There are those who need professional help (not us) and those who, honestly, need to be developing their own coping mechanisms and so-forth
Absolutely.
What concerns me is the growing number of students who come to us with already significant MH issues, and expect university staff - academic and professional services (including well-being - to replace their parents.
And parents who turn around and say "Why didn't you look after my child?" That's not actually our job. We do what we can. Like other academics on this thread, I have spent hours with troubled students, I've visited them in hospital, I've intervened with parents, I've sat with counsellors and students for urgent joint interventions.
What I've observed is that there's a tendency for some troubled young people cling to a belief that somehow going to university will free them of longer term issues. But it doesn't. They carry their issues with them. And the intensity of all that change: living away from home, new friendship groups, sex & drugs& rocknroll, all of that - most students fly and really take steps to adult independence. But for some, it's too much. They really shouldn't be at university, at that point in their lives.
I had one undergrad come to me before a session saying "I just thought I should let you know, I've been having some anxious thoughts." Well, I thought "Welcome to the adult world!"
But I said soothingly and calmly - "You know what to do, focus on the moment, focus on your work, be present, participate." An utterly lovely student, actually, really clever & wonderfully collaborative with peers.
But I couldn't help thinking that somewhere along the line, that student had somehow been 'taught' (not deliberately, I assume) that having anxious thoughts was somehow problematic in more than a "Wake up and get over yourself" or "Well, what am I anxious about and is it a realistic anxiety? If so, what can I do to help myself?" sort of way. That others needed to be concerned about her anxious thoughts ...