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I’ve just been told off for panic buying

86 replies

WhataMissMap · 26/03/2020 16:47

I had a super market delivery 3 weeks ago. It was a large one as I had asked four other households did they want to share with my delivery.
So I had groceries for myself, family and neighbours.

Another neighbour who I don’t know has come over to remonstrate with me. I explained and I think they believe me.

I feel very awkward now. I have another delivery tomorrow and I have done the same thing again. It was all ordered a couple of weeks ago before the neighbour complained. I wonder if I should cancel?
We need the groceries as I’m in an at risk group, I have ordered items for a pregnant lady up the road and for my sister and brother who have asthma and are self isolating.

What a mess.

OP posts:

wanderings · 26/03/2020 17:20

Did the angry neighbour keep two metres away while he was spitting and snarling?

DO NOT CANCEL! This business has brought out the worst in people, as demonstrated by MN itself. This neighbour is one of many who thinks the whole thing gives them a licence to bully others.

DoesNotMixWellWithOtherPeople · 26/03/2020 17:20

I’m ordering for six households because the others are elderly/vulnerable and we can’t get individual slots for all of us. It’s the most sensible option for both us and the supermarket.

I don’t care what the neighbours think about it (although my direct neighbours are all lovely anyway). If they’re nosey enough to watch me receive a big delivery, then presumably they’ll also see me load most of it in my car and take it off elsewhere 🤷‍♀️

On a lighter note, the 3 item restriction means that Tesco will only let me have 3 bananas. I didn’t even try to order loose mushrooms 😆

AriadnesFilament · 26/03/2020 17:23

It isn’t a “mess” - it’s none of their business!

Ignore the neighbour, job done.

AutumnRose1 · 26/03/2020 17:24

When did the neighbour complain about the previous delivery?

CoolCarrie · 26/03/2020 17:25

Don’t cancel, check your are still getting the delivery tomorrow and if she comments tell her to mind her own business. You are not doing anything wrong, as pp said you are using the slots in a good way freeing up spaces for others.

KitKat1985 · 26/03/2020 17:25

I've got a big shop coming tomorrow. Basically I can't get another delivery for 3 weeks after this so have ordered 3 weeks worth of dry goods (will probably have to pop out for a top up shop of fruit and veg etc inbetween though). No doubt people will judge the massive delivery, but to be honest I think it saves more delivery slots for another people if people do big shops infrequently rather than little shops every few days, so fuck em.

Wannabangbang · 26/03/2020 17:29

Doesn't matter what your neighbour thinks. You bought surplace to help others so nothing wrong in what you are doing. Also how to people have the time to be nosing on their neighbours, it's not my business what my neighbours buy. I have a large family so we need more generally, so even in my case it looks like panic buying when it really isn't

ItsTrueISwear · 26/03/2020 17:30

Do not cancel your order. It’s nothing to do with anyone else.
I’m ordering extra because I’m now shopping for my 84yo mother (and I did offer to order for her next door neighbour too) so that she doesn’t need to leave her home. What else can people do?

Irial · 26/03/2020 17:31

why did he complain 3 weeks ago?

Bluntness100 · 26/03/2020 17:32

If the delivery was three weeks ago, why are they complaining now? It makes no sense?

Just explain you’re ordering for other people, clearly they think you’re a panic buyer ruining it for everyone else and fucking over the elderly, but you’re not, so just explain. Two orders in three weeks isn’t a big deal and if it’s for other households you’re doing a good thing.

Matildathehun77 · 26/03/2020 17:33

This is our new normal. Sorry OP.

What exactly is the "new normal"?? Does somebody just pop along and post this on every thread now?

Dita73 · 26/03/2020 17:34

What did this neighbour actually say?

Noideareally2 · 26/03/2020 17:35

None. Of. Their. Business.

Whether it was 100% for you, or for 100 households.

I think social media and judgemental gossip have got to some peoples heads and convinced them they have a right to judge and meet out judgements on those around them

They are wrong.

Tell them to f*ck off.

MigginsMrs · 26/03/2020 17:36

Tell her to fuck off! What business is it of hers?

Mix56 · 26/03/2020 17:36

You reply "I have group ordered for 4 families, it frees up delivery slots for other people. Do not stick you nose in again"

prettybird · 26/03/2020 17:37

I'm off to the other side of the city tomorrow to do some shopping for my dad and to pick up a prescription for him. I'm also going to be doing some shopping for his neighbours who were the ones who had been looking out for him but are now themselves unwell (at least one of them is, so the other is also self-isolating).

I'm deliberately going to do the shopping for them at the Tesco over there and possibly also at the Lidl on the way over and then do our own shop (1st in a week) at the Lidl on "my" side of the city, in case there are busy bodies who object to me "stockpiling".

As it happens, my "stockpiling" was done months ago, over a number of months, in preparation for a No_Deal Brexit, so I haven't had to buy anything extra in recent weeks. The only thing I'm short of is canned soup, which dh likes, as I'd run that stockpile down . Only stuff I really need for dh and me is milk, veg and meat and cans of soup

I'd ignore the busybody, tell her to mind her own business....and to keep her distance.

MigginsMrs · 26/03/2020 17:42

This is our new normal. Sorry OP.

Och away and get a grip

Bluntness100 · 26/03/2020 17:44

They are wrong

I don’t agree, I think if people are using up valuable slots, panic buying then we all have a duty to call them out, because vulnerable people, the elderly are being fucked over and left with nothing.

It’s on us all to call this shitty selfish behaviour out. However the op is not one of those people, and she should just explain that. She’s performing a public service and ensuring all her neighbours also get their shopping, and she’s prevented them having to go out and queue. She’s done a really good thing,

AvonBarksdale99 · 26/03/2020 17:46

If the neighbour has left their house to remonstrate with the OP how exactly is that ‘essential’?! They are effectively breaking the rules and should be told as much

AvonBarksdale99 · 26/03/2020 17:46

The neighbour is breaking the rules I mean by leaving their house!

Quarantimespringclean · 26/03/2020 17:46

We are doing similar, shopping for us, my mum, my mother-in-law and my SIL who is fit and well but self isolating so she is safe to care for MIL. It’s hard though because of restrictions on essentials, I’ve been splitting packs of veg/bread/eggs etc. I also had a problem this week when an order was cancelled at 3 hours notice.

Duchessofblandings · 26/03/2020 17:47

Sharing slots if you safely can sounds like a really good idea, frees up times for people who can’t get out.

coconuttelegraph · 26/03/2020 17:49

Why were you sharing a shopping delievry 3 weeks ago? Is that something you were doing pre-corona? Your neighbour must hold a grudge to mention it after such a long time

FlamingoAndJohn · 26/03/2020 17:49

Why was that neighbour out of his house anyway?

SpillTheTea · 26/03/2020 17:49

It's nothing to do with them. I'd tell the nosy parker to piss off.

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