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My husband has said I can quit my job if I want to.

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QueenofmyPrinces · 25/03/2020 21:41

I’m a nurse, obviously anxious about what dangers and nightmares lie ahead, and my DH has just said that I don’t have to go to work if I don’t want to, and he’d rather us live on just one wage if it meant I could be kept safe.

Has anyone else working in hospitals ever felt so nervous about what’s to come that they’d consider leaving?

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QueenofmyPrinces · 28/03/2020 10:15

From someone who works in community were working extra hours and pulling in staff in order to care for patients at home who have been discharged earlier than they should. Children and adults. Community staff are working hard to support the hospitals

It’s such a domino effect isn’t it - the stress is infiltrating throughout every aspect of the NHS Sad

My friend is a community nurse (adults) but only works Bank Shift via an agency. Last week though she let the Agency know that she would no longer be doing any shifts because she just can’t cope with the stress, the expectation, the pressure, and the fact she isn’t being provided with any PPE.

She said she felt awful doing it but that’s she prepared to take the financial hit rather than risk her health and then most likely take the virus home to her husband and two young children.

She said she feels so guilty because now there are adults who need her care but can’t get it but she was just at breaking point Sad

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Shelby30 · 28/03/2020 10:16

I don't blame you, I would be scared too. Your family come first, totally get it. I'm just not sure I could actually quit though. Would you not have to give notice period too?

QueenofmyPrinces · 28/03/2020 11:15

15% of Spanish cases are health care workers Sad

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I0NA · 28/03/2020 12:05

@FannyCann

Fewer

RTA as people are driving less
Accidents at school or work, as they are mostly closed
Accidents and assaults related to alcohol misuse as pubs and clubs are closed
A&E visits from patients with minor self limiting conditions as they are scared of catching the virus
Sporting injuries as team sports and facilities are all off
Admissions from nursing homes etc

Once this is over, the hospitals and divorce courts will be busy with the back log.

Winter2020 · 28/03/2020 13:07

sorry I'm not able to read the full thread (got to page 5). but you do what you've got to do. It's a horrible choice but yours to make. All I do know is that no one who is practicing "stay home - save lives" has any right to judge you.

I work in care and I am begging my age 60plus colleagues to refuse to work. the risks to their age group are too great. Recruiting retired doctors and nurses is utter madness and negligent. They will work with victim and when they get the virus have a 3 1/2 % chance of dying!!

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My husband has said I can quit my job if I want to.
FannyCann · 28/03/2020 14:31

A&Es will soon start filling up again with bored idiots pulling stunts at home not to mention the DIY accidents if the banging from next door is anything to go by.

twitter.com/daaronovitch/status/1242212468635639810?s=21

FannyCann · 28/03/2020 14:38

At risk of derailing the thread but it know exactly how hard it is to remove every trace of cooking oil from a kitchen floor and make it safe again. My first ever job was in a hotel kitchen in Devon one summer. After lunch service I had to clean out the chip fryer, draining all the oils through a filter, cleaning the fryer and pouring the oil back. One day I forgot to close the flue, flooding the floor with still hot oil. The owner went mad! GrinGrinGrin
Threw large bags of salt and flour all over it to soak it up. Washed and washed and washed and it was still like a skating rink.

I was sacked soon after. HmmGrin

Bluebell1995 · 28/03/2020 14:54

I'm not a nurse, but on the front line x-raying the positive and suspected patients as they come in, in wards and in ITU. That's pretty much all I do all day.

I'm worried and stressed, don't sleep well, cry a little most days. I worry for my family and me. But when I'm at work I feel proud to be helping and doing my bit and I wouldn't have it any other way. It's my job.

I have the recommended PPE, but it's awful (unless when working with ventilated patients, then it's good).

When the antibody test comes out, you might find you have immunity to it anyway!

QueenofmyPrinces · 28/03/2020 14:57

When the antibody test comes out, you might find you have immunity to it anyway!

God that would be the dream!!

I’ve been exposed to so many respiratory viruses throughout my working life that maybe I’ve got a forcefield of a viral immune system that even Covid-19 can’t crack Grin

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Bluebell1995 · 28/03/2020 15:02

Definitely @QueenofmyPrinces
Imagine how much difference it would make. I feel like Covid-19 is a massive dark shadow over me. I have to push the dark thoughts away and hope me and my family will get the mild version because inevitably we will be getting it.

It makes you question everything.

stairway · 28/03/2020 15:02

Fannycann my little girl tipped a bottle of cooking oil onto the carpet last month , I’m still trying to get the stain out.

stairway · 28/03/2020 15:05

I’m hoping for the mild version too, but with high viral load in might not be possible. I have an 11 year old so his risk is 0.2 % which I think is similar to measles ( death). for me it’s like working in a ward full of measles infection and then coming home to my unvaccinated son 😥

stairway · 28/03/2020 15:07

I’m not working at the moment but will be back soon( probably) It has crossed my mind to try and deliberately infect myself with a low dose ( maybe from the supermarket). It’s so crazy to be in this situation.

QueenofmyPrinces · 28/03/2020 15:29

It has crossed my mind to try and deliberately infect myself with a low dose ( maybe from the supermarket). It’s so crazy to be in this situation.

One of my colleagues got sent home a few shifts ago because she had the most horrendous cough with a temperature of 38.6 and I was so tempted to ask her for a kids and a cuddle before she left....

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FannyCann · 28/03/2020 17:10

stairway you may as well give up. I doubt it's possible to get that stain out.

Also please don't go trying to catch the infection anyone. You can't know if you will just get a mild version or be seriously ill. Plus before you get sick you may infect family members or patients.

EC22 · 28/03/2020 17:16

I’m scared but I’m also scared that mum catches it and I want there to be staff there caring for her if she does.
That’s what stops me contemplating leaving.

littlemixarerubbish · 28/03/2020 20:15

@Doggybiccys you can't compare this to working with AIDs patients. Lay people were worried about infection because they didn't understand how HIV was transmitted. But HCP's did understand, and it's fairly straightforward to take precautions to prevent infection. I've previously worked in an HIV specialist unit. But I chose that job, and I knew that I was safe.
I agree with others who have said your attitude toward the OP has been shitty.

ButteredGhost · 29/03/2020 18:55

There is no point saying you signed up for this, as nurses don't "sign up", they are hired, same as any job. And if you think OP should have planned her whole career around the possibility of a pandemic, why doesn't that apply to everyone? For example, why should people who have been laid off get 80% of their wage, surely it's their own problem as they should have chosen a different "pandemic proof" career. Some could say being unemployed is "what you sign up for" when you work for anyone but mask/chest freezer/loo roll manufacturer. Clearly that would be ridiculous though. And so is saying it to nurses.

bluebird3 · 29/03/2020 19:16

My husband is an ITU doctor. We could afford for him to quit, but he never would in a million years. He feels completely and totally duty bound to care for patients and if it costs him his life he accepts that risk. He's the bravest person I know.

If it were me, I would want to quit. I'm well aware that I am a coward and when it comes to fight or flight I would instinctively choose flight. So not judging, but hoping/praying that other medical professionals like you don't choose to leave, as being understaffed will put those that stay, like my husband at more risk.

Chrisinthemorning · 29/03/2020 19:42

I don’t think you are BU. It’s a tough one Flowers
I am a dentist and as we are closed they are talking about sending us into hospitals. NHS dentists it’s more that they are being redeployed but for me it would be a request.
I’m not doing it. I would be terrified. I have just started antidepressants anyway for the anxiety COVID has caused. DS is off school and DH who earns more than me is WFH very hard, so I will be staying at home to home school DS.

QueenofmyPrinces · 29/03/2020 20:16

Work has been awful today. We are all just so tense and scared. Three nurses on my ward today have been in tears because they are being sent to areas that are high risk.

A Consultant in a nearby hospital died today from Corona (other wise healthy man) and one of our own Registrars is up on ITU on a ventilator.

It’s all too close to home and we are petrified.

I wish I could just wrap myself up in my duvet and not step foot near the hospital again.

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LucheroTena · 29/03/2020 21:06

It’s terrible that so many young HCP are getting it so seriously. It’s telling us that PPE isn’t adequate. We’re mere cannon fodder.

thesunisoutout · 29/03/2020 21:31

The ENT consultant that has died from this should be a massive wake up call to all staff in the NHS. We are no less important that any other member of society. No PPE, no care. It's the governments fault, not ours. I will be walking out too unless I'm properly protected. The problem is, what the NHS says is proper protection isn't necessarily right but you don't have a leg to stand on as they have an excuse for everything.

Miljea · 29/03/2020 23:22

Why aren't we seeing TV footage of proper mask and gown manufacturers working 24/7 to produce the necessary PPE? Or is that all done in China?

As I've already said, 2 weeks ago, I, a coal face radiographer, was taught how to don full Ebola, bar The Mask, (which happened last week). Great.

But now, it's basically a bin liner and a paper towel. That, apparently, is now fine. Like we believe, for one second, that epidemiology has decreed it. Rather than The Trust has run out of stock.

And if you voted Tory, fuck off with your Thursday evening applause.

QueenofmyPrinces · 30/03/2020 00:34

As I've already said, 2 weeks ago, I, a coal face radiographer, was taught how to don full Ebola, bar The Mask, (which happened last week). Great. But now, it's basically a bin liner and a paper towel. That, apparently, is now fine. Like we believe, for one second, that epidemiology has decreed it. Rather than The Trust has run out of stock.

In the lead up to the virus hitting the UK myself, my fellow nursing staff and the medical team were trained and tested in all the PPE, Management made a huge song and dance about it, chasing after us telling us how imperative it was that we were all trained, getting male staff to shave off their beards so the vital masks would fit correctly etc etc

But now - suddenly the PPE is no longer required and an apron, a papery mask and a visor that is to be wiped down between patients, is more than enough to keep us safe.

We aren’t allowed to carry the alcoholic hand gels on our person anymore either because we have been told there isn’t enough stock for staff to have an individual bottle each.

It just feels like nobody cares if we are protected or not and that we are being fobbed off and lied to in order to keep us in line. Morale is so low and there’s just no faith in Management anymore, we don’t feel like we are all equal parts of a team - instead we feel like there is some big conspiracy going on behind our backs and they we are just seen as collateral damage.

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