My MIL and FIL are both very high risk. Both are in their Late 70s and loads of health conditions. MIL is grossly obese, loads of health conditions and is bed ridden for days even if she just gets a common cold. FIL overweight and has diabetes.
When lockdown started we insisted that we do their shopping. I am very careful and wipe down all their shopping before giving to them. Its an inconvienience but I dont want them to die basically so dont mind. I also collect their prescriptions etc.
Last week I got a call from the doctor saying he was worried my MIL is hording her medication or overdosing as she keeps trying to order too much. So he decided she cant be trusted anymore and he was switching her to a new system where her medicationis pre-measured into days. I agreed, she tends to self medicate when she feels better or worse taking more or less than she should. I was asked to bring back all her old medication for the switch, I asked her and she gave me piles of the stuff.
The same day she amitted to my DH that she had decided to keep a bit of each medication. No reason other than she wanted to and no one tells her what to do. I am furious because she will just continue as before and I will have to clean up this mess when the doctor figures it out again. Me cleaning up their mess has been going on for years, they lie to everyone HMRC, doctors, pharmacy, bank, etc. And when they get caught out I am the one on the phone trying to fix the mess.
Then yesterday I look at the shopping list and think, why is it that even though I have been shopping for her for 6 weeks now. She never asks for meat, cleaning stuff, toilet paper, etc. Only just fruit, veg, milk and bread. I asked DH and he said I must drop it. It ends up they have been shopping at Sainsburys weekly and just give me a little list of other stuff to keep me happy. Essentially lying to me so that I dont hassle them about leaving their house, catching Covid and possible dying!
I have been doing all this and they are lying to me constantly. They are going shopping and giving me a little list to shut me up and let me think I am helping them. I am furious! I am putting myself and family at risk with these inconvient extra shopping trips. I am now not speaking to DH as when I try and bring it up he tells me to just 'drop it'. Clearly doesnt give a rats that his parents are lying or that they are risking themselves and others.
I am also concerned that they live in a very close retirement comunity, I saw my FIL shke his elderly friends hand on Saturday! What if they get it from supermarket and spread it to their community of very elderly???
Dont know what to do? Do I just carry on like normal pretending I dont know, letting the anger boil up inside? Do I tell them they can carry on doing their own shopping and stop doing these silly little trips which they clearly dont need? Do I buy stuff not on their list, stuff I think they must need so that they have no reason to go to Sainsburys weekly? I just dont know!