Look, I know this is stupid but it's a self-isolation question

[yoloPenguinsEatfish]

I can't find any clear advice on this.

DH is immunosuppressed post chemo. DD comes back from French Alps tomorrow. She has had a cough/cold for last 4 weeks. She is convinced she and her team have all had C19, but none of her symptoms are new.

I have to pick her up from airport - 2 hour drive.

So, when we get home does she have to go to her room for 2 weeks? What about me? do I also have to self-isolate?

Our house and garden are huge, it would be entirely possible to sit 2m away from someone indoors, let alone in the garden. (not a stealth brag).

If she self-isolates in the strictest sense, would be fine - except I'd be running up 3 flights of stairs every time she wanted something. If I self-isolate, then a fuck of a lot would fall apart...

Honestly, WWYD?

how old is she OP?
This is blowing my mind

She should get a cab and self isolate in a hotel for 2 weeks.

The problem with self isolating in a hotel is that she could pick it up from the maid/ room service on day 14 and bring it home.
Testing is the only safe way to contain this and the UK is not doing that.
Any of us could self isolate for 14 days then venture out to get food or supplies and contract the virus.
I worry about this because I am immunosuppressed.
My DC are desperate for me to get out of the UK asap, but I have to weigh up the risks of travelling versus the risks of staying put and not being able to access NHS help if I get sick.

She needs to be anywhere other than near or in the same house as your DH

You cannot be serious. And I cannot believe you'd rather send your DH to a hotel than your daughter because his company can pay for the hotel bill if he goes. How much is his health worth to you?

Give the OP a break. She is just thinking through the options. A bit of compassion would go a long way in these testing times.

Can your dd get a train from the airport to home, or even to anywhere near you? As long as she sanitises her hands, doesn’t touch her face and stays away from other passengers she should be fine. That will eliminate your risk.

Then she needs to self isolate in her room once home to make sure she doesn’t pass anything on.

If she can drive can you take a taxi back from the airport?

It’s not ideal but since you will be exposed anyway from the drive why doesn’t your DH isolate in your house as you say it is big enough? Perhaps he can have a couple of rooms to himself.

Is it just you, your DH and DD2 at home? Perhaps you, DD1 and DD2 could all isolate together for a fortnight then.

Please don’t expose the cab driver.

If she’s been in a ‘Team’, I expect she’s been working for a ski company. Surely she can go home with one of them & isolate with them? They won’t ALL be 18 & living at home. You might want to see her & she probably wants to see you, but she would have been away another couple of months if this hadn’t happened. She needs to go in a private car to a private home - like her 30 odd ‘team mates’ do.

If you have a large house presumably with more than one bathroom then you can all stay away from each other in the same house.

There's published advice about this and your DH needs his own bathroom, towels etc. Is he well enough to look after himself, food, laundry etc?

So just separate him from the rest of the household and keep an eye on each other from a safe distance.

Op, not sure why people are being so unkind and harsh.

• don’t send your DP to a hotel
• everyone should stay home but both DH and DD should stay in their rooms and you can bring them things. Not sure how long for - DD is seven days according to guidance, and DH would probably be 14 days.

I really wouldn't want her in the car for a 2 hour drive sadly, not would I want to inflict that on a taxi driver.
Airport hotel for 2 weeks for her and reassess then, I imagine there's zero demand right now so won't be too pricy. You can always drive down alone to drop off books, food, laptop etc

You’d rather send your immunity suppressed dh to a hotel with lord knows who than your, presumably adult, daughter who has been working away. You must be daft. Can your daughter not hire a car and drive herself back or ideally stay away until she is pretty sure she is not going to infect her father.

yolo I was just reading you can buy testing kits privately. Not sure if that’s an option financially for you but may be cheaper than a hotel for a fortnight.

If your daughter falls within the requirements to self isolate do NOT send her to a hotel. Most hoteliers are currently on the brink of financial ruin with the government advice to avoid travel. The very last thing they need is an infectious person on site infecting their staff, customers, and delivery personnel. They could be forced to shut, deep clean, and quarantine everyone on site. They don't have the financial reserves to do this. I can't believe people are suggesting this.

Corona is revealing this country to be selfish and self serving. I am quite shocked. Stock piling. Fights in supermarkets. Farming infected family out of establishments, and taxi drivers, who are already in dire financial straits, and are facing financial ruin.

I have never been so ashamed to be British.

Collect your daughter yourself. Self isolate the whole family in different rooms of your huge house. If the weather is nice she can spend much of the time gardening. It is not like you are trapped together in a tiny flat.

DO NOT expose others out of selfishness.

DD1 has been away since mid Dec, I think she needs to be home now so this isn't a child? Fuck me make it grow up a bit. Your husband had chemo but you want to carry on babying an adult. Can't she move out? Like for good? Like most ADULTS do?

Why so rude? Is this how people are going to approach honest questions now?

Your DH needs to self isolate anyway. You and your daughter are a risk to him as neither of you have been staying in isolation recently. Make a space with a bedroom and his own bathroom as a minimum and if you want to reintegrate the household you and your daughter should also remain in the house and garden until you are certain that neither of you has the infection. There is a lot of advice about how to deal with food, washing etc on the government website. If I was your daughter and had a nasty cough I would be staying elsewhere rather than putting my immunosuppressed dad’s life at risk. Better to be separated now for a few weeks or months than forever.

OP, take your DD home, isolate her from your DH as far as possible for a few weeks, scrupulous cleaning and not close contact and it will be fine. Hotels are fucking germ factories so never put a vulnerable person in them.
Big home, sensible cleaning and all will be ok.

I think it's safer to keep both at home where you can control the hygiene as opposed to hotels etc. where there may be other people as vulnerable as your dh.
I'd have her wrapped in bin liners and breathing through a snorkel through the slightly open car window, on the way home, launder all clothes etc. when she gets home and then she must stay well away from him. I do know how ridiculous this sounds but I think we members of the public have to be super careful in cases such as yours.

If she has already been ill for four weeks, but not severely by the sounds of things (thankfully), surely the symptoms will be going very soon?

Sheesh, OP is just musing things over.

Vipers.

I agree, both at home and DD is banished to her room and a sole use bathroom. I am guessing if it’s a big house you have more than one.

As a young person I suspect she will manage the isolation better than your poor DH. She will also likely be more content and comfortable with social media interaction and the TV.

@yoloPenguinsEatfish - could you not ask your DH's doctors what they would suggest that would be safest for him? If you have a large house, I think it seems as if he will have to (and crucially, be able to) self-isolate from the rest of you for 14 days. If there are private tests available, I would get one for your daughter asap and then you both keep away from your husband until you get the result. I'm another who thinks it wouldn't be fair for anyone for either your husband or daughter to go to an hotel, or for your daughter to travel in a taxi for a couple of hours. This lack of testing (and therefore being able to attempt prevention of spread in a more targeted way) is awful, almost more worrying than catching the virus itself would be for healthy people.
Good luck, OP, I hope you all are OK in the end.

My FIL is also immuno-suppressed post chemo. He has MIL were advised more than a week ago that they need to totally lock themselves down so neither of them are going out and no one is coming in.

I'd suggest that DD needs to make her own way home (you shouldn't really be going out either) and then she needs to strictly self isolate. Try to bring up most of what she's likely to need for a day in one go so you're not up and downstairs all the time.

Your daughter is showing signs having Covid19, she should not be flying at all!

That is how the virus spreads, she could infect everyone on the plane, etc...

Sorry that this sounds harsh but she needs to stay in France, as do all her team that have also been compromised.