Look, I know this is stupid but it's a self-isolation question

[yoloPenguinsEatfish]

I can't find any clear advice on this.

DH is immunosuppressed post chemo. DD comes back from French Alps tomorrow. She has had a cough/cold for last 4 weeks. She is convinced she and her team have all had C19, but none of her symptoms are new.

I have to pick her up from airport - 2 hour drive.

So, when we get home does she have to go to her room for 2 weeks? What about me? do I also have to self-isolate?

Our house and garden are huge, it would be entirely possible to sit 2m away from someone indoors, let alone in the garden. (not a stealth brag).

If she self-isolates in the strictest sense, would be fine - except I'd be running up 3 flights of stairs every time she wanted something. If I self-isolate, then a fuck of a lot would fall apart...

Honestly, WWYD?

I completely agree with keeponkeepingonagainstcorona why is everyone suggesting a possibly infected person to stay in a hotel? That's very selfish.

People are being so rude here. It's not like OP has bundled him off to 'infection hotel' without another thought. She's trying to work out how to protect everyone she loves.

OP I'd say your husband needs to self isolate within the house for his own protection from everybody, and your DD needs to isolate from the house for a fortnight, in case she's brought the virus back with her. And I don't think sitting her in the back seat with a window open is going to protect you. Jeez. There are some ridiculous suggestions here.

I cannot believe what I'm reading.

You need to protect your vulnerable DH, not baby your bloody adult daughter.

DO NOT do anything that risks your DH catching this.

If your daughter needs to find her own way from the airport and even find her own place to stay, then so be it. If she's capable of being away working in a foreign country she's capable of sacrificing a little to try to protect her father's life.

I'm putting this down to you not thinking straight through worry, because no one thinking clearly would be even considering doing what you're talking about.

And really people don't need to be so nasty to the OP. She is asking what's best to do WITHIN her own family, so there is minimal risk to people outside the family. Pretty sensible, unlike some people. All this faux outrage, just so people can get a kick at someome who is in a bit of a tricky situation.

She's not showing symptoms though. She doesnt have a fever or a continuous cough, and certainly not a new cough.

That's what makes it difficult.

By the way, having a cold is apparently not a symptom of having COVID-19. Did any of your daughter and her colleagues get a very high temperature as well, @yoloPenguinsEatfish? Or has the cough been causing respiratory problems? Because it could be that your daughter is catastrophising, which is unsurprising in the circumstance.

I've only just noticed the bit about your daughter having symptoms and potentially being infected, yet planning to get on a plane to travel back to the U.K. !

Absolutely staggering how selfish some people can be!

This is a global emergency which needs everyone to do what's right to protect as many people as possible from catching this virus. How on earth can you even start to think any of your plans are sensible.

It really is ridiculous.

Downton Those things have already been made clear to OP so I'm assuming you just wanted to add the 'vitriol' aspect.

I have never been so ashamed to be British

Don't be daft. Most people are keeping a level head and doing their best to comply with government advice despite us being led by donkeys.

What horrible bitchy responses. Poor OP was already reluctant to ask her question as can be read in her thread title.

OP I hope you find a solution and please ignore all the horrible replies. I wish you all well.

Sorry, x-posted with you, @yoloPenguinsEatfish. Please talk to doctors about this before your daughter lands!

I hope DD takes this responsibility on herself ,if an adult ,and not put pressure on her parents to make a decision i.e. 'Hi Mum & Dad, due to my situation I won't be coming to stay back home but don't worry I've made other arrangements and will be in touch' .

Can you borrow a car and it's driver, op? Then your daughter could drive herself home? I know it's not strictly the journey that's bothering you, but if she's infectious she shouldn't be in a car with anybody or on police transport.

Agree with this. Ignore the vipers

OP, take your DD home, isolate her from your DH as far as possible for a few weeks, scrupulous cleaning and not close contact and it will be fine. Hotels are fucking germ factories so never put a vulnerable person in them.
Big home, sensible cleaning and all will be ok.

Shouldn’t your DH be self isolating anyway even without the added complication of your daughter coming home.

Why hasn’t your DD been tested if she thought she had CV? Other countries are testing aren’t they?

The government advice is that the cough can continue for a number of weeks but the individual only needs to isolate for 7 days from onset of symptoms (unless their temperature remains high - and if you live with others, then 14 days for the household).
Provided your DD doesn't have a temperature I wouldn't worry too much, beyond good hand hygiene.

The dd returning from France needs to go and stay with a relative until their cold has resolved. She is not a baby and should be able to understand and appreciate the situation....If she doesn’t then she needs to mature fast.

Any chance your daughter can stay with one of the friends she’s been travelling with for a couple of weeks and they can self isolate together? They are going to need to isolate anyway if they’ve come back from abroad with the same symptoms.

The relevant factors here seem to be that we have one young healthy person and another person whose immune system has been suppressed by chemo. Which one of those is more at risk and could benefit most from keeping away from possible sources of infection?

I can’t believe you think this is up for debate OP. I understand that you have missed your adult child and want to give her some TLC but you don’t seem to be thinking straight on this.

sorry but DD needs to go to hotel - you collect her after 2 weeks. She is being selfish coming home

Taxi home then self isolates.

OP - sorry you're in this difficult situation. As you can see from the variety of replies, none of us knows what to do. Do you have a sympathetic GP you could discuss this with over the phone?

Tell her to go stay with a friend

Why does she even think it’s ok to come home ,with the current situation,
Unless she’s a teenager ,then obviously
But if she’s an adult daughter,she knows the risks and should not be coming home

Get a friend/ family member to drive up to the airport (assuming you have access to more than 2 cars in your household). Meet daughter at airport at a distance (no touching etc) take her to where the car is and leave keys in car so you don't have to touch each other. Let her drive herself home, you and friend go home in the other car.

Daughter self isolates at home for 7 days.

Clean inside of car thoroughly.