I'm horribly vain and a bit morbid

[BruceAndNosh]

So I'm watching the news with DH and there is a backdrop montage of photos of those who have sadly died.
And I tell him which (flattering) photo of me he should release to the Press in the event of my death.

I just don't want to be remembered floating behind George Alagiah's head wearing something ill fitting which makes my bum look huge.

I'm a bad person

Oh, god, I do this too! I've given strict instructions on photos.

I also keep well groomed in case there are photos for the court which will show a hairy chin or grey roots 😳

Oh Connie that's awful, really sad 😢

Has anyone else chosen their funeral songs too?

I love you

Oh Connie that's awful. Get your kids to take some pics of you - if they can. When it's possible, get friends or family to take some - or have a set done by a pro. You matter too.

I think this is a pretty normal musing OP - or at least I hope it is!.

It's surprising what goes through our heads, even when we think our number might be up. I remember being pissed off that I was wearing a particularly old, ratty bra as I endured an emergency ECG. Crippling chest/abdominal pain but I still managed to think 'shit wish I had my nice underwear on if i'm going to die'. Turned out to be acute pancreatitis so even when very poorly I am obviously still very superficial - ah well!

All of my favourite songs are really upbeat, so funeral songs are a dilemma.
The last funeral I went to there was music playing outside as the hearse arrived. Got nothing suitable for that.

We realised after my MiL died suddenly the importance of making sure every family member is included in videos and photos. My DD was 1 when MiL died and we have the obligatory 20 gazillion pfb pics and we just didn't consider the importance of making sure there were lots of photos and videos if her with MiL (or other family members). There were so many where we knew she was right there next to DD but just out of shot 😢

I watch a lot of true crime docs. I can't help noticing that people who are sadly cut down in their prime are consigned to a lifetime of dated fashion. While their friends move with the times, get a decent hairstyle, learn to dress to flatter their figure etc, the deceased don't have this luxury and are trapped forever looking however they looked when a random pic was taken of them by a friend or whatever.

If they could reach us from beyond, they'd say why the fuck did you let me have that hairstyle. I know I would. My own old photos are a source mainly of hilarity, not pride or dignity.

OP, didn't you know, having your bum look huge is the in thing nowadays, so you'd be fine 😂

Isoneedtorun

Has anyone else chosen their funeral songs

Funny you should ask...

I mentioned upthread that we've been sorting out wills for reasons unrelated to CV, but - due to CV - our initial appointment had to take place over the phone.

I said I'd like the hymn "Calon Lan", being Welsh and all.

The draft copy returned a couple of days ago. Apparently, I'm going out to, "Call on Nan".

Excellent.

You're not a bad person. We have just checked through our wills and I realised I haven't done my expression of wishes re what I want to happen regarding burial/cremation/direct cremation etc. I think it's practical to spell out as much as possible to make it easier and less stressful for those dealing with the aftermath of my death.

I know someone mid 50s who was so concerned about the virus that they updated their will three weeks ago and also wrote a letter laying out exactly what their wishes were i.e. who they wanted informed and who they didn't etc. Sadly they died last week but it's made planning a memorial service in the future so much easier for her husband and has made her an active part of the planning.

LaMarschallin

The draft copy returned a couple of days ago. Apparently, I'm going out to, "Call on Nan".

that's made me chuckle

I think I need to have a word with DH about funeral songs and photos 🤔 it seems a bit morbid though (early 30s with 3 young children) but it's the sort of thing I'd rather leave instructions for him to follow donuts one less thing to worry about.

Ooo dont know how donuts slipped in there! That was meant to say "so it's" although I would like there to be donuts at my after funeral party!

My mums photo on her funeral (schedule? What word am I looking for...) was terrible, she would have hated it

Order of service! I think that's what I mean