I can't go can I?

[literallychristraeger]

I desperately want to go see my mum. She got quite unwell just before lockdown and I had plans to go visit the week before but I cancelled them when we were told not to make any unnecessary journeys. She's getting steadily worse and is refusing all medical treatment. She won't even have scans done to get an official diagnosis but doctors have suggested cancer. On top of and probably as a result of all this, she is really depressed and I think she has just accepted that she wants to die. I really want to see her! I can't bare the thought of not seeing her if the worst should happen. She told my sister today how she hated the idea that she wouldn't see me and my wee boy and it's breaking my heart. My sister is going to get her set up so we can FaceTime but it's not the same. She's 4.5 hours away and I really can't go can I?

I would go.

Is it just you and your son, maybe you could move in with her?

Id go too OP

Is your sons dad about? Have you both been at home for at least 2 weeks?
Are you in a position that you could move in with her for a little while? Or her with you?

The guidance around unnecessary journeys is people going away on breaks, shopping etc... Enjoyment.

Going to see your sick and or dying mother is not what they are trying to stop. staying with her doesn't expose the general public... Just the two of you... If you have both been isolating you should be fine.

You really need to go.

I'm your situation I would go. Especially to try to get her to seek medical treatment, can you move in for a bit ?

Sorry but I would definitely go.

Yes, you can go, it's important and she's vulnerable.

I also would go. If you are in a possition (what with lockdown and everything) i’d Even think about moving in temporarily or maybe inviting her to stay with you

I would go. Sorry about your Mum OP x

Yes you need to go. Under the circumstances she could be classed as a vulnerable person..

I would go too.

Really? I thought you'd all tell me not to be so stupid. Unfortunately I can't move in with her, I've a toddler at home and me and DH are both trying to work from home, DH is still on probation at his new job. She'd never move in with me and isn't physically capable anymore either.
She has my dad at home but the whole situation is really doing a number on him. My sister is the only one of my siblings close enough and she does what she can but also has kids at home that need homeschooling and a key worker husband.
Would you just go up and come straight back or stay a couple days? I don't want to put her or my dad at risk

go. see her.

I’d go too. I’d think of it as more essential caring. She needs your support.

I would definitely go.

I’d go.

Do you need some type of medical paper work to make the trip? If so get it and go.

Is go for a long weekend given she lives over 4 hours away

Go on your own at the weekend, if possible leave your toddler with DH and see your mum have quality time with her for a few days.

I'd definitely go

I'd go too.

Go.

Yes of course you can go

I’d go too. She’s your mum and you both need it.