his house and sat in it whilst I told him.

user1487194234 · 08/05/2020 10:40

Have not broken the law but have not followed some of the made up rules

LunaLula83 · 08/05/2020 10:45

Yes because the whole organisation and management of it is a farce and therefore pointless

VoyageInTheDark · 08/05/2020 10:46

My parents live round the corner and I've walked round there and chatted to them in the front garden standing 2m away. They are both quite fed up and I'm struggling with my mental health so it helped us. I don't know if that's 'breaking the rules' as such.

Easter eggs were purchased as part of a weekly shop so I think that's fine!

Summerofloaf · 08/05/2020 10:52

Flowers happyjack12

I bumped into a friend at local park and walked (pre arranged) but we stayed 2m away at all times.

MakeLemonade · 08/05/2020 10:53

I see my Mum a couple of times a week, we sit in the garden 2m apart and I take my own coffee cup and don’t use the loo etc. We didn’t do it when the weather was bad as couldn’t do it safely. We also walk her dog at these times as she’s broken her wrist so can’t do it as often as she’d like - although my brother lives with her he works full time so can’t always take the breaks.

I’ve seen my Dad a couple of times as I’ve been helping him revise his will and sort out a new pension so needed him to sign some stuff that I can scan.

For this to work medium/long term, people need to be trusted to make their own decisions and interact as safely as possible.

Sorry for your loss OP. I lost a baby at 22 weeks in 2018 and I absolutely needed my family to support me.

Perfidy · 08/05/2020 10:54

Every day. By taking 2 walks one with one without dog. Sometimes 3! Had dp"s grown up children and his ex round sat in tbe garden 2 m away several times, had cup of tea in garden at ils, glass of wine and stopped to talk to them every time after dropping off shopping.

We are in a v low risk area. None of us are mixing with anyone apart from supermarket. All wfh.

It's v v low risk and yes breaking the rules. Although where we are has just relaxed rules so all these things are now ok.

Megan2018 · 08/05/2020 10:55

Not broken here as had no need to.

I understand why you did though @Madwife123, there needs to be some common sense.

Hopefulmidwife · 08/05/2020 10:57

So sorry for your family's loss OP.

I haven't really broken it. I'm still working - if I wasn't I would have gone crackers in this flat. I have gone to Tesco much more than I should have however. I 100% would have ignored the guidelines in your situation. Flowers

JunoJigglewick · 08/05/2020 10:58

Clapping with the neighbours each Thursday. We just stand in the road around 2-4 metres apart talking for 20 minutes. The kids run around. We try and keep then apart.

I've bumped into a friend once on a walk. We talked for 10 minutes a few metres apart. We both felt a bit awkward about being too close.

I would love to pop round and drink I someone else's garden but the while point is we as a community don't out each other at risk. I went to the supermarket. I could have been infected there and be asymptomatic. And go round to my friends and spread it to her. It's an incredibly infectious virus and we just don't know who has or has not caught it.

Whattodowhattodooo · 08/05/2020 11:02

@Aurorie11

My mum is shielding. My nan/her mum died last week. We are all very close. She was inconsolable. She wanted a cuddle with her grandchildren. I took them.

I was unsure, but ultimately it was her choice. She will also be going to the funeral on Wednesday. She was told that she would have to watch it on video link and she was not impressed. Video bloody link, for your mum's funeral???

TiggeryBear · 08/05/2020 11:03

DP & I took DCs to visit PILs from the roadside as FIL is shielding. It was lovely for the children to see them & vice versa. We didn't do it solely to socialize but to drop off some groceries & treats for them & to collect some toys for the garden that usually live at PILs house.
I also took the DCs with me to my parents house as my washing machine packed up & my DM offered to do some washing for me. The kids had a lovely hour playing in the garden & it made my parents so happy to see them. Especially DM who has been really struggling.

ravenmum · 08/05/2020 11:07

Don't have the same lockdown rules here, but I've still been complicit in breaking the rules due to not wanting to look rude.

That is, when strangers deliberately come up too close to me, I don't move out of the way because it feels rude. I don't say anything, so they would have no idea that I feel uncomfortable.

Yesterday, two neighbours were by the door to our block of flats as I went in, and as I opened the door, the man came right up to enter at the same time. As I tried to stand as far back as I could without looking weird, he then held the door open for his gf, who walked between the man and me. So there's now three of us side by side in a hallway that's about 1.5m wide.

The infection rate is very low here and I'm not terrified that they've passed it on to me at all. But I would love to be able to stick to the CV rules, without having to break social rules.

LolaGracie · 08/05/2020 11:08

My sister is bipolar and this lockdown has been extremely hard for her. She lives alone. She arrived at our house one day a couple of weeks ago in a total state. I let her in the side gate and we sat two meters apart and spoke for 5 hours in the garden. I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

AgeLikeWine · 08/05/2020 11:08

I’m in a vulnerable group due to my asthma, so I’m taking social distancing very seriously. I go for long walks or bike rides alone every day and go to the supermarket once a week.

LockdownLoppy · 08/05/2020 11:08

My elderly parents live 10 doors down the road. Usually, I am in and out all the time and my DD 14 treats it as her second home. Since lockdown has begun I have been shopping for my parents and I take the supplies into the kitchen for them - mum has arthritis and dad has a heart condition, they want me to take it in, I wash my hands and we keep our distance, I'm only there a few minutes twice a week and while I'm there I can do little jobs for them like change batteries, fix their computer etc. My mum is still cooking lunch every day for her housebound disabled neighbour who has advanced MS, she has carers calling but mum cooks her lunch and takes it in along with something for tea. Before lockdown mum would be there most afternoons for coffee but now she just takes the food in and leaves. She has done this
for 2 years - we talked about it and she said she couldn't abandon her friend now.

Aurorie11 · 08/05/2020 11:10

@Whattodowhattodooo Dad went in person, against the guidance but he's 81 with COPD and he wanted to go, we went straight there and straight back. There's no way he wouldn't have gone, I dont know how you could physically stop someone. Its accepting and minimising the risk

YetAnotherSpartacus · 08/05/2020 11:21

No, but I haven't needed to. In the OP's case and many others here, I think it is justified.

I can't see any of my family even if I wanted to because they are too far away.

SpnBaby1967 · 08/05/2020 11:23

I stood at the end of my friends path for a quick chat, and will be heading out to drop her birthday gift off as well today.

Took my car to kwik fit, it was squealing badly and we use it for shopping. Probably would have managed but I didnt want to risk causing more damage.

My DH goes to the shop a lot, but we're a big family & the kids are going through bread like mad at the moment. Also, alcohol ! (Us, not the kids)

moita · 08/05/2020 11:28

Drove my 3 year old around for 20mins to get him to nap. He was overtired and refused to sleep at home - I was at the end of my tether. Once he was asleep I sat in the driveway with him.