Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

[VivClicquot]

So, I thought I'd take it upon myself to kickstart the new thread. As the title suggests, this is a wonderful home full of the bravest, funniest and most inspirational women on Mumsnet, who are always ready to lend an ear and a virtual glass of wine.

The new thread is kicked off with 3 bfps in 3 days, so here's to more love and luck along the way

xx

littlemiss as someone who has been stalling about whether to push for the new job and promotion that i should have done 6 months ago I can entirely relate to how you feel, after all, what is th epoint in going for a new job when you might be off for 12 months - 10 months and 3 miscarriages later I am thinking I should have just gone for it, if I had I would have already been in a new job for 4 or 5 months by now and its going to be a year at least now before I might at my most optimistic have a baby (erpc this week, 2 month wait, 3 months to concieve, 9 months being pregnant ...)

don't put your life on hold while ttc - I did and I wish I hadn't - you just don't know what life is going to throw at you so you may as well size every opportunity

BTW - apparently I now have a label - I am a 'recurrent miscarrier' 3 or more in a row apparently means you get a label. Is anyone else wearing the label, have looked at the stats and its not pretty!!

Although improved by the fact have achieved 'one live infant birth' - you got to love the way doctors describe things

And how unfair is it that recurrent miscarriers are more likely to have more miscarriages than non or single miscarriers - what a bum deal

Bleeding is moderate but not enough for me to not go in on Weds yet

Attitude is improved as a result of shopping - thank god it was bonus month

Quick gripe - whats with the clingfilm they put over pads - why can't they have a nice soft covering rather than some sticky plasticky thing - its horrid

Also why did I decide to change all the beds yesterday - have a mountain of bedding to iron - normally wouldn't bother but we are trying to sell house so it has to look like a show home all the time

I would go and eat biscuits but since losing a few pounds is something I can control I have decided to be a fitness and diet freak for the next few months so I am in good babymaking shape once we are out of post erpc purgatory

Gah Cheepz - the pressure of keeping it looking like a show home is immense!! Selling the house on top must add to the stress somewhat?

Don't know if the label helps or not. It is unfair.

Sounds like there were some shitty Mondays out there ladies. Roll on Tuesday!! Viv - crack open that wine.

xxxxxxxxx

I also meant to say Muser - good news about RTD, a bit of normality at last. It's April on Thursday, so not too long for May now.

Cheepz- kotex night time pads are amezzin - all soft and cottony- saw me through an episiotomy and 3rd degree tear!!! They are dead cheap and in black packaging- a girl has to have a bit of comfort I find...
You are so so strong and brave- but be kind to yourself- I reckon only iron the bits that will show - 2 pillowcases and the duvet - one side only- then invest in some febreze and crack open the wine and biccies!

cheepz I remember when I had my MC how blase the Dr was and promptly told me they don't investigate until you've had 3 MCs - it was almost like he thought that should happen so it would be looked into. Very weird. I am sorry you have a label, but maybe now you will get a bit of support?

Littlemiss - I agree with clareanna - you just don't know what life is going to throw at you. 3 years ago I was totally ambivalent about children and didn't think I'd have them. Then I injured my knee badly which led to lots of physio and an op and was advised to avoid TTC. Finally got the all clear to try last July, got PG, MC'd in Jan and now facing the prospect of not being a mother until 2011 which will be my 11th year of marriage and it seems totally bizarre how life doesn't end up how you plan it.

Unfortunately, the sex-athon hasn't gone to plan tonight. I have an upset tummy and am totally exhausted and DH has sore throat. Am hoping for more success tomorrow - onwards and upwards they say.....

Tuesday's list:

Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD61
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD57
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD57
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD55
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD51
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD45
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD41
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD39
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD37
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD34
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD33
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL26-28 cycle1 CD33
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD33
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD30
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD28
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD26
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD25
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD24
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD24
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD23
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD23
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD23
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD21
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD20
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD20
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD19
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD17
westyorkshiregirl TTC# 1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD13
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD11
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD11
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD9
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD9
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD8
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD6
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD6
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle2 CD5
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD5
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD4
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD4

PENDING STATS
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
ElmMum TTC#2 UCL 28/29 cycle WTF CD?
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010

Morning girls! Many thanks for the advice, your all right of course why on earth am I holding back, I shall brush off my CV today and let them know I'll be applying.

WYG sorry to hear your not quite up to it, hope your feeling better today!

Cheepz sod the label hunni, and the beds come to think of it. They get creased in a couple of days anyway.

Gym day number two for me, body conditioning more like body torturing! I still seem to be carrying too much weight around the middle.

Have a good Tuesday all x x x

Littlemiss best of luck with your CV polishing today - fingers crossed for you. You are def right to go for it.

WYG I know the feeling, so many things went against us when we were ttc but it does sometimes still work out with just one or two good runs at it.

Alba, Cheapz so sorry to hear your news.

I left this thread 4 days ago on a high and it all seems to have gone down hill fast.

RTD due tomorrow and last weeks optimism has left me. POAS yesterday and got a no and today I'm feeling very pre minstral - only chocolate will do...

As someone said earlier there seems to be something quite monumental about the fact that a 2010 newbie is not possible anymore. It's my birthday next week and I'd hoped for a BFP for my birthday and a newbie for Christmas. Shoes and earings don't quite cut the mustard.

Right, off to do work with a grumpy face fitting for year end but created by circumstance.

Hope someone can lift the spirits soon!

Morning.
Been shopping ... again ... god knows how much money i would spend if I didn't have a job - would be shopping every day, 2 jackets, 2 tops and a foundation that cost £13 pounds. For the love of God - it better anti age me at that price!

I can't find Kotex towels anywhere - been to Boots, Superdrug, Sainsburys and Tesco. I am going to try and order online .. that is how much I hate the 'staydry top sheet' need to order some more internet cheapies and sticks for the CBFM anyway - dusted off the monitor last night - it told me I am on CD78!! need to find instructions to reset - I have 6 weeks or so to figure it out

I am feeling pretty upbeat.. I spoke to my Dad and one of their tenants threw themselves under a train yesterday. Made me think - how unbhappy must that person have been to be desparate enough to do that?!

I have a great lfe, my family is all fit and healthy and happy and we all get on, my DH is a gem, my DS is the sweetest little boy in the world, we have enough money, a nice house and I have a good job, great friends and I am pretty healthy (I also have a few extra pounds around the middle - but its not an insurmountable problem!!) - I am a very lucky person.

I have wondered my whole life when I would have something that didn't come easy, and I guess this is it. But when I look around at the things that people have to deal with every day, I can't feel that my llife is unfair. So its onwards and upwards. ERPC tomorrow looks like its going to be required, 6 - 8 weeks of emotional and physical recovery and then back to the TTC drawing board with renewed optimism.

Hope everyone else is feeling ok xxxx

Aw Cheepz - you are a very strong lady. That was a lovely post, and has reminded me of how much I have to be positive about too.

Which is good timing, as I have to meet with a friend for dinner today who is exactly as many weeks pregnant as I would've been had I not mc'd. I feel bad as I would normally meet with her every couple of weeks, and it's been 3 months...just don't want to see her bump to be honest. She knows and everything, but it's her first baby too, and of course she can't hide her excitement.

I just kind of wish I could separate out my happiness for her from the injustice I feel for myself. And then I remember that I'll be the only one drinking, so that's a whole bottle for me and NO SHARING. Every cloud and all that....

I'll probably have some sort of chocolate mousse made with raw eggs or something for dessert too, and there'll be no sharing of that either.

xxxxxxxxxxx

Hello ladies, I think it's a good idea not to put life on hold and need to listen to that advice myself (teetotaler refusing to book any flying holiday).

I'm rather hoping this months chemical pregnancy will put my hormones back to normal. I've now had 2 post mmc 31 day cycles with spotting until day 17 which has been leaving me exhausted. I am trusting this month will be easier.

Saturday night was a bit of a bloodbath soaking through everything as I slept (luckily inlaws have good mattress protectors). Today has eased off to spotting ( day 5) just want this to finish before day 17.

Have started on pregnacare which hopefully is ok. Not usually a vit girl as diet normally quite good.

DS still has some chicken pox blisters so still contagious but has been a saint at not picking them.

Have a lovely Tuesday all x

day 28 today BFN
No sign of af yet...very sore boobs and so tired i cant keep eyes open.

never mind, theres always next month

Cheepz- Often little independent pharmacies have them? But pretty sure you can get them online?
I think it's sometimes very easy to focus on what you haven't got, and forget everything else that's good in your life so well said!

Bunnybaby- sounds like a pretty hellish night- hope you are feeling a bit better today? I take pregnacare too- figure it's a good insurance policy alongside diet!

Meatntattypie- no af means there still might be a chance? Fingers crossed for you.

First cbfm poas day today- love a bit of tech- felt like a mad scientist - albeit one sitting on the bathroom floor... Currently hiding new toy under bathroom cupboard as don't think it's presence will put dh in the mode for love somehow... A bit of mystery is never a bad thing! Plus don't really want to discuss how much it cost!!!!

Goodluckbear I'm with you on the wine and choccie mousse! I treated myself to a nice wine at the weekend and it was lovely.

Cheepz I am glad you are experiencing the restorative powers of shopping, My 2 Ebay purchases arrived today - one is a lovely red jacket I got for £2.80! I had to get it when I bought a red spotty handbag - I love to justify other new items when I buy something else - you do need to be coordinated is what I tell myself! Oh and thanks for reminding us all of what we do have rather than what we all want and can't have right now.

Happygirl I loved your ref to 'having a good run at it' which made me sound like we were climbing a mountain not making a baby! Although right now I would def say the latter is the hardest! Am feeling much better tonight and poised for action once I've made by sarnies!

Cheepzy I raise my hat (and indeed all the hats in the house) to you. Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Much love xx

Hope everyone else doing ok wherever you are physically and emotionally.

just oredered kotex on amazon!!! along with cbfm sticks and 50 cheapies - it was cheaper to buy 50 than 25! and under a fiver!!!!

clareanna know what you mean about hiding the cbfm - its a real passion killer 'hey honey we got a peak' doesn't cut it for my dh either

Slimyak - it's my b'day on friday- understand how you're feeling x

morning all, apologies for my absence.
cheepz honey, hope today goes ok for you. Thinking of you, you sound like you are very upbeat about it all. I too raise my hat to you. Incidentally, when i typed your name on my phone it came out as cheery!

urd so sorry to hear about your Dad lovely, hope you are ok. I lost mine at the not so ripe age of 65, one week he had a bad back, 6 weeks later we were at his funeral. That was 3 1/2 years ago now. I totally agree with hippy that the desperate, empty feeling passes. The old cliche of time being a great healer is so very true. Thinking of you x

Hello to everyone else, sorry for hogging all the OB!

cd25 for me and no sign of anything apart from a few very mild cramps. Accupuncture lady got me on the progesterone cream this month which I think has something to do with lack of RTD symptoms, suits me though! No break out, no bloating, no sore tits so I don't have to hold them while I am out running. Splendid!

Right, i fear I may have gone on for a little too long and have pissed many a commuter off on the train with my phone button clicking! Have a good day ladies x

Morning all, hope your all doing ok despite the miserable weather! CV polished off and sent woohoo!

Cheepz hope today goes ok for you, good to hear you being positive about it all hunni. Thinking of you today.

Late night last night.. bowling woke up this morning with a terrible thirst so know I've had way too much to drink! I'm sure someone will fill in the blanks later..

Working from home.. sod going out in that weather feeling the way I do this morning no symptoms at all for me, would normally have sore boobies by now but even that hasn't happened this month. I have a feeling things are not in synch the painful ov pains earlier this month could be a sign of something else.

Test results last Friday came back all clear so no infection however smear test pending

Happy Wednesday all. x

Morning all

Will be thinking of you lots today, Cheepz honey - hope all goes well and sending you lots of love x

CD25 for me too and still no symptoms. No cramps. No backache. No nothing. (Although I'm really trying hard to ignore the tiny voice in my head who keeps reminding me of the spotting I had between 3/4 and 5/6 dpo - that way only disappointment shall lie!)

I think I've learnt to love these few days in the run up to or testing. It's a brief but wonderful period of blissful ignorance where anything still feels possible. It's getting to the point where I don't want to test for fear of breaking my zen-like calm.

Wednesday's List

Barren - you're down here as being on CD27 but in your post, you say CD25 so let me know if you want me to change you xx

Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD62
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD5
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD58
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD56
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD52
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD46
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD40
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD38
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD35
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD34
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL26-28 cycle1 CD34
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD34
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD31
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD29
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD27
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD26
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD25
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD25
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD24
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD24
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD24
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD22
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD21
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD20
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD18
westyorkshiregirl TTC# 1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD14
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD10
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD9
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD7
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD7
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle2 CD6
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD6
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD5
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD5

PENDING STATS
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
ElmMum TTC#2 UCL 28/29 cycle WTF CD?
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010

Can i join the group?

JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD2

Hi JulesAbs - welcome. I will let someone better at list-maintenance add you as I am afraid to mess it up!!

I met my mate last night (the one who is same number of weeks pregnant as I would've been) - she has a really nice bump and looked really well. So I started crying. Nice. Also doesn't help that I've got PMT type very mild cramps. I was thinking - well, it's a week before my period so maybe that's a good sign! And then I checked my diary. Last month, in order to stop myself symptom spotting every month, I wrote down how I felt everyday so I would know how I feel in a normal cycle. And at the same point in my last cycle I had written "mild PMT type cramps". So it's just another normal cycle. I am so fed up of this, I really wanted a 2010 baby, I have no explanation for why.

God I'm a right moaning mini today!!