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FFS how hard is it to understand - stop going out

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Zacharyezrarawlings · 20/03/2020 22:08

will you just stop going out ffs. I am a psychiatrist and thus a trained doctor. I graduated from medical school in 1997. I did 2 years working in general medicine/surgery then went on to specialise in psychiatry. I have been a psychiatrist now for over 20 years. I am shit hot at treating depression, OCD, anxiety, pscyhosis, personality disorders etc and all manner of mental health conditions. I am NOT shit hot at treating pneumonia, ventilating people, sepsis or even managing MIs, strokes, appendicitis, or any other number of medical or surgical situations. You really, really do not wnat me as your doctor if you are seriously physically unwell. But if you don't all stop going out this is what I will be asked to do over the coming weeks. This will not be giving patients the best care, it will be doing my best to try and keep them alive.and meanwhile my own patients with significant mental health conditions will be left to fend for themselves.
And all the time I will be exposing myself to a potenitally increased viral load and putting myself and my own family at risk.
You can all avoid this. It is really fucking simple. STOP GOING OUT!
You don't need you hair/nails/eyebrows doing. You do not need to meet up at your friends houses. Your teenagers do not need to see their friends. If you carry on doing these things more people will die.
I am actually despairing of peoples mentality right now. What is so hard to understand. yes its shit. Ive got my own family including teenagers and it is shit. But there is literally no choice.
Please, please, please stay at home unless absolutely essential.

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Balkinfly · 20/03/2020 22:55

Yes people worry me and they have from the beginning of this outbreak.

Rocketmam · 20/03/2020 22:59

It infuriates me.

In three weeks someone's dc could get appendicitis. Someone else might find a dodgy lump. Yet another could have a stroke.

If it goes the way I think it will (numbers wise) then the selfish, arrogant, bastard twats who are in the pub tonight will be partly responsible for clogging up the NHS.

I hope they don't get a bed. I hope any poor soul who didn't intentionally flout the rules gets it instead.

I don't even care if that makes me a bad person anymore. Humans suck.

ByeGermsByeWorries · 20/03/2020 23:00

I live opposite a village pub. It's absolutely rammed.

Frankiecandle · 20/03/2020 23:00

MN lives in a bloody bubble of conference calls and WFH. There are millions of people who can't WFH.

We are out and about every day. No one gives a fuck about us as long as you can get your loo roll and pasta.

WhyNotMe40 · 20/03/2020 23:01

I have OCD and GAD. I have to go into work (school) on Monday and be trapped yet again in a classroom for hours at a time with students who may infect me. Especially as many will be HCP children who will be at greater risk of being infected themselves.
My remaining parent has COPD. I have children with asthma.
I'm not getting much sleep.
I feel like I'm facing a firing squad.
I can keep the rest of my family home, but not me....
I never would have become a teacher if I thought there was a real risk of infection from a high fatality disease. My OCD wouldn't let me - it's why I didn't go into medicine!
I wish I could stay home

PattyandSelma · 20/03/2020 23:02

That’s very interesting about denial, I think there’s a lot of that going on. People literally CAN’T accept the reality of what’s happening here.

I do think as well a lot of people are inherently selfish and don’t even care if it’s their own family they might be hurting, as long as they can do what THEY want to Sad

Frankiecandle · 20/03/2020 23:03

I wish I could stay home. But I can't. And fifty million MN threads saying DON'T GO OUT is doing my head in.

Saladd0dger · 20/03/2020 23:03

I have been for my last pint and I enjoyed it. I work at a supermarket, if I’m going to catch it then it will be serving you lot

No fucks given

SinglePringle · 20/03/2020 23:04

Pretty much everyone on this thread understands that many many many people have to go out to work.

No one is judging you for this.

PattyandSelma · 20/03/2020 23:04

@frankiecandle I think the OP means unnecessary trips out.

Frankiecandle · 20/03/2020 23:05

Supermarket staff are bloody heros right now.

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Zacharyezrarawlings · 20/03/2020 23:06

whynot That is really hard. My Dh is a teacher so in a similar position. My Dad is also 86 with pulmonary fribrosis. I cant risk visiting him now and the reality is if he gets this he will most likely die and I may never see him again.It is all very shit which is why it makes me so mad to hear about pubs being full tonight.
Can you try to do anything to relax you? Distaction maybe for a bit? Hope you manage to get some sleep.

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Frankiecandle · 20/03/2020 23:07

Oh but they are judging. They see us on public transport or walking to work and they cats bum face at us plebs while they sit in their houses on their laptops.

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Zacharyezrarawlings · 20/03/2020 23:08

frankie obviously I do get that. I have to go out, obviously. But if you read the post this isnt about that. it is about people going out to get their hair/nails/eyeborws done, people going for "one last pint", people letting their teenagers hang out together etc...

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WhyNotMe40 · 20/03/2020 23:09

Thanks op. I am replaying old Gardeners question time episodes to try and chill out Flowers

SinglePringle · 20/03/2020 23:10

Anyone judging you for going to work is a knob. Ignore them and remember this thread.

You know your reasons are justified. You can’t control others thoughts. Ignore them.

Saladd0dger · 20/03/2020 23:11

Yes frankie. Sat at home moaning yet expect the rest of us to work around them lol

WhyNotMe40 · 20/03/2020 23:12

And fingers crossed for your dad. It's a horrible thought that we may not see loved ones again. That we or they may die alone due to quarantine. Video messaging is working for my DM however, so technology is helping.
Wish you all the best OP xx

AhoyMrBeaver · 20/03/2020 23:12

That's not true in my experience. Nobody even glances at me when I'm on my way to work, it's obvious I'm not out promenading. I'm not a pleb either.

iwanttoshakesomeppl · 20/03/2020 23:13

If a "medical professional" uses the phrase shit hot god help us all!

Toothsil · 20/03/2020 23:14

I know someone who thinks it's a big fuss over nothing, he's not going to change anything, if you have brief contact with someone like a courier at the door, how is that any different from seeing someone for an hour long visit...he just doesn't seem to grasp it. He thinks the government is out to control us and refuses to watch ANY news. I despair.

pallisers · 20/03/2020 23:14

It seems clear that if what the experts tell us is true about this virus, the UK is heading for a disaster. A significant minority (majority even?) including your own government either don't understand what is required or are reluctant to do it. Do the tories honestly want a significant reduction in population? It certainly seems like that.

pallisers · 20/03/2020 23:15

If a "medical professional" uses the phrase shit hot god help us all!

are you serious? THIS is what concerns you.

yikesanotherbooboo · 20/03/2020 23:16

Well said Zacharyezrarawlings I too have been in turns infuriated and depressed this week by selfish and wilfully irresponsible threads about what we should or shouldn't be doing. It's a crisis and every citizen needs to make sacrifices and pull their wait . Advice is clear.

Frankiecandle · 20/03/2020 23:17

The 'pleb' was sarcastic. Do we have to explain sarcasm on MN now?

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