Sister refusing to fly home

[Elephantlover66]

Hi
Would like some opinions to help me get beyond my rage at my sisters refusal to fly home.
She is currently staying with other family in a country where both governments have urged non nationals to return home. She is refusing to do so and believes the country she is in will be less effected than our home (both “1st world” counties with decent healthcare).

I am furious- our parents are heartbroken and although not technically in a at risk category concerned they may never see her again if they get sick. I also think she is bound to be invalidating any health insurance she may have seeing as the govt has said to get out.

I’m so angry and hurt I’m finding it difficult to get beyond this. Any advice how?

She’s not migrated she’s on a working holiday and has always planned to be home for 6 months.

I appreciate I am catastophsingg. My husband is working away on the front line I’m at home all day with 3 under 5s and too much time to worry.

The what ifs are driving me insane- what if she gets sick and isn’t entitled to proper care? What if she dies and we can’t even repatriate her?
What if something happens to my parents? I know she will struggle with guilt for the rest of her life and always wish she came back.
I appreciate that my feelings are confounded with the awful stories that my husband is telling me that’s why I wanted help in seeing the other perspective because I’m going a little bit insane

“ What if something happens to my parents? I know she will struggle with guilt for the rest of her life and always wish she came back. ”

Not necessarily. I stayed in London to look after elderly parents, had a job offer somewhere better. Bitterly regret this. Would have made no difference to dads death if I’d been absent when he was dying.

As for healthcare, they won’t look at her passport and say, “ooh not treating her”.

Calm yo’ bad self! She’s an adult, she’s made a choice that works for her. You’ll drive her away if you tell her the stuff you’re telling us.

OP, its a very sad fact that if your parents become gravely unwell, neither you or your sister will be able to see them anyway. Leave her be, stop piling all of this guilt on to her!

I am in Australia, and you are not being rational. Right now, Australia is the lucky country, our contagion rate is decreasing every day, our curve not only has flatten but is going down.

It is not the US, an hospital won't turn you away because your are British.

It is currently safer to be in Australia than UK. This said I understand the gut feeling of having all the family together. My family is in France, and I am worried sick.

We are still living a fairly normal life. We can go at the beach as long as maintaining social distancing and moving (not sitting down) , kids are surfing, shops are open.

Winter is coming, so this will change.

I think you're projecting your sense of helplessness and unfairness at the situation onto your sister. Is she came back, any one of you could still get sick - it wouldn't solve anything. It isn't as if her coming back would make it all go away. Look at it from her point of view - does she even have a home in the uk? What's she supposed to do when she gets here?