Anyone else not able to see their partner?

[heidihigh]

I know this is minimal in the grand scheme of things, and I know other people are having a much, much worse time but anyone else not live with their partner and so are now unable to see them for a minimum of 3 weeks?

It's a horrible situation and of course we will do what is right staying the f at home but god it's rubbish!

Stay safe everyone

I'm really struggling today I've been mostly ok this week but it's really hitting my tonight, especially after watching today's press conference where it was made clear that we're in this situation for "a couple of months". I genuinely don't know how I'm going to get through this, my mental health isn't great usually but it's really taking a battering at the minute

Ah heidihigh it’s really shit. I’m just trying to keep busy and doing one day at a time at the moment.
I think when either of us have been away and not seen each other for a while it’s been fine because we have the whole rest of our lives, work, family, friends and instead of sadness we are just excited to see each other when the time comes round. We don’t have any of that at the moment and I think it feels like grieving for our old lives.
I’ve been hammering yoga which keeps me sane usually and really helps me mentally so I’m going to keep on going with that.
Keep posting on here, we’ll all help each other through it x

Really struggling too. This morning is got my head round it a bit and kicked myself, but the new uncertainty is cruel

We're in separate countries.
Not seen him since January and was due to fly out at end of may but that's been cancelled.
Just rebooked for September. I'm heartbroken but there is nothing we can do. I can't afford to go out in July or August and June is unlikely to be doable because of the virus.
We were supposed to be getting married on 4th June 😭

Oh, @fairgame! 💐

Yes another one

No, he is military and will likely be unable to come home for a few months. We are used to it though I guess!

I'm in the same boat, been together 5 years but he lives 80 miles away with his very ill mum (dementia). We have been engaged forn4 years and we were waiting until our youngest children had settled in at secondary school before looking to move in together somewhere mid way between our 2 locations. That time was this Augist.....He is now there, I'm here, and boy am I struggling!

Still seeing mine every weekend. I get in the car, drive straight there, and we self isolate for the weekend. I don’t see anyone on the way, about an hour’s drive, and he doesn’t come to my house. He works from home, I’m front line working. I get straight in the shower when I get there and launder all my clothes. Not endangering anyone.

Me. I haven't seen him for 1.5 weeks and won't until lockdown is over. We're used to long distance/gaps in seeing in each other but it is difficult.

I think it’s harder because it’s a horrible time anyway and the comfort of a partner with yiu would help so much, and because of the uncertainty as to how long this will go on.

Yeah me too. It sucks not knowing when there's an end to it but it was better he stayed at his own place near where his mum is so he can deliver shopping to her doorstep as she is vulnerable.

And to be fair if he'd stayed here at mine we may have murdered each other by now 😂 enjoying my solitude :)

@runmybathforme if you're front line working you know you're endangering him?!? 🙄

My boyfriend and I live apart. It’s hard but not the end of the world and there are many upsides to being temporarily single - in certain ways it’s been nice having a bit more space for me tbh.

The hardest part is lack of visibility as to when it will end. And quite hard to sustain a relationship based entirely around phone/video conferencing/WhatsApp.

But in the scheme of things it’s a small price to pay really. Very happy to abide by it for the sake of saving lives.

I'm finding it really difficult. I feel so lonely.

Yes, I'm at risk, 90 year old Mum is at risk so I've moved in with her for probably 12 weeks, maybe longer. After 30 years of happy marriage we will survive it but it's shit.............

I’m finding it hard too. I only see him about half the week, but the thought of not seeing him for months is devastating. We only don’t live together because our houses are tiny so he can’t WfH here with the children being bouncy.

We thought about him living here and commuting to his house 5 minutes away for work, but he needs to pop into the office (council) every week or two. I’m front line so assume I’ll pick up the virus before him tbh.

I am in the same situation and the news tonight is devastating I just can’t see an end.

We have just brought a new house together and were in the process of getting a new kitchen when the restrictions came into place. The whole kitchen has been ripped out (disposes off) and howdens were in the middle of delivery of the new fully paid kitchen. Then they closed. Only half has turned up so it is completely unliveable. It is literally a shell with no running water.

The only option was for me to move back to parents whilst I wfh there. My mum is high risk so he could not come with me. He is a key worker. He is sleeping on the sofa at his parents as there is no room for me to live and work.

I’m struggling that I can’t just have a cuddle knowing he is so close.

I am annoyed as we are following the rules yet everyone I know who doesn’t live with their partners seem to be flouting them.

I’m glad I found this group to see there are others in this situation. I’m just so teary all the time.

I’m in the same position. We don’t live together.

I’m finding it really really hard. It’s the part I’m struggling to cope with and it’s definitely having a huge effect on my mental health. I can deal without cinemas, cafes and shops. But the thought of not being able to see him for months is just awful.

I’m so incredibly fed up with people who keep breaking the lockdown rules. I’m going weeks without seeing my partner and I’m feeling miserable because of it, yet other people don’t think the rules apply to them and are going back and forth to see theirs.

That's exactly how I feel leftovercoffeecake, we are sticking to the rules for the greater good, and therefore making these sacrifices, only to have others bend the rules, making what we are doing last even longer. It's so selfish

@leftovercoffeecake and @booboo24
You have both summed up exactly how I’m feeling.

I think the government should directly comment on this situation. The words are always don’t see relative and friends. I think they need to include partners in this. So it is taken more seriously. We are all making a huge sacrifice as we know this is what is being asked of us yet if others don’t follow this will just go on longer and it’s not fair. Maybe hearing it might ring alarm bells.

It’s the uncertainly. I’m looking at posts of people moaning they are bored. All I think is how ungrateful they are. I would give anything to be staying in with my partner having a lovely dinner and snuggling up.

I also feel so pathetic for the tears but I just can’t help it. A FaceTime does not compare.

I'm sorry to hear you're all feeling the same way it really sucks doesn't it. Just wish others would see the seriousness of the situation and stop going out flouting the rules so we can all get back to some form of normality as soon as possible. I'm thankful I'm still working at the minute so I have some form of routine, honestly don't know what I'd do stuck at home alone all day for weeks and weeks on end

to you all

I am following the rules. My b/f keeps saying when can he come over or proposing to drop stuff over. Just not getting it.

Just had a FaceTime with him and it's so boring I don't think there is much life left in it.. Don't think we will make it tbh. Oh well

Ah @IronNeonClasp sorry to hear that. Don't understand why some people clearly aren't getting the rules and why they are in place

Me and I would be ok not seeing him if I knew it was just 3 weeks, but at the briefings and in the media they keep talking about months and no end point in sight. I’m alone with a 9 month old baby - who’s also bored out her mind- and not sure how much longer I can keep it up.