Anyone else not able to see their partner?

[heidihigh]

I know this is minimal in the grand scheme of things, and I know other people are having a much, much worse time but anyone else not live with their partner and so are now unable to see them for a minimum of 3 weeks?

It's a horrible situation and of course we will do what is right staying the f at home but god it's rubbish!

Stay safe everyone

I agree. If we knew a time scale then I think it would be easier to cope with. Unfortunately due to the nature of the situation it's impossible to predict how long it may be. I'm trying to think about how great it will be once we're allowed to be with them again but I must admit I am really struggling

Yes!! Both of us are key workers and We're long distance anyway so only really see each other when he's delivering over my way (Truck driver) we still talk all the time on the phone but he said the other day I'm starting with depression again. I'm finding it pretty hard because our Baby's due date would've been on the 7th of May but we lost our Baby in October and the thought of not being able to see him or anyone else on that day if we're still in the current situation is tearing me apart.

Dh and I are in different countries and have not seen him since 12th Feb. Am not expecting to see him until after the summer.
It’s not too bad foe me, but tough on dd.

Me too! It's really hard. We live 100 miles apart and I normally spend every weekend at his. He's a key worker, I have older teenage/young adult children still at home, so one of us moving in with the other for the duration isn't an option. We both have VR headsets so have been meeting up virtually and watching films, so that's been nice, but not the same as a hug. It's the indefinite nature of it all that's crippling. I can just about see the light at the end of the tunnel for 12 weeks, but longer than that makes me feel seriously anxious!

I've rebooked my wedding for September. I know that we don't know how long this will last but I need something to focus on and look forward to. Having it booked has lifted my mood again.
We've started video calling more because voice calls just weren't enough. He has finally found a spot in his house which has good connection.

I'm really struggling with it too still, we are face-timing at night and watching series' together, but I miss falling asleep in a heap on him and him nudging me, and me pretending I hadn't really nodded off!!! We are also playing online games together. Apart from that its rhe normal messaging a bit during the working day and the odd phone call first thing. Praying this is over by June

That is also the part I’m finding hardest ... not knowing when we will see each other again. It’s impossible to keep the same level of closeness and connection up over video call and this makes me feel lonely and also anxious for the future. Even though I know we love each other and have a strong relationship I can’t get my head around what will happen if this goes on for months.
I too am trying to focus on the good times we will have when this is all over. Also trying not to think about the future at all, just keep on reminding myself that everything is fine at this moment.
It does help though to know that others are experiencing the same emotions.

@badhairday101 I've worried about losing the closeness too, but then I thought well if our relationship can't stand a few months apart like this, then it can't have been that strong anyway (I told myself that, but the irrational part of me- 99% at the moment doesn't listen!) In all seriousness though, he will be missing you just as much, think of all the armed forces couples who have to sustain their relationships being apart for months on end, we will be fine, although it's as good a test as moving in is I think.

I am also in the same boat. I'm been feeling overwhelmed by everything and the last two times we have FaceTimed I have ended up in tears. I feel lonely and worried and terribly sad.

I'm with you all on feeling like how on earth do we keep the closeness there for potentially a couple of months without seeing each other. It's extremely difficult, we've been FaceTiming every night and he will generally call me on his way home from work but I feel very distant from him at the minute although I'm sure it's just me over thinking

Me too. My partner lives 200 miles away from me and we haven't seen each other for a month - and god knows when we will. We're calling each day but it's not the same and I can't support him with his anxiety over this and also his cancer, which is remaining untreated at the moment (low risk and unlikely to spread, but still worrying).

Booboo that’s exactly what I’ve been telling myself too! It really doesn’t help having too much time to think, because you’re right it does just stray in to totally irrational once I start 😂.
It doesn’t help that he sounds like a robot on the phone he just finds it so awkward, luckily he’s a bit better over FaceTime.

Yes I haven’t seen my partner in 3 weeks, we are both key workers and my Mum is terminally ill in hospital so I am quite a risk at the moment.

Tbh it is what it is, there is no point getting upset. We will see each other again and we are both incredibly busy anyway. Plus no snoring!

Me. We're used to it though so it's not too bad. I'm jealous of him being somewhere pretty rural though. I keep trying to take photos of urban foxes trotting about with more confidence than usual to compete with the cows and fields and big skies I'm being sent!

Thanks for this thread.

DP and I are in different countries too. He's in Spain and was due to be back at the end of this month which obviously won't be happening now. All flights from Spain have now been cancelled and I have no idea when he's going to be back.

I'm in the same boat and it is hard. We've found lots of ways to keep the connection strong though I do feel really close to him.

We FaceTime and WhatsApp A LOT. We also use a great app called JQBX to create playlists and listen together. I'd really recommend it if you both like music.

@booboo24 what online games are you playing? That sounds really cool.

@JenaWren mainly chess and monopoly! Not our usual pastime but it's breaking the night up a bit! We haven't managed to get any others to work yet but we are working in it!!! I might leave him if he becomes any more competitive than he already is!!!!

JenaWren thanks for the positivity! I’ll definitely look at that app, we both love music.
We’re learning an instrument at the moment and had been doing it together, so currently doing it over FaceTime which has been a good way to stay connected.

Ooh learning an instrument is a great idea. I'll add that to the list. (Wonders if the recorder counts?!)

I'm rubbish at chess but monopoly might work!!

Me! 3 weeks in & I've had a little cry on facetime tonight. I'm really missing him but he's stayed in his home town so he can see his son so we just have to suck it up.

It's the not knowing when it's going to be over that's doing my head in. It's my birthday in May & his 40th in June, I'm just hoping we can be together for that. Obviously I want us both to stay safe but it's really hard & it's only been 3 weeks!!

How are people watching TV series together? I've just started a thread asking that same question.

I'm so glad I've got my cats to keep me company, DP is totally on his own when he's not got his son so feel for him in that respect too.

Me too! Thank you for this thread- it's good to know there are so many of us going through the same thing. As others have said, it's not knowing how long it will be before we can see each other again that's so hard...I'll never take a simple hug forgranted again 😔

Well not 'good to know' there are so many of us experiencing this horrible separation, but you know what I mean!

diege I know exactly what you mean.

JenaWren of course recorder counts!

@StrawberryFizz26 we are face timing and then setting up a programme to watch at the same time on our tablets/laptops!! There may be better ways of doing it but but we are pressing play at the same time, and trying to get it spot on so each other's doesn't drown the sound out for the other one!