Anyone else just lost motivation now ?

[SouthWestmom]

I've just given up. Still in pyjamas, gave up yesterday. Dh is still finding stuff to do and is annoyed at me.

Boys are struggling with online school; I've realised one of them is just lost now - no plan for his health treatment, so behind already with school. I'm sure the others will be ok when this is lifted.

Done all the jobs with the novelty of free time.

Have no enthusiasm to write that book, start yoga, etc.

I know what works but it all seems pointless. Can't see my family, realised people I thought were friends haven't contacted me to check in, starting to feel quite depressed at life generally.

There's just nothing to say to make it better. Sorry! It's sort of nice not to feel like the only person who has lost it.

I know I should be doing better. It's like life was getting better for all of us slowly (prospect of treatment within a year, saving to pay for tuition) and now I just can't make myself do anything so I'm making the situation worse.

I can't even make myself play a board game.

Have a head shaped dent on my wall

Maybe that's why I've got a constant headache, I might be sleep walking in the night to repeatedly bash my head against a brick wall as an up yours to Groundhog Day

I was like this last weekend and tbh most of the week. Feel better this weekend. Lowering expectations is good , little treats are great - felt excited when our online butchers delivery arrived. I have signed up for a May running distance challenge and that has helped a lot - mostly just looking at the pictures of scenery on others posting about their run.

It's normal to have peaks and troughs , this is a new situation for all of us. I think I got particularly down as was trying to plan a holiday of some sort for the summer, but of course have no way of knowing if it will happen or not which kind of escalated my thinking out of control. So I'm trying to stay more focused in the present.

Maybe if I felt like I was being productive but I don't feel like I want to (no enthusiasm) so it goes round and round.

I did take someone else's advice and have taken the old paint off my toe nails!

The days feel twice as long when it's not sunny.

I'm despairing about DDs education. She thrives in her class room environment and all my bribes to get her to sit with me at the table and do learning are starting to make no difference. And i'm constantly on the brink of throwing my hands up and giving up and just handing over the PS4 controller for the next 3/4/5/6 weeks!

I hit a wall yesterday. Was bored, live alone and done all my chores. Had a pj day yesterday as thought I deserved one day of self pity😂😂. Although I Did get dressed in the evening as had a gin night with friends on zoom. Cheered me up, but when it ended was back in my mood, as it was virtual reminder of what I could of been doing.

I am still going to work and used to love weekends to relax with friends. Now looking forward to going to work lots.

Op don’t beat yourself up. A day is self pity is allowed. My enjoyment for today is finally washing my windows😂😂. Then dressed up for virtual restaurant night🤗. It’s the simple things.

I'm with you as well OP.
We have my four stepchildren here and have done for 5 weeks. They don't want to go back to their mum's and she's not bothered. I've lost friends and I feel like my life is just groundhog Day.
My DH just made a good point and said to remember we're closer to the end than we are the beginning.

I've been hit by a lot of CBA.

Preferring to

look back on things I am proud of achieving

reach out to people when feeling low to try and spread positivity

(try to) be authentic i.e. if I am feeling crap, its okay to admit

Well it's sort of nice to feel part of a general feeling amongst some people rather than a weirdo not making the most of it.

I'm usually busy and can do and keep going. Maybe it's the lack of control.

I am up and down at the moment. Yesterday I did quite a lot. Today, so far, I haven't really done anything productive

Working from home is tricky as well. Everything is taking twice as long as it normally would.

I think the lack of normal routine is what I am struggling with. I'm so used to Mon-Fri being absolutely crazy with work, DS activities plus household stuff, helping DS with reading/homework (he's 6) and now to have no fixed appointments is really weird.

I got sent this the other day. Sums it up for me.

I have brief spells of being very productive then ones where I just can't muster enthusiasm, I annoy myself.

So much I could do, so little motivation to do it.

I am struggling a bit too, especially with work as they haven't even contacted me once to see how I am since I was furloughed a month ago. I have very high expectations of myself and then feel very low when I don't get anything done (I have adhd as well, which makes motivation even harder).

Today I am sitting in our lean-to while my boys play in the tablet...you do have to try to be kind to yourself! I am going to make my kids play outside soon while i have a cup of tea, then at least I'll feel as though I've done some good! I've decided to make a list of one small thing to do each day and try to do it next week. Not loads and loads of things, just one. Hopefully next week we will get a bit more clarity about the way out of this thing and it won't feel so endless. Xx

I was saying to a friend earlier that I was bored, but it isn't boredom its lack of motivation. There's plenty of housework for me to, but I can't be bothered. I can't read, can't listen to podcast, can't watch TV.

I have days like this too, I think it’s important to tell your self it’s a temporary state and some days will be better than others.
On my productive days I planted about 10 zillion seeds and now I am bored to my backside ( sorry) of watching them grow.
Whilst here I would like to point out though that lentil weaving is an extremely undervalued pastime and it really doesn’t deserve all of the negative press it receives 🤣

Sparkling that is very funny. I may have to introduce the kids to the young ones.

Yes not boredom lack of motivation.

Small excitement - the neighbours builder wants to chop our tree down. They just came round to tell us.

I hit the wall on Thursday. I stayed in bed all day with youngest ds. I bought my breakfast up to bed and my lunch, we watched a couple of films, we did cutting and sticking, he played games on CBeebies website, I had a nap. I just thought fuck it. It was the only day I haven't got dressed.

It actually made a change from being downstairs, my bedroom has lots of natural light and a good view. I enjoyed myself.

I'm struggling with lack of motivation, I'm not bored, I've got shitloads to do.

Dh is landscaping the garden which is fantastic and it's almost finished. But the constant mess and kids traipsing mud around is making me want to weep.

Me! But I'm allowing myself one more day...tomorrow I'm gutting the kids toys as we are supposed to be redecorating so might as well have a sort out!

I’ve never been the most get-up-and-go person. When the days are grey and rainy it’s worse...but I try and get myself to do at least one thing I can label as ‘productive’ each day. It might just be folding the washing, tidying a messy corner, learning one single solitary new fact - or just getting out for a walk.

On another note, please don’t let your neighbour chop your tree down during nesting season though if it has any birds in it!

No motivation at all. Pjs, snacks and Netflix day. I had planned to do some work to the garden but cannot be bothered.

Nora don't worry, it was pollarded a few months ago and is literally a tall trunk and some thick branches. No twigs, foliage, nests etc. It's like stick man.

Tbh I'm not sure what to do. Our trees along the back are next to his drive so we've already paid for two to be removed to please him. He also appears to have a triangle of our garden (by agreement we weren't told about when we bought it) which I gave the ok to keep borrowing when asked just after we moved in. I'm now thinking loss of tree = returning our garden so we can replace the fences in a straight line and not a weird curve.

and @Noeuf, I have sent that Young Ones clip to my 18 and 20 year olds after laughing my head off. No response at all. They do think Bottom is funny though.

DH is watching 'Carry on Loving' this is how bad it's got. I have been watching the strangest things on You Tube, I can lose hours to that without realising. Latest is some voice coach in America giving his opinion on singers and a woman that goes into Dollar Tree and tidies the shelves. It's riveting.

Monday tomorrow, I need to write a 'To Do' list for the week

I watched The Fan with Lauren Bacall late one night. Was v odd, although I did decide to invest in wide grey trousers and chunky cream cardigans while chain smoking.

You could knit the cardi.

On 'Carry on Loving' they have referred to breasts as 'bristols' and 'watermelons' so far. I have put my headphones on.