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Who IBU here?

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DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 15:50

I am choosing not to post this on Coronavirus section if that's ok because I feel like there may be a broader section of views here. Just wondering who IBU / if anyone is, in this scenario or what to think really.

Like most people I'm very conscious of Covid19 and have been upping my hand hygiene which I'm always very conscious of anyway. My workplace was temporarily shut down, I am pregnant and I regularly use public transport so I'm taking as many precautions as I can. That said, I'm trying really hard not to worry or get into a panic, because I dont think it will do any good. I'm also unsure if a lot of the media reporting and social media chat is a bit OTT. I recall working in a university when swine flu happened and the same conversations were happening then- although I do appreciate this does seem to be worse. Basically I'm trying to live in a balanced way, being sensible, taking precautions but also listening to the measured advice of experts and knowing that this could not be as bad as some are predicting. I have seen a senior consultant obstetrician as part of my antenatal care and they were very measured about it all and told me not to worry.

On the other hand, my 50yo brother is very worried indeed and I'm not sure what to say to him or whether he's taking things too far. Our mother is in her 80's and lives in a rural coastal area, with our father who is in his 70's and a bit more fit and healthy. Obviously she's on our mind as she's naturally vulnerable, and she is aware and taking precautions. If she got Covid19 it may well be fatal, as is the case with most octogenarians, although this could also apply to other infections. My DB is talking about if the worst happens and we have to go to her village and organise a funeral it could be a nightmare because the government is surely going to stop all public transport and we don't own cars (as we both live in a city). He said all the hire cars will get block booked in advance and we'll be stuck in our city with no way to move anywhere. He also is worried because his 7yo son lives with my DB's ex wife in a neighbouring county and the ex wife is obese. DB thinks she would be at risk because of her poor health and that, again, if the worst happened he would need to take full care of his DS but would be unable to travel to where is son lives and collect him / look after him because if the transport shut downs.
I've heard of transport shutdowns in Wuhan, and I know the government's 'contain' plan potentially involves temporarily stopping large gatherings, but do people think the stopping of all public transport and the subsequent restrictions for people without cars is likely? I feel like my DB is over worrying to an extent. I'm the pregnant one and I feel like I'm less worried than he is! He disagrees and said that he is simply planning ahead. But he did say he's been "very very worried".

What are people thoughts on this? AIBU to think it won't come to that?

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fiddledefiddle · 07/03/2020 15:51

YABVU. The corona virus topic is there for a reason, so those who are not interested in reading it don't have to - at least add corona to the subject.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 16:03

Alright, point taken fiddle

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iheartislesofwight · 07/03/2020 16:16

that aside does your db generally suffer with mental health issues ? he sounds very anxious to the pointof paranoid tbh.

crapette · 07/03/2020 16:30

YABVU. The corona virus topic is there for a reason, so those who are not interested in reading it don't have to - at least add corona to the subject.

THIS

I know I am not the only person who sighed with relief when we were finally able to hide the coronavirus topic. Please ask MN to move this thread over there.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 16:32

Yes crapette I've already reported my post. But I do wish people would skip on once they read the first paragraph which clearly states my rationale for posting here.

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DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 16:33

@iheartislesofwight not particularly. I was quite surprised as I would have thought he was the more rational of the two of us. So you do think his fears are unfounded?

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Pippa12 · 07/03/2020 16:35

You really should’ve of put corona virus in your title.

Bluntness100 · 07/03/2020 16:35

If she got Covid19 it may well be fatal, as is the case with most octogenarians

That’s really not true at all. What a shocking thing to write, the fatality rate in the over eighties is fifteen percent, which means eighty five percent of eighty plus year olds will survive it if infected.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 16:42

Yes Pippa. FFS I have said three times now, I have reported to MN and asked to change the post.

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DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 16:47

Ok @Bluntness, that's better news then

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Thedogscollar · 07/03/2020 16:48

Please dont worry I'm sure it will not end in the catastrophe that your DB has run through in his mind. People just need to be sensible with hand hygiene etc ,like with any flu epidemic.

BogOffWinter · 07/03/2020 16:49

🙄

PeterPanGoesWrong · 07/03/2020 16:50

There’s a lot of “what ifs” in every one of your scenarios.
if your parents get sick
if your parents due
if Public transport is closed and if you can’t hite a car!

Get a grip, stop worrying about an entire string of events that may well never happen.

PeterPanGoesWrong · 07/03/2020 16:52

If all that happens, the government plans involve mass graves, no gatherings for funerals.

Bluntness100 · 07/03/2020 16:52

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KimMumsnet · 07/03/2020 16:54

Moving this thread now to the dedicated section.

Looneytune253 · 07/03/2020 17:00

Don't forget the death rate for octogenarians is 'only' 15% so your family members won't necessarily die, in fact their chances are still good. I think we're all assuming our elderly family members are defo gonna die.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 17:03

Ffs @PeterPanGoesWrong read my post. These are my DB's concerns! They are not my worries! That's the point of my post. I posted saying I have not been worrying at all, just being sensible, and saying I have been shocked by my DB's concerns.

Why is MN so quick to be aggressive this afternoon? It's like #bekind never happened.

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AlanRickmanFanClub · 07/03/2020 17:10

I would love to know which part of MNHQ's message: Moving this thread now to the dedicated section' you found aggressive?

It's all hysterical nonsense, tell your DB to find something else to worry about.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 17:10

@Bluntness, no, you are appalling with your words.

The two of you sitting speculating about who is going to die is appalling, apparantly it’s everyone apart from you two.

How dare you be so unkind and nasty? This is NOT what happened. I outlined my brothers worries which I feel are irrational. We are both aware our elderly mother is at risk. Why are you so intent on suggesting we are somehow morbid to think about that possibility?
He is concerned about his ex wife being obese which I said in my post was irrational.

Distasteful and misleading thread and not in the spirit of the site. Mums net can make the decision. Reporting.

Your words are the distasteful ones. You have shown unkindness and a sweeping bluntness- no doubt this is what you pride yourself on otherwise why name yourself that? your responses are unkind, fail to absorb my original post and are unsupportive. How are you responding "in the spirit of the site" please? The spirit of the site this afternoon seems to be unkind, bullying and bitchy tones and nothing more.

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AlanRickmanFanClub · 07/03/2020 17:12

I have no idea what #bekind means but whatever it is, AIBU is not the place for it.

Pippa12 · 07/03/2020 17:12

Your the one swearing and getting aggressive... I merely suggested you would have got a better reception putting the corona virus in your title...

Tbh I chose not to comment on the hysterics you’ve posted as not to be inflammatory.

DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 17:13

@alanrickman when did I say that? I was talking about some of the PP's on this thread actually.

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DaffodillsandDaisies · 07/03/2020 17:14

@Pippa the "hysterics" as you put it, were concerned outlined by a family member, as stated in my op which you clearly didn't read.

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Pippa12 · 07/03/2020 17:14

I read it and chose not to comment...