Hi all
SasySusan so sorry you were having a bad day on Saturday, I hope by now you are feeling a little better. It is weird that someone came up and spoke to you at the graveside. I am guessing that he too was there visiting a grave (unless he was lost!) and so maybe he just wanted to speak to someone. Maybe he was helping himself by immersing himself in your situation. Grief hits people differently, maybe some want to be alone and others want to talk. I think it was kind of you to give him the time of day and talk to him, I am sure you helped him. I think people just say things that can be insensitive, when faced with very sad situations, because they just don?t know what to say. Some people actually avoid others when they don?t know what to say. I?m not sure what is worse; to be avoided or have the risk that someone will come out with something silly! I hope you won?t feel weighed down with other people?s expectations about what you should do. Lots of people seem to want me to move on from fertility treatment and I was trying to be ready to but I felt so much better once I made the decision that I was not ready yet to move on. At first I though I needed to tell everyone but hubby (like people I have been talking about adoption with) but hubby, who can be wise, said I did not need to tell everyone everything. Sometimes it is good to keep a bit back just for over selves and not feel we need to share all of it with others. I agree Mumsnet is a good place to share and get positive feedback! Long rambling post, hope you know what I mean Sassy.
Hippy that does sound very weird, ricocheting off sofa etc; you must be very nibble to be able to do it. Also, that does sound very rude (DH missing from table!). I think once the dust settles it is time for a nice chat about how it makes you feel to be stuck at the table with kids while he is off,. We can?t help our bowel movements (I am one of the brigade that gets very little warning, sorry TMI) but that is no excuse to be missing in action. I wonder if he just does not realise how much it upsets you. I do sympathise as I left the table twice tonight! Once to chat to a friend on the doorstep for 10 mins and once to be on the phone to my sis. My hubby was probably not amused with me! Hope the dust can all settle before next time you need to swi!!
I write sperm with an because where I work there is a very high level spam catcher that catches everything and I just get used to writing Sx and Sp*rm etc!! ? Not that I am writing about it all day!
Jollster you do make me laugh, I too have always thought of gout affecting fat old port swilling (rich) men! Thinking of you, hon.
Gum all the best in your hot sunny clime.
Alba Nice to hear from you.
Diege I am losing the plot, where abouts are you and did that book do any good, did you read it?
Frost are you still lurking?
I am sorry that there are so many comments and postings and I must get to bed so no time to name check you all but you know who you are!
It has been a weird week. I had the most agonising pain in my tooth and jaw, which also resounded into my ear. I had medication from dentist and pain killers but the only thing that worked was putting my hubby's gel filled cool bandage onto the jaw. It is not really like anything I have ever experienced. It was coming and going like contractions but about an hour apart! I ended up having root canal work last week!
Yesterday we went to church and I got some prayer for my ear, which was affected by the bad tooth, I also mentioned my fertility issues. The lady who prayed for me was a dear older lady and she held my hand. I said should I give up hope or carry on having hope, and the lady praying for me just held my hands and said we are always encouraged to have hope, faith and hope.
I am feeling so much better about the whole fertility thing. Kind of allow whatever happens to happen but keep taking the Agnus Castus and moving up the line, we are just a bit shy of a nine month wait now!
Love to all