I'm horribly vain and a bit morbid

[BruceAndNosh]

So I'm watching the news with DH and there is a backdrop montage of photos of those who have sadly died.
And I tell him which (flattering) photo of me he should release to the Press in the event of my death.

I just don't want to be remembered floating behind George Alagiah's head wearing something ill fitting which makes my bum look huge.

I'm a bad person

I do get this. Ages ago I was thinking if I go missing there’s no decent pictures of me for the newspaper.
I don’t have Facebook so the Daily Mail will struggle.

Wtf is wrong with you? Get a grip .

My favourite photo of Mr BruceAndNosh is adorable.
He thinks he looks like a sunburnt drunk (mainly because it was taken on holiday in Portugal)

I picked out loads of gorgeous pictures of my Mum for her memorial service because I knew she'd want to be remembered looking fab and happy, I don't think there's anything wrong with that!

I think I might opt for one of those pencil drawn caricatures that noone gets done on holiday

Totally get this but I'm vain and have a very dark sense of humour.

Not going to lie, whenever I change my Facebook profile picture I do bear in mind that if I disappeared after a night out/got accused of murder/shot to fame in some obscure way that it would be the picture the media used of me

There are no photos of me as an adult, other than my passport/driving licence/work pass. I can be that grey blank person that is the default in IT systems
Or a little yellow MN face!

you'll always be beautiful to the people that love you
Or those that love you aren’t so shallow as to give two hoots about your appearance?

Don't know how old you are but this is a very common millennial thing to be worried about.. I see loads of people talking about 'what if I go missing and they put a really horrid photo of me up'.. think it's just one of those passing things you think about.. doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything

Don't know how old you are but this is a very common millennial thing to be worried about
Oh, no I'm WELL past the pouting duckface selfie age.
I'm of the age where photos are best avoided which is why The Memorial Image is so important

Some people need to lighten up. Thanks for the laugh OP, that's something I'd say too.

BruceAndNosh I'm in my 60s and have NO pouty duckface photos and yes, my penchant for being photographed has long disappeared. The family group ones show a grim faced, tight lipped harridan with a string of beautiful daughters

Love this thread - thanks for giving me a laugh! I think I trust DP's judgment to find a nice photo if I happen to expire

FreckledLeopard you're brave.

I wouldn't trust my dh at all, he'd just pick the first one he could find on my phone probably.

I'll be carefully curating my montage of elegant, stylish yet tasteful pictures later on. The I'll email them to him and dd in the hope that one of the buggers will get it right.

I'm mid 50's by the way

You could have stumbled upon a lucrative business OP. We all send out favourite photo to an agency and for a small fee they distribute the authorised one to media outlets, while policing that they don't use unauthorised ones!

I think I need to get some photos taken pronto, mine are always of me with DD, I struggle to find any of me on my own

I was horrified when I had DD because I missed my appointment to get my legs & bikini line waxed (she was early), I kept apologising for my out of control bush

If it's important to you, use a camera with a long (zoom) lens on a sunny day in front of a nice backdrop with the sun either directly in your face or off at a slight angle. Have the camera level with the top of your head and look up at it. If you can, put something matte white (e.g. a large piece of paper) off to one side to reflect a bit of extra light on your face and better distinguish yourself from the background. The results should be as flattering as possible. While a nice SLR will help, a good compact zoom camera will generally do a better job than a phone.

We have had this conversation too

When my dad died we spent ages choosing a photo of him for his order of service. Mum commented it was a good job she hadn’t died first because dad would have literally just picked the first photo of her he came to!

I think I need to get some photos taken pronto, mine are always of me with DD, I struggle to find any of me on my own shock

I sympathise. Most of mine include a large shaggy dog, so they will have to be captioned with "Chardonnay, 35, on the right" just in case.

I kept apologising for my out of control bush
I don't think that's the sort of picture the BBC would use

Most of mine include a large shaggy dog, so they will have to be captioned with "Chardonnay, 35, on the right" just in case.

Oh dear! I’m possibly on day 2 of Covid (test tomorrow) and you’ve all shamed me into having my Spring shave. I now have to drag myself into the shower and get those legs shaved 😂😂. Don’t fancy ending up in hospital with furry legs 🤣

We had to choose a photo to be released to the press when my stepdad died. I understand what you mean op.

This has actually made me a bit down that there are no photos of me from the past ten years since I met my husband.

Thousands of him and the kids and none of me. Although I did ask him to take one of me and Dd after she was born, but I got a “Christ, why would you want a photo of yourself” comment. Made me feel like shit and I’ve been too embarrassed to ask since.

If I died tomorrow all my dc would have of me is my voice behind the camera on family videos or a few shit selfies with them (but Dh deletes most of those when they get uploadded to Apple photos as they are crap).