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Coronavirus IVF embryo transfer cancelled

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 17:42

Hey all,

Feeling very upset, my ET wasn't until end of April but ive been advised to stop all medication. Its been a rollercoaster of emotions :(. I am with a clinic in London and am paying for it privately, surely it should my decision if i would like to go ahead?
Has anyone else's been cancelled?
#feelingsad

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OnTheEdgeOfTheNight · 24/03/2020 18:02

It's okay to be upset about this, of course that's going to be really disappointing for you. Hopefully you'll get better news soon. This won't last forever.

elizabethrose · 24/03/2020 18:05

Hi OP, I only know a little bit about this so I'm only surmising, but it may be because some private clinics and clinicians are being asked to move to NHS services? Or perhaps that pregnant women are high risk so they're trying to reduce the risk? I can imagine it's very upsetting - have they talked through the reasons with you or offered a consultation?

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 24/03/2020 18:15

I'm undergoing IVF too and just been cancelled
(My 5th round and 3rd of a 3 cycle package and was actually due to transfer on this one as have been cycling constancy since jan 1st)

I have to say I fully support the reasonings behind cancelling cycles. It's well known that IVF patients generally need more NHS support during their pregnancies than others and their is a moral argument against making women pregnant right now to burden the NHS at a time when the resources need to be elsewhere. Also we don't know what affect the virus has on an early pregnancy - the virus is too new to say that it doesn't harm it nor that it does. What we do know is that high fever in early pregnancy can cause miscarriage and birth defects. I personally wouldn't want to have sunk £35k and then lost a perfectly good embryo for the sake of waiting a couple of months. This will be our final cycle. No more money or emotional reserves left and zero chance of natural pregnancy due to losing both tubes to ruptured ectopics. I want to give this the best chance I can. If that means waiting 2-3 months so be it x

sayanythingelse · 24/03/2020 18:17

Sorry to hear that OP. As disappointing as it is, it's probably not the best time to be getting pregnant, it would make you a vunerable person if this hasn't blown over by then.

I know how you feel though. It took us 6 years to conceive DD and we've just been referred back to the fertility clinic for #2. I'm kind of relieved I didn't get pregnant naturally within the past few months though. A couple of my friends are pregnant at the moment and worried sick.

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 22:51

Hey, i think it is most likely for my own good. Its just that i lost my daughter at 22 weeks in my first IVF cycle, this was 2 years ago and now ive built the courage to go for IVF again, its been cancelled:(

I completely understand its for my own good but i just feel so sad :(

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 22:53

Thank you for your message, means alot.

Its just when your looking forward to something and its all thrown back :(
I know its for a good reason but it hurts.

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 22:56

Love your positivity! Im wishing you all the luck in the world, i hope it all gos well xx

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Rumtopf · 24/03/2020 22:56

I can understand you feeling sad and I'm so sorry to read of your loss.

I think with everything that's going on right now it's really the best decision. I just had EC yesterday and am waiting to see how my embryos develop and hoping that they grow enough to freeze. Obv my clinic have put a halt on fresh transfer so will be a FET as and when it becomes available again. I'm beyond disappointed and very frustrated as we are privately funded too with age and low AMH against me.

Hannah021 · 24/03/2020 22:57

im sorry about that. I had a private surgery cancelled, before even any of this escalated in anticipation of the need for beds in the (private) hospital...

widdioisright · 24/03/2020 22:58

So sorry for you OP.

Same as my daughter,she was due her second cycle.Let’s hope all is back on track as soon as possible.

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 23:02

Thank you @rumtopf i suppose you just learn to live with your losses and solider on.

How did you find the EC? You will need plenty of rest to recover x

Fingers crossed for you, for the next 5 days Smile

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JanewaysBun · 24/03/2020 23:03

So sorry for your loss. Yes this completely sucks for you, are they able to freeze the egg? (Sorry if This is obvious I don't know much about the transfer process) xx

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Barnfield10 · 24/03/2020 23:08

Yes definitely!

Its just something you look forward to and all of a sudden you get news its not happening.

Please give my message to your daughter ' be strong as this time will pass, its a test for us and we will pass with flying colour, before we know it this will all be over and we will be holding our own babies in our armsSmile'

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Rumtopf · 24/03/2020 23:29

@Barnfield10 I think you do. I've had 8 miscarriages and if I wasn't able to compartmentalise I'd have fallen into a heap by now. It went well, thank you for asking, and I'm right as rain now, was raking the lawn and reseeding today and enjoying the beautiful sunshine. I'm counting down the days and hoping beyond hope that we get some good grade blasts to freeze!
I hope for both of us, and everyone else in the same boat, that the restrictions are lifted before too long as the virus is being handled well.

ccrags37 · 27/03/2020 23:20

Hope everyone is doing ok. We had our first IVF cancelled a week or so ago after doing all the jabs. I was hoping they could do the collection and freeze them but it wasn’t possible. Trying to keep perspective and enjoying having a g&t again - every cloud eh. Sending a hug and positive vibes to anyone who needs it x

Naz110 · 31/03/2020 12:53

Hey, sorry to hear that. Hope you are ok :)
Im hoping this dark cloud passes so everything can go back to normal.

My eggs have been frozen for the past 2 years, i am ready now to move onto the next stage but my clinic are now closed.

Giving everyone a big hug who is going through the same thing xx we can pull through this xx

Guaccamole · 31/03/2020 16:06

Well hi there.
I have paid thousands now & was due to start my first of two pre paid ICSI, due to start noresthiserone tablets Monday 23/ 3/2020. Nurse called me Friday before & said bad news cannot start. I'm still devastated today but I do agree with @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted
I spent so much now and waited so long , gone through so many test, learned patience many times over, if it takes another 12weeks before I can start then I'd rather give myself the best chance of a healthy baby first ICSI cos it's my only way. zero chance of natural conception for us. Hubby's still gutted as it's his issue.

thunderthighsohwoe · 31/03/2020 16:13

Yep, we were due to have a frozen transfer this month, for our second child. We’re gutted, as the clinic planned the timing carefully to give us the best chance at a good maternity leave (I’m a teacher - timing matters!).

I know it must be done, but I’m still so sad about the maternity leave and that the age gap will be bigger than we’d like.

SingforAbsolution · 31/03/2020 16:16

I'm sorry this happened OP. It's ok to feel like this.

Most HCPs have been called back to the NHS in these horrendous times. It really is all hands to the pumps atm, with many of us working outwith our normal areas of expertise.

daydreamdaisy · 31/03/2020 16:19

So sorry this happened. If you like podcasts, I listen to one called Big Fat Negative about infertility and they just put out a new episode about how it feels to have cycles cancelled because of corona.
Just thought it might help you feel a bit less alone. Thinking of you ❤️

YellowCorvette · 31/03/2020 16:37

My first IVF cycle was cancelled last week too. I found myself feeling relieved - it's such an uncertain time I think it's for the best.

I know every month counts to us, we've already been through so much, but I'm glad I won't need to head into the clinic at be at more risk, and then actually worry more if the cycle was successful!

I'm trying to keep positive, and remind myself lockdown is easier without little ones to fret about/keep entertained. My friend is really struggling with her toddler, I don't envy her at the moment!

Naz110 · 02/04/2020 00:19

Its such a uncertain time but i think its for the best ey.
Once the storm has passed it will calm alot of us xx

I think for me personally i think about 'what if this, what if that' and it really bugs me! Im just trying to stay positive and remembering everything happens for a reason.

Naz110 · 02/04/2020 00:21

Your message made me smile, love the positivity honestly!

Naz110 · 02/04/2020 00:22

Hey, thank you for the message xx

I will definitely listen to this podcast tmrw :)

Hope you are well and keeping safe

Goonbear · 03/04/2020 23:36

We are devastated. I have extremely low Amh at 0.4 at 35 years of age. My results will probably make everyone happy they are not me! Still in total shock. Started an iui cycle, got 2 large follicles at 18 mm which I thought was good as this was on one ovary as the other had a cyst on. Cycle got cancelled the evening before due to coronavirus risk. Feel like that's it for us now and that i won't have any eggs left by the time clinics reopen. Does any one have any advice? How long are clinics likely to be shut? Has anyone got pregnant with such low amh? Should we change yo private as current clinic is nhs and at risk of being taken over yo help with Coronavirus. Any advice or thoughts helpful as feel like I'm going crazy with worry! Xx