Flouting the rules or not ?

[mickey54]

My step mom is in isolation over 70 no health conditions. However she has had three visits from daughter and another relative where by they go sit in garden and talk to her from the house. Her daughter lives in a family of 7. This is not to constantly bring shopping over as she been out doing this herself. I fear she could be spreading this with so much contact from outside the home.
Then she rings my doorbell 😡😡 AIBU I think It’s ridicolous behaviour ?????

Its not ideal but realistically, if they don't go near her or in her house, they're not going to spread anything.

If she lives alone it must be really hard without company. At 2m's through a window I think that is sensible.

Transmission is unlikely but it’s not an essential journey.
So yes flounting the rules.

Yes think there is the distance but I was just thinking sitting in garden furniture, cups of tea etcc

It’s most definitely not essential as she has people ringing and calling her all day she’s not really isolated....

We were told ‘travel only if necessary’ visiting someone, unless it’s an emergency of course, is not necessary. We all want to see friends and family, we all have to get on with this .

I know that’s how I feel. It’s not right.

Transmission is much more likely if cups of tea are changing hands.
Report them

Definitely cups of tea and snacks 😟 my son is on high risk list and knocks my door for chat 😫

I deliver my dm food and sit in the garden while she is in the house, in the conservatory,
just a chat and cup of tea, with strict instructions that she puts the cups straight into the dishwasher, and we all wear gloves.

Yes good idea but Def no gloves worn x

Yes because strict instructions prevent getting Coronavirus.
I’ll have to try that one

Me and my mum have been (seperately) taking food down to my gran and sitting it at the door step then having a quick 5 min chat from a safe distance. She cant understand why we won't go in as my aunt, uncle and 2 adult cousins have been taking turns each going into her home to make meals and stay overnight. She's mid 70s but still capable, she just can't be bothered (openly admits) so not like they have to go in to care for her or anything.

obviously if i had symptoms i would not deliver her shopping! let alone have a cup of tea in her garden

You’re contagious before you show symptoms.

Can’t argue with stupid.

That’s SS guard mentality. I agree with lockdown but people need some human interaction, love and support in times like this. It seems they are being as careful as possible whilst safeguarding a lonely elderly woman’s mental health. Some people are just enjoying being pedantic busybodies a bizarre amount.

Same here. I deliver food and sit in garden otherwise dm would just give up living. Not today though too chilly.

It really annoys me.
I haven’t seen my DD for 3 weeks. They called me asking if they could come visit at the weekend and I said no.
I then found out they’d been visiting siblings ‘maintaining 2m distance’, talking with the front door open etc.
Firstly, it’s non-essential travel in the car.
Secondly, there is a transmission risk to each other, even if it is small.
Thirdly it’s so unfair on everyone following the rules.

You’re contagious before you show symptoms.

so how do you go shopping and go to work confidently?
we can't All self isolate on a Just in case
agree, you are right - can't argue with stupid
@KMoKMo

Both of those are essential trips.

I am a key worker with a vulnerable child.

That’s why this behaviour is so selfish.

I hope your DM isn’t in a vulnerable category or over 65 as there may be a good chance she wouldn’t get the care she’d need.

We check on my partners mother twice a week.

She is 80 and recently bereaved and struggling with everything, both emotionally and practically.

She lives 5 mins away so we take her shopping mid week, and papers and milk on a sunday.

She sits in her kitchen with the back door open and we sit about 10feet away in the garden, with no contact of any sort.

I do not feel any guilt for this - she falls into the vunerable and elderly category, and without our support, is likely just give up on everything..

Why else would I be doing her shopping?

Why would you be passing cups of tea back and forth?

Dear, we are not sharing a cup

report them
People are turning into the fucking stasi. The police will not care about this. People need to remember that they have to live with their neighbours after this happens.