'D'H let someone in our house...

[Chilver]

...what do I need to do to make our home safe again?

Absolutely livid, H let a client into the house whilst I was in shower. Client stayed for 20 mins and H maintains they maintained 2m but I find that hard to believe. Have made him bleach every surface in kitchen and front door, open all windows, and wash the dog (he jumped up and was stroked!). H won't change clothes and says I'm overreacting, although I even heard him say to client 'wife is upset you're here as she is in the at risk group'!!! (I am!)

I'm still hiding in bedroom with child. What else can I do to make the house 'safe' again?? (Aside from getting rid of H!)

Your OH has broken the rules

Yes, work is allowed, but that does not include allowing visitors into your own home,

especially as you are in the "at risk" group
and there is a child who cannot be asked to give up her right to a safe home

What he should do:
After cleaning everywhere
He puts his clothes in the wash
Strips off , shower and hair wash
AND gives an abject apology, with the promise never again to be such a FUCKING SELFISH IDIOT

Who did all of the cleaning? I hope it wasn’t you?

Has he since had the shower (and washed hair), carefully changed and washed his clothes? Or has he just spread any risk throughout the house?

I agree with pickle and BigChoc - he should do proper 14 day self isolation in your home in a room.

I don't understand why some people think you should calm down OP.

I'd be bloody furious and scared, in your shoes.

I spoke to my xh yesterday evening: early 80s, recently had an operation, one or two underlying health problems and a smoker.

Turns out his had a meeting at his office yesterday with a couple of people he's doing business with, because it was too complicated to do it over the phone apparently.

I don't live with him, obviously, and what he does with his life is up to him, unlike your situation OP, where you have been put at personal risk, but we have children together and I'm absolutely furious with him for putting himself at risk.

I don't understand what goes through some peoples head at times.

Every night on television we get the ad telling us to stay at home, not visit people and so on. I had a letter through the post today, as did, I imagine the rest of the country, explaining the reason why we should all be staying at home etc.

We've even seen our pm in intensive care in the last few days and yet some people still don't seem to get it.

Your husband is an idiot.

💐 For you OP. I can’t believe some of the replies you have received. Your DH was so incredibly wrong to do that.

It's not an over reaction. He has put her at risk for no reason. He could have skyped like any other reasonable human.
Even if you weren't vulnerable I'd be furious if my husband did this, there is no need.
Has the area been well aired? He's a grade A selfish prick.

I don’t think you’re overreacting either OP.

Do you think he specifically timed it for your shower time? Where was your child whilst you were showering?

What is his job? I’m trying to think of an occupation where this would be necessary. A face to face meeting with a client that couldn’t be conducted over the phone/Skype call? I could understand something being dropped off but that wouldn’t take 20 mins.

I think you have every right to be furious but there’s nothing much that can be done now. Air the house well and you say everything has been bleached so just hope for the best.

I bet you’re the kind of person that judges someone with a blue badge, using a disabled spot, because they look healthy.

You couldn’t be more wrong there, but, you carry on with whatever erroneous assumption you want to hold.

Not unreasonable at all, he was really irresponsible.

You couldn’t be more wrong there, but, you carry on with whatever erroneous assumption you want to hold.

Maybe you should practice what you preach, before accusing the OP of overreacting in front of her child. 🤷🏻‍♀️

not an over reaction , im shielding , what a dick ! its terrifying, i dont want to leave my kids without a mum , tell him to fuck off & to pitch a tent in the garden to self isolate in for 10 days .. im so sorry your husband isnt protecting you and i hope you get well soon x

Hes a moron and seflish-does he understand how this works-if he wont wash his clothes then stay away from him

He has to realise how bad this could be for you

LTB