I need to move out of family home

[DrAdmin]

Won’t go into the ins and outs... timing couldn’t be worse

Kids want to stay with dad.

Can I still visit them if I go? I won’t leave if I can’t

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If you are going as you need to isolate due to work, probably not. Details are sometimes important.

Ask to move this to relationships OP, you'll get some good advice on there. You'll also need more detail if people are to help you, all depends on a lot of things!

Oh it’s not work related. Sorry I didn’t of things like that.

We’re all working from home, no symptoms.

My relationship has broken down and all that’s associated with that. That’s why I need to leave.

As in, it’s over

I’ve got a house 10 miles away I can live in.

How old are the children?

14

Yes, the kids could move between both of your houses.

You’re allowed to move house

Other threads on here say yes child sharing can and does continue. Legally that seems to be clear.

You should stay where you are OP. Be civil and make some proper plans.

If you move out it’s probably best you don’t meet up with your child. Can you FaceTime etc instead? At 14 this should be relatively easy?

No one will force you to stay in an abusive or otherwise difficult/hostile home environment

Children with parents who live apart are allowed to move between their two homes, so you visiting your children at the FMH would only be a variation of that. I think it’s fine.

You can move in an emergency (and a severe relestiinship breakdown counts). Access to children continues through lockdown.

I wonder if there is underlying abuse, when the children want to stay with Dad and you are desperate to leave. That indicates some level of emotional manipulation and I'm concerned you may be making the wrong choice in leaving the kids behind.

They want to stay in the family home. I can’t stay. So I was was wondering if I can visit them there.

I could limit to the weekend if necessary

Oh just seen you have a house to go to! Ignore my last post

Be careful though, if there is violence or abuse involved.

Oh sorry, mis read. They can move between households however I don’t think you can visit them at their other houses

Absolutely not the wrong choice I know why you’re saying it though. They love dad. He’s a good guy. Family home is more child friendly.

If leaving through fear of violence, pls dont leave the kids.

I understand they wish to stay in the family home. Is there abuse in the marriage?

The family courts are still operating. An occupation order could be an option if you are the primary parent and there is another house for the father to go to. Particularly if he is abusive.

It’s just our relationship is over. No abuse

Do you trust your husband to let you go back and forth to see the kids?

Yes absolutely.

Long term we need a different plan possibly involving me selling my house and moving closer to family home, but this will do for now.