Resigned to dying?

[alloutoffucks]

I have an underlying health condition that makes me very vulnerable to this virus. No I am not at death's door. I am 50, have two kids and work part-time. But if I get this virus the likelihood I will die is high.

The government's plan is for most people to get this virus so nothing has been tried to stop it. Not even encouraging wfh and social distancing. I may have already got it for all I know.

So what the fuck should I do while I am still well to help my kids for what I think has a high chance of happening. Please don't tell me it won't. If I catch it, from everything I have read, I will probably die. But there must be things I can do for my kids to make it a bit easier for them?
And before you criticise me for being on MN, they are out with their dad at the moment. I am avoiding going out. I will be spending time with them when they get back.

[ViciousJackdaw]

I will trust specialists in my condition over randoms on the internet that won't even have heard of my rare condition

Then why the hell are you posting then? Do you just want people to join in with your catastrophising?

[UserV]

@alloutoffucks


You'll be fine

And you don't need to make excuses for being on mumsnet. (While the kids are with their dad.) You are entitled to me-time.

Do you think any man ever feels guilty about doing shit that excludes his wife and kids?!!!

Take care, be safe, and you'll be fine.

[BlackSwan]

This isn't cancer. Stop catastrophising. You don't even have it yet.

[BritWifeinUSA]

I’m curious as to what this condition is that means you will die from Coronavirus but are not at risk of any other respiratory virus. That’s odd.

[Bagelsandbrie]

No no the hot soup / drink thing is nonsense. We don’t just breathe the virus in through our mouths do we? Unless you’re pouring hot soup up your nostrils as well ....?! It’s been proven to be an urban myth.

[PurpleDaisies]

Drink lots and lots of water, hot teas and soups as according to Italian and Japanese info, if you can flush the virus into your stomach, away from your lungs, it won't survive the stomach acid.

Japanese and Italian scientists have said this?!

[SilverySurfer]

Like you OP, I have several health issues and getting this virus would put me at serious risk. Unlike you, I in my 70s and have no fucking intention of dying. I will do whatever is necessary to prevent that happening. Also unlike you I don't have children who I would have thought would be a major motivation but you go right ahead.

SFS

[ellanwood]

OP are you fully informed about all the ways to prevent catching it and to kill it off if you do? In your position, i'd ensure I had both types of inhaler. I'd use First Defense every single day and put Vicks or at least vaseline around my nostrils. Drink lots and lots of water, hot teas and soups as according to Italian and Japanese info, if you can flush the virus into your stomach, away from your lungs, it won't survive the stomach acid.

But really, I think the degree of panic that the media has instilled everywhere is disgraceful. This is a bad flu virus. They come around all the time and we still function. I've yet to read a reliable source explaining why and how this is so radically different from any other flu that does the rounds.

[Bagelsandbrie]

Op I know you’re worried, as another person who has serious health issues I am worried too but your anxiety is out of control and that is more damaging to your kids and your health long term than anything else right now. I have a combination of very rare chronic disorders (Addison’s disease, pituitary tumour - those two are the rare ones!- , kidney issues, anaemia, hypothyroidism, severe asthma etc). I am 39 and have a disabled child. I am shitting it. But I refuse to think I’m going to die. I just hope I won’t. I’m staying home, washing my hands if I HAVE to go anywhere (to get food or medicine) and I hope that by the time I do get it the NHS Will understand it more or be able to cope.

Every time we get in a car we risk death. Living itself is certain death if you think about it. If you have serious health conditions then every day is a gamble- I genuinely spend most days thinking I’ll croak it soon corona or not! So this is just a fly in the ointment.

Try to stay positive. Not everyone who gets it dies, even those with horrible health. It’s a lottery.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

Op then you need to self isolated your dc must either self isolated with you for at least four months or stay with their dad.
Shop online have food left outside the door. Use disposable gloves and wash hands when touching the packets.

[YoursTunbridgeWells]

I am sorry to hear that op. I too believe this will kill me - more for reasons of them not treating me due to medical conditions.

I am torn between giving my children the best last few days I can before lockdown - they are still going to activities and school and closing the doors.

I have written my will and funeral plan in detail. I want to make each of them something -so this is my next project. I also want to write them some stories but I am paralysed with uncertainty at the moment.

[Whitegrenache]

It's a mild respiratory viral infection ffs

If you have the same risk factors as other 50year olds then stop worrying!

[fivesecondrule]

Are you self-isolating OP?

[PurpleDaisies]

I will trust specialists in my condition over randoms on the internet that won't even have heard of my rare condition.

Have you had a conversation with an actual specialist about coronavirus?

[eggstrordinaire]

Just distance yourself as much as possible and follow good hygiene. I know it is hard but try not to worry.

[ChardonnaysPetDragon]

What is your rare condition?

[ChardonnaysPetDragon]

OP, you are not helping yourself with all these threads you are starting. It keeps feeding your anxiety.

Step away from the computer, put the kettle on, do something with the children.

[alloutoffucks]

No I am not always at risk of dying. No more than anyone who is 50.

Accuse me of catastrophising all you want. But I am not hospitalised for chest infections, noro virus, etc.

The way this virus operates is very very dangerous to me. I will trust specialists in my condition over randoms on the internet that won't even have heard of my rare condition.

[VimFuego101]

Please provide a link to where the government made that statement, OP. I understand this is very worrying for people with underlying conditions but posting inflammatory threads like this isn't helping.

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

one of those the government has already clearly said it is prepared to sacrifice

Youre being deliberately obtuse and scaremongering. The government has said no such thing. Clearly some people will die unfortunately: recognising that is not the same as arranging it.

[Whitegrenache]

@BritWifeinUSA you put it better than I did!

[BritWifeinUSA]

But if your health is do fragile then you are always at risk. The flu, a chest infection, a stomach bug, norovirus, MRSA, anything like that could be deadly, and is deadly to many people. What to do you do to reduce your risk of any other virus? Currently the worldwide death rate for all cases is around 7%. That’s 7% of the 154,000-odd that have been diagnosed. On a planet of 5 billion people.
Of course any chance of death is worse than no chance but why would this virus be any different to you than the dozens of others that are always doing the rounds?

[Whitegrenache]

Serious question?

Let's imagine corona19 doesn't exist and life is normal - would you still be terrified?

This is a bug which "may" kill the vulnerable not it "will" kill.

Surly you are susceptible to all sorts of infections every second of every day like we all are (albeit) with a better immune system.

What happens if you caught a chest infection, or shingles or some other virus?

Are you catastrophising?

I have some sympathy but we risk our life's everyday getting into a car or plane or crossing a road.

My intention of this post is to see it from a different perspective

[MigginsMrs]

I have underlying health conditions so one of those the government has already clearly said it is prepared to sacrifice as actually eradicating this virus is just too like hard work

The government hasn’t said any such thing.

I hope you stay well, please try not to think the worst. It’s not easy, I know. I’m properly properly fat and i was crying this morning that I’ve left it too late to get my act together and I’m going to get it and die. Xxx

[Lordamighty]

Not another thread OP, how many more are you going to start, you are just scaremongering now.