To me, the difference is that OBL was in a compound in the middle of nowhere. They went in covertly and killed him with guns. Did Pakistan know he was there: obviously. They were allowing him to hide out and were in no ways allies. There were also no hostages relying on some sort of ceasefire to survive.
On the other hand, Israel bombed a building in a capital city of Qatar - again, how much concern can you have more civilian casualties with that approach? Yes, Hamas were there and are terrorists but they had been invited there by the US and Qatar asked to help mediate negotiations. They, in essence, double crossed Qatar who now have to work out what to do about this attack and any potential civilians killed. The US have to decide whether to potentially lose their relationship with Qatar (worth billions) and admit they lured Hamas there to kill them OR say they don’t support bombing negotiation talks. The hostages have no probably lost any chance of a ceasefire release. And the worst thing - terrorists just replace each other. Even if all of those people are wiped out, there’ll be someone else to fill in.
So I don’t think the comparisons are fair here. This is a provocative move in a deeply unstable region. I’m not saying Qatar were some neutral party overall but they were working to a certain degree with the US and Israel. The region will not respond well to a bombing in a capital city regardless of the reason. As I’ve said, if London were hosting negotiation talks, would you be okay with us being bombed? This sets another terrible precedent and I fear for what come next for so many people - first and foremost the hostages, then the region’s already precarious stability and finally anyone who hosts negotiation talks/‘enemies’ in a war.
I understand you think this is Israel bashing but surely you can see that this is a much more inflammatory move than what the US in Pakistan?