Honestly who’s broken lockdown at least once?

[Madwife123]

I’ll start by saying I have. I’m NHS staff so have been back and to at work anyway but my sisters baby was stillborn and so I broke the lockdown to visit her, she needed it and I felt it was more important at that time than the coronavirus risk. In fact her mental health team suggested it so no guilt and no regrets.

I imagine many of us have had situations where they have done the same for various reasons? Which makes me wonder how effective it really has been.

No, definitely never broken it nor would I.

No.
Had click and collect supermarket outings every week and been for a run / walk every day.

I had my dad in th garden yesterday. He lives in a flat with no outside space. He's desperately lonely , we sat him the other end of the garden. Nowhere near him I don't see there is any issue with that. I'm nearer my neighbours when we clap on a Thursday

For the last three weekends, I've gone for a 3+ hour walk in the hills near my house. Not had to drive or park anywhere, just set off on foot and hardly come close to another living soul. Some tell me this is breaking the rules and I've murdered 50 NHS workers by doing so but there is so much confusion about the 1 hr exercise rue anyway that I'm not even sure if any rules have been broken at all.

Other than that, I went out a few weeks ago to the corner shop to buy garlic bread. Only garlic bread. Not essential in the slightest other than I forgot to get it in the normal weekly shop and the more I thought about it, the more I needed it To be fair though, everyone else in the shop was also buying single items and clearly "non-essential" stuff and nobody seemed to give a damn.

Mind you, DH is determined to visit his mum tomorrow for her birthday. He is very clear that we'll all be in the garden and keep our distance but I'm still feeling quite wary about it. Birthdays are a huge deal in his family but, even so, I keep telling him that millions of other families are having to deal without seeing family and giving gifts in person.

I don’t think so. Not knowingly anyway. I’ve been in the same vehicle as FIL (different household) due to work, which couldn’t have been done any other way, I’m still back and forth to work everyday but that’s nhs so couldn’t be done any other way, and I’m walking multiple times a day but we’ve a farm so that’s allowed.
It’s been my nieces birthday, my godsons birthday, my birthday and my best friends birthday since lockdown started. It’s been hard not to just go for a distance-chat, but I’ve had to remember I’m not special, so manu people are in the same boat. If we all thought we were above it, it would be carnage.
Do you know, it’s almost worse I think, when you’re working everyday but you can’t see family, even from a distance (they live too far away to build a distance-visit in with an essential trip). I miss my nana and my brother and his family, and my in laws, and my nieces and nephews.

I guess sort of, it was my dds birthday and we went and collected her present so non essential. We also had my mum, dad brother and sisters, MIL, BIL and 2 friends (not all at once) round they dropped the gift on the doorstep and then stood at the end of the drive. Dd sat in the middle of it and opened her gifts and we sang happy birthday. They all live very locally and had walked or cycled to see us so part of their exercise. I am aware that is a loop hole though. The drive way is big enough that no one was stood anywhere near each other. We did get some filthy looks when my parents and siblings came as 6 of them live together and don’t look anything a like and mixed ages so it probably looked bad them all together and on the sat on the front garden wall.

I had a much needed cuddle with someone close (but not a member of my household) after I received a breast cancer diagnosis. He made a non essential and fairly long trip for that precious few minutes. Several weeks later I have no regrets (or Covid).

Also OP, I am so sorry for your sisters loss and I would have done exactly the same under the circumstances

Oh I’m so sorry, I meant to say, I don’t blame you at all for going to see your sister, I think that was the right thing to do. I’m so sorry, for her loss and for your family’s loss

I haven't been out of my house since before lockdown started in March. My husband is doing all shopping and taking ds out for his exercise. We figured it's best if we stick to one adult going out as both of us is not necessary.

The thing is it's like its unofficially relaxed ,do you remember how outraged people were that sports direct wanted to open at the beginning?. The thing is it's been hard to buy sports stuff just a few online places and those are slowly opened .
I remember going for a run the first couple of days of lockdown when a lot of people on here were practically calling you a murderer for being outside. I never saw anyone 1 or 2 cars now I see loads . And quite a few say they exercise twice a day make more trips to the shops which is allowed.
I've seen people fishing / sunbathing meeting family but social distancing. I think that's the thing we need to manage this if we see family as long as social distancing should be fine .

So sorry OP - I don't consider your situation to be breaking lockdown - I would class your visit as essential.

I have not broken it (I don't think)

@EricaNernie don't be sorry

I decided to go for 2 walks a day a few weeks ago. I havent regretted it and no ones been harmed.

I haven't been out of my house since before lockdown started in March.
That's not healthy. Why not?
Tabbymumz, it's not against the law to go out twice.

Quite a lot of the supposed breaches being reported on here are not actually breaches of the law, which does have provisions allowing the provision of assistance to vulnerable people.

Many people have

There is a major difference between having the whole street over for a party and maybe visiting a shop to get ‘treats ‘ though surely

My mum has been visiting. However I have two under 6s both with SEN. The older one needs 1 to 1 and there's only 1 of me so when she is having an unmanageable day then my mum has been helping to provide care for one of them.

She's 54 and relatively healthy and it's a risk she has chosen to taoe

Oh and I stopped off at Costa coffee the other day but was already driving past on an essential journey and had approx 50 minutes sleep.

Presumably if Costa is open you are allowed to stop there?? Did they mind you sleeping at Costa for 50 minutes though?

I didn't sleep at Costa, sorry meant during the night thanks to DD so needed coffee to function.

I was impressed by the measures at Costa. Their staff are very very well protected

I did a non essential journey to my mum on her birthday so we could drop presents at her door and wave at her from the bottom of her drive.

Yesterday a group of other gathered socially distanced to mark the minutes silence and then had a cup of tea (brought from our own houses) and a chat.

Otherwise my daughter and I haven't left the house except for click and collect shopping and our local shop for essentials.

My disabled child has gone to respite care with sil for a week. More stretching the rules as far as possible than breaking.

Ha, I saw a big group of teens out together and was thinking wtf.. before noticing that they all looked quite similar... As did the lady following them... 4 siblings and a parent exercising...

I also have thought... Why are all these people out and about.... While driving my child to their other parent's house. ( Then realising they might be doing the same or shopping or excercising or going to work etc...)

I've met up with my boyfriend for a socially distanced walk in the park twice.

Fully compliant otherwise.

He hasn't had contact with anyone else.