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Feeling very down and weepy tonight...

27 replies

Thorilicious · 26/04/2020 21:39

I've been mostly OK during lockdown. Today though, I've had no energy, been non stop eating and feeling very emotional tonight. Not sure why, hoping tomorrow will be a better day..

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carolebaskinsheadband · 26/04/2020 21:42

We've all been there. Honestly. I am a mum of three. Husband is the best i could ever wish for. Never had any mental health issues in my 34 years. Yet I have had days like this over the last few months too.
I am also completely in-PC. So when I say be kind to yourself I mean jt. You are alive, you have food to eat and you have the ability to communicate.
Hand hold Daffodil

Ouchy · 26/04/2020 21:42

Me too. My very social 7 year old is showing signs of depression from missing playing with peers. No amount of FaceTime, craft activities, baking, stories, walks, rainbow or sunshine pictures are lifting it

mineofuselessinformation · 26/04/2020 21:44

I think even the most robust of us feels like this at times.
It's a very strange situation indeed. Something that we have never experienced before (or will again, I hope).
If you can, take some time out to be kind to yourself, doing things you enjoy.
I'd particularly recommend getting outside if you can. The birds are still singing (even more so now I think))!
As they say, this too shall pass. Thanks

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Thorilicious · 26/04/2020 21:46

Thank you. I do have anxiety, and was pleased how I've been handling things, so a down day was certainly due.

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Ouchy · 26/04/2020 21:46

We go out daily to the local woods which are beautiful. But 7 year olds need the joy of interactive play with peers. It’s a developmental need, not just a luxury

Bigfishylittlefishy · 26/04/2020 21:47

Same. 31, three kids. Great husband, been fine up until today. Just suddenly feel so flat, it’s all so oppressive. Makes me wonder how other people are coping, I’ve always had robust mental health and have had my fair share of knock backs in life, with a colourful past!.... I’m sure I’ll be fine but today has just been one of those days for me.

Hoping on a better day tomorrow - I snapped too much today at my kids today Sad.

Bigfishylittlefishy · 26/04/2020 21:49

Sorry to repeat myself. I’m tired.

Justmuddlingalong · 26/04/2020 21:52

I've had a few days like that. A hot shower and an early night has helped me. Also, limit your news watching and social media. It's easy to get sucked into watching and waiting for news updates, but it becomes overwhelming. Hoping tomorrow is a better day for you. 💐

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Thorilicious · 26/04/2020 21:53

Sorry others are suffering too, and ouchy, I hope your ds is OK. My ds is the same age, so I understand.
Strangely, I feel guilty for having a bad day. We're healthy, don't need anything, so I shouldn't feel sad, other people have it worse

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Delatron · 26/04/2020 21:53

I’ve felt the same. I’ve been mostly fine until now. There’s another thread saying lots feel the same today. Teary and lethargic.

I wonder if it’s something to do with the amount of time we’ve now been locked down for? Today seems a bad day for many.

LajesticVantrashell · 26/04/2020 21:54

Me too. I think it's the predicted change in weather. Five weeks have been just about manageable due to the glorious weather but the thought of having to entertain an active three year old in the house while it pisses it down is getting to me.

It just feels never ending and relentless. I feel like I've emotionally shut down to get through it and I want to start feeling things again.

avocadoze · 26/04/2020 21:55

It’s pretty normal to be up and down. While I’m cheerful today I had a couple of grumpy and sad days the week before this one. Sometimes it’s easier to be kind and forgiving to other people than it is to ourselves: give yourself a break - it’s okay to feel down as there’s some pretty difficult stuff going on. Brew

Thekindyoufindinasecondhand · 26/04/2020 21:56

Yes same here. Worst day so far. Sat in all day, knowing a walk would help but instead wallowed in self pity! Husband is always usually lovely but when I told him how I was feeling he was grumpy which made it worse (has since apologised)then just wanted to go and have a chat with a friend and let off steam, never the same over the phone....Flowers for us all!

Justmuddlingalong · 26/04/2020 21:59

And well done on getting this far before having a non stop eating day. I'm a few weeks ahead of you in that department. 🍔🍩🧀🍞🌮

doublemix · 26/04/2020 21:59

Bad day for me today I've cried at everything been tired, lost appetite and have just been totally uninterested in everything. Anxiety flared up awful heart palpitations and the rest hopefully tomorrow will be a better day though that will be tough with 2 under 6 and DH at work I need this to end very soon I'm done.

onedayinthefuture · 26/04/2020 22:00

Same here, I find myself watching TV and getting depressed at people living free lives. Life before this virus. I am sad for my DC, my childhood wasn't disrupted like this. I feel for my DC, one is only 3 months and I think what type of world have I brought him into. My older DS, only 4 but really full of energy, when will he next see his grandparents, his school friends. How long until he can go swimming lessons again? It's the not knowing.... life has to return, it has to....

AStarSoBright · 26/04/2020 22:00

I find weekends really hard, during the week I keep busy working and home schooling but the weekends drag. DS is 15 so he doesn't need me, DH is working or on call pretty much 24/7 and I feel lonely.
Today has been a particularly weepy day but that's ok. It's fine not to be ok with this, it's surreal and everybody is struggling, some just hide it better or cope in different ways.

SquashedFlyBiscuit · 26/04/2020 22:02

Ive been really low today. Feeling like life hasnt turned out like I'd like it to and a bit worried about the future.

YogaLite · 26/04/2020 22:06

It's ok to be down, it might help to have a bit of a cry watching something that would trigger a few tears, u might feel better for it, worked for me earlier, I listened to music that reminded me of a sad event.

suspiciouscowboy · 26/04/2020 22:07

I hope tomorrow is the best day OP 🌈 We all have these days and thank god we do so we don't take all the good days for granted :) I tend to feel even more energized after a bad sleepy day. Why don't you plan your morning to make sure you get off to a good start? When I have these days I plan my breakfast for the next morning and cook my favourite thing, I go to bed earlier and get up earlier so I have a bit more time to maybe paint my nails and potter. I also do my morning routine with uplifting music to start these days and it feels amazing 🥰

TomHardysBitontheside · 26/04/2020 22:18

I've felt like that all weekend. It started with my ending the week feeling that I'm crap at my job. Luckily I can WFH, but last week I just felt like I was doing a rubbish job. I took that out on my teenage DCs, then felt even worse. I tried drinking wine. That didn't help. And I've not stopped crying since this afternoon.
Fortunately the kids have been at their Dad's since Saturday afternoon so haven't seen me in tears.
I was taking Prozac for 18 months, to help me cope through the divorce. And it really did help. But then I felt the time was right to come off them and after tapering for several months took my last one at the end of Feb. I could go back on them but I don't want to.
I also don't want to talk to my friends or DP (we don't live together) as I don't want to burden them. DP wants me to talk to him and he's being utterly lovely.
I can't face work tomorrow.
I do feel this is like a rollercoaster, and hopefully these feelings will pass.
I have to say it does reassure me to hear that others are feeling the same.

Bbq1 · 26/04/2020 23:00

I really feel sorry for everyone feeling so low. It's so many things - the boredom and the not knowing. We all have the odd down day atm. We lost my lovely dad in Feb and thankfully we were able to make his funeral a fitting celebration of dad and his incredible life. Mum and dad were married 59 years and it hurts that I can't hug my mum right now who is living alone for the first time in her life.
I look at refugees with nothing, people dying in boats to escape a harsh life, children in Syria with dead eyes, people over here losing their livelihoods and homes...and I feel so thankful. It sounds a cliche but I mean it sincerely, that there is always someone worse off. I know thinking that doesn't always help but sometimes it does.

AgentCooper · 26/04/2020 23:15

I know what you mean OP. I’ve surprised myself a lot over the lockdown period by actually feeling pretty balanced and fine (I’ve got long-standing anxiety issues, take medication). I have had a few feeling shite days in the mix, though.

Today has definitely been such a day. Woke up feeling teary and it’s not really subsided.

LunaTheCat · 26/04/2020 23:28

I too have felt very odd. Everything seems distant. I have a lovely husband and a garden I love. I think I am just missing contact with my friends and missing gym and the freedom of being able to go out to a movie or for coffee. In comparison with what people in 3rd world, refugees are facing it is nothing. We are social creatures and the lack of that is very very hard. The uncertainty is also very hard and the fact that there is no certain end and realisation that we may be in various states of lockdown for many many months.
I am not sure of the answer but I think for me acknowledging how I feel and acknowledging how awful this is and trying to keep physically active and eat well ( I am looking at you cheese) and keep exercising may help - and mumsnet of course!

MabelMoo23 · 26/04/2020 23:31

Bad day here today as well. Really struggled today

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