AIBU to keep my children away from FIL once restrictions are lifted?

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My FIL is constantly moaning about the pubs being closed, constantly flouting the rules and travelling on trains and buses still despite having no reason to. He has made it very clear that he doesnt take lockdown seriously at all, so would I be unreasonable to keep my children away from him for at least a month once restrictions are lifted. Possibly longer because I believe social distancing will still be in place in some form or another and I have no faith that he will follow it at all.

If the restrictions are lifted, he wouldn’t be doing anything wrong.

It sounds like you want to punish him for not behaving well now.

I agree with the pp. The intention of lockdown isn’t to protect healthy children, it’s to prevent these children from infecting vulnerable people. If he is vulnerable and doesn’t care about his health that’s up to him. No need to be vindictive.

My eldest is asthmatic and one of my family members has cancer, we wont be able to visit them if there is any chance of my children being ill. I'm not saying forever just long enough to reduce to the risk.

As it is your FIL not your father the choice isn't yours but your OHs.

Have a conversation with your OH and explain why your joint children shouldn't see your FIL.

Oh and be careful about upsetting your OH as if you get divorced/separate you would have absolutely no say in who your DP takes your children to see in your time.

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Ok I realise I didn't word that well, my partner does agree with me - I am really not trying to be horrible I am just very worried about the risk to our children/other family members but I don't know if I'm right to be worried about that.

“ constantly flouting the rules and travelling on trains and buses still despite having no reason to”

I’m amazed he’s got away with that.

It’s your choice what you do in your family.

With all due respect the relative with Cancer is going to need to shield until a vaccine is found. That means zero chance of your DC being able to visit. My mum is in a similar position - she is not going to be able to see GC until at least next year.

With regards to your relative with cancer I agree with Grumpy you’re probably not going to be able to see them until we have a vaccine. But for the sake of you child with asthma I would definitely keep them away from FIL, you don’t want him passing anything on to your child.

FIL insists on flouting the rules FIL can deal with the consequences.