Genuine opinions wanted. Should I let my daughter come to stay

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My daughter is 18 and lives alone in a flat 25 minutes walk from our house. Shes self isolated since the 17th March, only going out to the shop, on her own.

She wants to know if she can come back for the rest of the lockdown as the loneliness is getting to her. Her mental health isn’t always brilliant, but she seems ok, just wants to be with us. She usually wants her own space, so for her to admit this is quite a big deal.

Her sister and I haven’t been outside (apart from the garden) since the lockdown started. My husband goes to the shop and for walks in the evening. He and I are working from home, both daughters places of work are currently closed.

I think its fine for her to come back. We would all rather shes here, but my friend has made me doubt myself. She says we’re putting ourselves at risk, and breaking rules. I know some uni students are still making their way home, so I can’t think this is different, apart from she doesn’t need to use public transport to get here.

I’d be interested in hearing opinions.

Yes, go and help her pack a bag and bring her home. She’s 18 and needs support and company. It’s no different to collecting a child from uni.

I think if she did you’d all have to quarantine for 14 days and get someone to deliver food or make sure you stock up for 2 weeks before she comes home.

I would. Personally.

I would as well.

A few briefings ago they said you could combine households permanently , so I think it's ok.

I’d bring her home, she’s a kid and needs her family.

Yes

Go and scoop her up.

It wouldn’t be a question for me, she’d be home.

I would providing you don't have any issues in the vulnerable group.

Absolutely bring your baby home. Any risk is surely very minimal as you have all been isolating. Her mental health has to be a consideration too - this could go on for a long time, she is still very young and needs her family.

I would too.

100% bring her home

25 minutes walk is closer than a lot of people are to their nearest supermarket. I think it's fine.

Yes let her home .

Thank you all very much.

Shes coming home! Ive been asking her to come home since the very beginning, but she had it in her head she could cope. She has a thing about not being seen to be weak - not that it IS weak at all. She’d have her own space here, but company too when she wants it.

I really appreciate all your comments

Yup. If she’s struggling with loneliness after a week of official lockdown, well, it could be another 2-3 months.

My son has come home - he’s 24 and partly needed to as he’s changing job/town and his new job is wfh initially - he can’t move into new flat at the moment and his current tenancy is finished. Conversely my d who recently came home from uni is staying with her boyfriends family for the lockdown, they will cope better if they’re together and his parents are happy to have her as he’s tidier and more likely to get down to some uni work when she’s there.

I'm glad she's coming home.

Also, she's very young to be on her own through this, she's already vulnerable and I'd have viewed her risk of serious harm due to her mental health to be far greater than any risk from her rejoining your household.

Unless you're shielding the restrictions are about reducing the rate of transmissions between households not preventing everyone from catching it.

Good.

That’s good. I bet she’s relieved deep down even if she won’t admit it.

No she shouldn’t come home and under current rules it isn’t allowed.

Absolutely yes you're right to bring her home she's you're daughter and she's 18. Don't let you're friend make you doubt it. If there's anything in the world most of us would put ourselves at risk for it's our children.

You wouldn't all need to isolate unless she's got symptoms surely

She's your child. Not your friend's, not ours.

You want her home, she wants to be home.

Entirely your decision. Let her