Resigned to dying?

[alloutoffucks]

I have an underlying health condition that makes me very vulnerable to this virus. No I am not at death's door. I am 50, have two kids and work part-time. But if I get this virus the likelihood I will die is high.

The government's plan is for most people to get this virus so nothing has been tried to stop it. Not even encouraging wfh and social distancing. I may have already got it for all I know.

So what the fuck should I do while I am still well to help my kids for what I think has a high chance of happening. Please don't tell me it won't. If I catch it, from everything I have read, I will probably die. But there must be things I can do for my kids to make it a bit easier for them?
And before you criticise me for being on MN, they are out with their dad at the moment. I am avoiding going out. I will be spending time with them when they get back.

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

The government's plan is for most people to get this virus so nothing has been tried to stop it.

Actually the plan is to take it slow and steady, to keep the 'curve' below a level that the NHS can cope with.

Just do the best you can to keep yourself safe.

[Wolfiefan]

I think certain groups are more vulnerable but there is no certainty. You would be best to focus on doing what you can to stay well. But also calm.

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

See here www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-51768274

[Ellie56]

If your kids are old enough teach them some life skills like cooking, using the washing machine etc.

[StrictlyAFemaleFemale]

Well the first thing I would sort are the legalities. Your will. Would they go to their dad in the worst case? Is he prepared for that.

Next I would write down every single supplier, your customer nr etc. Every bank account. Makes life easier for whoever has to do all the admin afterwards.

Plan your funeral. Write down what music you want etc.

Make a scrapbook or photobook for each of them with stories and photos of you and them together.

Other than that I would look at Winstons wish for guidance about how to prepare them.

I really hope that this is an overreaction and that youll be fine xx

[Liveinside]

I don’t know what illness you have but in Wuhan 85% of those over 80 with underlying illnesses still lived so this isn’t a death sentence.

You’re young. Average age of death in Italy is 81.

[Babyroobs]

I am not particularly high risk, my dh is ( although in denial somewhat). we have no will. I have left important details for my eldest son in the event of us becoming unwell - bank account details/ what direst debits are set up etc, work contact numbers, pension details. He knows where to find the list easily, he thinks I am being dramatic but I think at crisis times like this it's sensible to prepare for the worst.

[alloutoffucks]

Thanks for advice and stuff about Winston's Wish. Going to do some of this before kids get home.

@DisplayPurposesOnly I have underlying health conditions so one of those the government has already clearly said it is prepared to sacrifice as actually eradicating this virus is just too like hard work.

And whatever you all do, don't say to kids who lose their parents - oh well they had underlying health conditions.

[Lordamighty]

Not another thread OP, how many more are you going to start, you are just scaremongering now.

[MigginsMrs]

I have underlying health conditions so one of those the government has already clearly said it is prepared to sacrifice as actually eradicating this virus is just too like hard work

The government hasn’t said any such thing.

I hope you stay well, please try not to think the worst. It’s not easy, I know. I’m properly properly fat and i was crying this morning that I’ve left it too late to get my act together and I’m going to get it and die. Xxx

[Whitegrenache]

Serious question?

Let's imagine corona19 doesn't exist and life is normal - would you still be terrified?

This is a bug which "may" kill the vulnerable not it "will" kill.

Surly you are susceptible to all sorts of infections every second of every day like we all are (albeit) with a better immune system.

What happens if you caught a chest infection, or shingles or some other virus?

Are you catastrophising?

I have some sympathy but we risk our life's everyday getting into a car or plane or crossing a road.

My intention of this post is to see it from a different perspective

[BritWifeinUSA]

But if your health is do fragile then you are always at risk. The flu, a chest infection, a stomach bug, norovirus, MRSA, anything like that could be deadly, and is deadly to many people. What to do you do to reduce your risk of any other virus? Currently the worldwide death rate for all cases is around 7%. That’s 7% of the 154,000-odd that have been diagnosed. On a planet of 5 billion people.
Of course any chance of death is worse than no chance but why would this virus be any different to you than the dozens of others that are always doing the rounds?

[Whitegrenache]

@BritWifeinUSA you put it better than I did!

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

one of those the government has already clearly said it is prepared to sacrifice

Youre being deliberately obtuse and scaremongering. The government has said no such thing. Clearly some people will die unfortunately: recognising that is not the same as arranging it.

[VimFuego101]

Please provide a link to where the government made that statement, OP. I understand this is very worrying for people with underlying conditions but posting inflammatory threads like this isn't helping.

[alloutoffucks]

No I am not always at risk of dying. No more than anyone who is 50.

Accuse me of catastrophising all you want. But I am not hospitalised for chest infections, noro virus, etc.

The way this virus operates is very very dangerous to me. I will trust specialists in my condition over randoms on the internet that won't even have heard of my rare condition.

[ChardonnaysPetDragon]

OP, you are not helping yourself with all these threads you are starting. It keeps feeding your anxiety.

Step away from the computer, put the kettle on, do something with the children.

[ChardonnaysPetDragon]

What is your rare condition?

[eggstrordinaire]

Just distance yourself as much as possible and follow good hygiene. I know it is hard but try not to worry.

[PurpleDaisies]

I will trust specialists in my condition over randoms on the internet that won't even have heard of my rare condition.

Have you had a conversation with an actual specialist about coronavirus?

[fivesecondrule]

Are you self-isolating OP?

[Whitegrenache]

It's a mild respiratory viral infection ffs

If you have the same risk factors as other 50year olds then stop worrying!

[YoursTunbridgeWells]

I am sorry to hear that op. I too believe this will kill me - more for reasons of them not treating me due to medical conditions.

I am torn between giving my children the best last few days I can before lockdown - they are still going to activities and school and closing the doors.

I have written my will and funeral plan in detail. I want to make each of them something -so this is my next project. I also want to write them some stories but I am paralysed with uncertainty at the moment.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

Op then you need to self isolated your dc must either self isolated with you for at least four months or stay with their dad.
Shop online have food left outside the door. Use disposable gloves and wash hands when touching the packets.

[Bagelsandbrie]

Op I know you’re worried, as another person who has serious health issues I am worried too but your anxiety is out of control and that is more damaging to your kids and your health long term than anything else right now. I have a combination of very rare chronic disorders (Addison’s disease, pituitary tumour - those two are the rare ones!- , kidney issues, anaemia, hypothyroidism, severe asthma etc). I am 39 and have a disabled child. I am shitting it. But I refuse to think I’m going to die. I just hope I won’t. I’m staying home, washing my hands if I HAVE to go anywhere (to get food or medicine) and I hope that by the time I do get it the NHS Will understand it more or be able to cope.

Every time we get in a car we risk death. Living itself is certain death if you think about it. If you have serious health conditions then every day is a gamble- I genuinely spend most days thinking I’ll croak it soon corona or not! So this is just a fly in the ointment.

Try to stay positive. Not everyone who gets it dies, even those with horrible health. It’s a lottery.