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It's ok to feel whatever you are feeling right now..

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NameChange657 · 18/03/2020 16:47

I keep seeing posts telling people to get over how they are feeling because others have it worse and people are dying. One mother posted about being worried about lockdown with her two little ones in a flat, and she was basically told to shut up. I get that people have it worse, that's awful, but it's still OK to feel anxious and worried and scared about the changes that are coming. C'mon, it's not a competition for who has it worse off, so yeah, this is just a post to say it's ok to be worried, and it's ok to worry about the silly things. Your feelings are valid! Feel free to post about what is worrying you below, no judgement.

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ValleyoftheHorses · 18/03/2020 16:48

Thank you.

Wolfiefan · 18/03/2020 16:50

That’s lovely.
I’ve just had to RSVP To an invitation to a family wedding. Can’t send a card as too vulnerable to go out and buy one. Sent a message that had to say we would like to but if the situation doesn’t change then we can’t go. Sad
It’s not huge in the grand scheme of things. But still.

BiNgOoOo · 18/03/2020 16:50

Thank you op
I'm worried. I also got told my worries were not valid because I had a stable job.
We are all in this together

ValleyoftheHorses · 18/03/2020 19:12

Signed off work with anxiety today but have anxiety day to day anyway, just now it’s no longer liveable with.

Kbeeb1992 · 18/03/2020 19:16

Thats so nice to see, i have read so many things on here today with other people just shouting at others about how stupid they are. My husband works at sea and so far he has been unable to get to work as he needs to fly through America to get there, his ship will be on holland soon so hoping he can fly straight there if they dont have any restrictions by then. Im also worried about my sanity if he doesn’t get back to work soon!!

Wannabangbang · 18/03/2020 19:17

Think everyone's worries are valid at moment. I'm worried how my autisic daughter will cope with a different routine for so long, this isn't just going to be two weeks. Im also worried my vunerable mother may get it and die, also worried if my kids get it. Also worried about the state the world will be in after all this :(

Queenofpi · 18/03/2020 19:20

What a lovely message to put out there. Just because massive problems exist doesn't make our biggish problems easier for us to deal with. Thanks for staying this thread OP.

Rewy · 18/03/2020 19:21

NameChange657 thank you

ScoobyCan · 18/03/2020 19:23

Thank you. I can't stop crying. This shit just got real. I've had my kids off for two weeks already (preventative and with health conditions) and now I'm absolutely terrified about their EOW arrangement with their dad. What the actual f happens there???? What do I do????

Tootletum · 18/03/2020 19:29

Yeah. Can't wait for some horrible person to pipe up about how it's all to be expected and we should get over ourselves, as if trekking to five shops to buy eggs when I'm supposed to be working is something we're all used to. Half the people on here seem to get off on how well they're managing it because they built up a stash of [insert thing you're struggling to buy] in January. Karma to them.

BigGillsBigMac · 18/03/2020 19:32


I'm scared because I'm supposed to be isolating but can't get shopping online. There's just nothing available

I'm scared my kids will get ill

I'm scared my parents will die

I'm scared this is the beginning of some Mad Max type scenario because people are cunts and it won't be long before shops are looted and it's every man for himself

AgentCooper · 18/03/2020 19:58

Thank you for a kind thread. I have anxiety and depression. I have been feeling sick at the thought of no going to work, the gym or social contact. And the madness of the whole situation. I just wish it wasn’t happening. I keep crying when I think that two weeks ago I was taking DS to his favourite museums. Right now I just don’t need to be told that I need to just get on with it. I know that but I’m still in pain.

NameChange657 · 18/03/2020 19:59

@Wolfiefan it's so difficult to plan at the minute isn't it? All I can say is you don't need to feel guilty, I am so sure they will understand. It's my birthday tomorrow, but my sister is immunosuppressed so I can't see her and she keeps sending me messages saying she's not sure she can see me but she feels so bad, as someone on the other side, I can say we totally understand and hold NOTHING against you. Your health is your priority, and therefore completely understandable. Try to just go with the flow, follow the government advice and see where you stand when the wedding comes.

@BiNgOoOo: Stable job or not, it matters. I'm not sure I've met one person who isn't worried about their work or home situation right now, feel free to seek advice here if need be. I'm not great but I am sure someone on here will be able to help!

@ValleyoftheHorses I can 100% relate to this, I have anxiety and an eating disorder, the whole upheaval of what feels like the world is just a step too much isn't it? Take it hour by hour, minute by minute if you have too. I am trying to focus on what hasn't changed at the moment, and I have found crochet tutorials on youtube to pass hours away (whilst giving anxious hands something to do!!) you are not alone, and please please seek support if you can!

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Tonyaster · 18/03/2020 20:00

I'm terrified that me or dh will.die and leave our kids
I'm terrified one of my kids will go into intensive care and die with me not able to be there

RickOShay · 18/03/2020 20:03

You are right. It’s ok to feel how we feel. I hope you have a nice day tomorrow.
I feel overwhelmed with the pain in the world, the vulnerable. I can’t help them.

RickOShay · 18/03/2020 20:03

My family are lucky and bickering.
Not feeling the love for them right now.

TwelveIslands · 18/03/2020 20:08

My worry is that, having spent two weeks in isolation (half of which being ill) which will be up next week, that we go into lockdown as soon as this weekend which means that I'll not have chance to just be out and about (somewhere with no people!) just once.

Reasonably I can see London being locked down sooner than the rest of us, so my worry is probably unjustified.

TwelveIslands · 18/03/2020 20:11


Have you got a local coronavirus group on Facebook? There are two in my area, one of which is doing drop offs of cards with info of people who can help on them. Even if a local group isn't doing that, perhaps you can ask on one if someone can do shopping for you?

Jellykat · 18/03/2020 20:41

I cried about the situation today for the first time.
I'm self employed, with little savings and now have no income from Saturday.

But it wasn't that, i heard on the radio that people will not be able to be have individual funerals, and then i saw a picture of the temporary morgues theyre putting together in central London.
Its a real life horror film, these people are loved by someone, not just bodies. Sad

Powergower · 18/03/2020 20:47

Crying for the first time tonight. I'm bed on my own. Overwhelmed and scared. Worried about my teens missing the rest of the school year, hate them constantly on their phones. Worried about my job, our home, my husband, my kids, my elderly parents. Worried about how to feed everyone, when to go to the shops, worried about food. I've tried all week to hold it together but my anxiety and worry is so bad tonight. Wish my teens would be more responsible and be a bit more proactive. Wish I could be stronger.

Everything in terms of the world seems to be in freefall for years - trump, Boris, brexit, oz fires etc etc and now this. I'm really scared. I'm really upset at schools closing, it's the end of the primary era for us and I don't think my dc will be back in year 6 this year.

Thanks for letting me offload. I just cannot cope tonight.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 18/03/2020 20:47

Thank you. I've been called selfish multiple times because I was worried about school closing, because I can't work from home and we rely on my income to pay the bills. I don't know what I'm going to do now.

halcyondays · 18/03/2020 20:48

Thank you great post op.

Bobsandbitz · 18/03/2020 20:54

Thank you for posting this!! I've been feeling so low all day. As always, when bored and stressed, anxiety has been at peak. It's silly, I know, but it's hard dealing with nevertheless. I just want this to be over so our life goes back to normal. Going into the office. Planning holidays. Thinking about nice things, not cancelling plans and worry about this. Tonight I just feel close to crying. And I've got nothing real to cry about really!!
We're in this together. Let's keep checking in on each other.

ItsAllGoneToPot · 18/03/2020 20:54

Great thread. I'm a teacher and have been working hard all week to get all my classes set up on an online classroom. I've pulled out of my arse all the resources I can that they will be able to access at home.

Just received a nasty email off a parent telling me it wasn't good enough. It made me cry because the general public seem to think we are all just on a jolly now but I have family who will be unpaid, an ill grandmother and vulnerable parents.

Parents: we love your kids!! We do not want to be off work! I will go nuts! I could cry when I think of how they will all go backwards in their learning!

But this thread has made me realise that that parent is probably stressed to hell as well. So, peace and love to them.

Powergower · 18/03/2020 20:57

My best friend is a teacher and has spent all week preparing revision with for her gcse and a level class to be now told there's no exams. She's in tears and worried about the kids futures. Thank you to all the teachers and nhs workers.

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