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VivClicquot · 24/03/2010 16:58

So, I thought I'd take it upon myself to kickstart the new thread. As the title suggests, this is a wonderful home full of the bravest, funniest and most inspirational women on Mumsnet, who are always ready to lend an ear and a virtual glass of wine.

The new thread is kicked off with 3 bfps in 3 days, so here's to more love and luck along the way

xx

OP posts:
clareanna · 08/04/2010 22:36

Cheers to you to gi1da- how lovely.
Hope you're feeling ok about your work colleague- it can still hit you hard every now and again can't it?

Moofold · 08/04/2010 22:57

That's lovely G1lda, I understand completely that must make you feel all is well with your Bean. We wanted to plant a Japanese maple but until we stop getting frosts and gale force winds up here are waiting until the end of April.

Hang on in there Littlemiss - hope things work out for you yet, and if not, they will soon x

littlemiss72 · 09/04/2010 06:22

Morning all, Back down the bottom for me. Going to try hard to relax this month and not pay too much attention, what will be will be

Happy FRiday all x

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD51
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL26-28 cycle6 CD42 *23rd March BFP
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD35 *6th April BFP
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
Litllemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010

barrenbrook · 09/04/2010 07:47

littlemiss sorry to hear that, hugs, hope you are ok x

gi1da what a lovely post, and cheers to you too honey. Another sunny spring day, got to love the sunshine x

Happy Friday peeps x

HappyGirl1 · 09/04/2010 08:12

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD51
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD35 *6th April BFP
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
Litllemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 23rd March BFP
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010

HappyGirl1 · 09/04/2010 08:16

Littlemiss good plan to try and stay relaxed and see what happens next month.. it's easier said than done I know but you can do it

Just updated the stats and put myself to the Graduates list which is beyond scary but I've hit the 6 week milestone today so felt it was time. I've got to start being more positive so this is my first step.

It's just very hard, every dart of pain and I worry but fingers crossed all is okay.

I'm away working at the moment and just desperately want to get out of here and back on that train north to see my DH. I wasn't expecting to be away with work yesterday or today and I had encouraged DH to go out with a friend of his who has just announced they are 14 weeks pregnant and then tomorrow going to the football. All seemed like a good idea but at this rate I won't get to see him til Sunday as I just know my boss here won't let us leave until quite late. Still Happy Friday everyone!

I fancy a chocolate biscuit to start the morning off.. I'll open a packet of cadburys choc digestives - enjoy!

VivClicquot · 09/04/2010 10:08

Oh Littlemiss, I'm sorry honey. Hope you're okay.

G1lda - that's lovely. We want to buy a plant / tree to commemorate our two babies but our current garden is north facing and things don't seem to thrive, so we're going to wait until we move house to do it.

My acupuncture yesterday completely wiped me out - my headache got worse throughout the afternoon and I ended up falling asleep on the sofa at 7pm! Hopefully it's a good sign, but I'm not sure I want this to happen every time I go for a session!

xx

OP posts:
Freezingmyarseoff · 09/04/2010 11:22

Updated list, just wanted to get in there somewhere, hope I haven't messed it up

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD51
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD35 *6th April BFP
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
Litllemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 23rd March BFP
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010

Freezingmyarseoff · 09/04/2010 11:30

Littlemiss sorry to hear, hope the weather can help you relax at least.

Cheepz the new job offer sounds really exciting - go for it. I'm actually considering giving up work altogether and making some other changes like getting fitter, to help me feel better about myself.
Just been out for first bike ride of the year

We also want to plant something for our two babies but not sure what. Also in same situation as VivClicquot with a north facing garden, but doing a house extension this year so the garden is likely to be trashed by the builders anyway so will wait till they've finished.

Gi1da · 09/04/2010 12:42

Good morning (just) all. Well Clareanna's DH is indeed the weather whisperer. It's a gorgeous day here today.

Littlemiss got a bit choked up for you. Just relax and you WILL get there.

We ALL will. Points at everyone.

Moofold and Viv I'm so pleased I planted for Bean. Ever resourceful (or paranoid?) though I did plant into a large pot so that I can take it with us if we ever move - unlikely as we have just got here, but you never know, I might just win the lottery yet!

Freezing ooh good luck with the house works. We will need to do something at some point but are just getting used to being here first. Though the kitchen is a challenge to tolerate. (Green cabinets, Yellow&Green tiles and grey/pink worktops). I kid you not.

Happy thanks for the

LadyBee · 09/04/2010 12:50

Hello all - I'm curled up on sofa ignoring the sunshine outside, after having an ERPC yesterday at 9 weeks. We found out last Saturday at a private 'reassurance' scan and I feel like the last few days have just been whirlwind of appointments, phone calls, scans, decisions, tears, blood tests and lots and lots of internet searching.
Physically, I feel ok, I seem to be recovering from the op well and my bleeding has subsided a lot just in the one day. Emotionally, well...I'm unpredictable - the prospect of actually talking to a real live person, a good friend, feels too much especially if they're going to be sympathetic. So far I've mostly been in contact with my mum and best friends via text message or email.
I've found reading this thread really helpful in not allowing myself to get despondent. I know that we'll start again TTC, and seeing the list of everyone else whose made that decision - and some who have been successful - is heartening. I have this support in real life too, but I'm aware that my two closest friends who knew about this pg and mc both have their own fertility issues as well.

So...I'm 36, have a DS who will turn 2 next weekend and I have PCOS, was taking metformin to regulate cycles when I conceived and will go back onto this in a couple of days. This is my second mc, the first was extremely early at 5.5 weeks and didn't need any treatment, I conceive DS after two cycles following that. This one was what they used to call 'blighted ovum', there was absolutely no sign that any embryo had developed at all, just an empty sac - still fooled my body into having all the symptoms though and no hint that anything was amiss until we saw the scan.

I think it's this that freaks me out the most. This feeling that symptoms don't mean a thing is very depressing, especially for someone like me who likes to at least pretend she knows what's going on with her own body.

Hey ho. Onward and upward.

I'd appreciate it if someone could put me in the waiting TTC list, I'm planning to do a few cheapie tests to check hormone levels are down and start temping to see if/when I ovulate after all this. As far as I know we'll then start again, unless I don't feel up to it.

Gi1da · 09/04/2010 12:52

PS sending best wishes to Urd.

Gi1da · 09/04/2010 12:58

Oh Ladybee so sorry for your loss. Its just shite. This is a good place to be though as we all understand what how this feels, something not many other people really can.

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD51
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD35 *6th April BFP
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
Litllemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010

AlbaDeTamble · 09/04/2010 14:02

Hi all, just checking in to say I'll be gone till the 18th... Not MIA, just off on hols... Hectic trying to finish off work and pack. Taxi booked for 6am tomorrow, then can relax. Oh, and it's fertile time so having to SWI before allowed to sleep.....

So sorry Littlemiss, but as others have said we'll all get there soon. I felt after the same thing happened to me recently that actually it was a bit soon for me and I wasn't ready, despite desperately wanting to be. Haven't tried accupuncture but am listening to hypnotherapy tracks that are de-stressing me and helping me become more positive again. Slowly slowly. Hoping active holiday will also help. All TTC rules off for the week, alcohol, caffeine, all the wrong food... And intending to enjoy every minute!

Have a great week all. I expect to see a dozen more BFPs by the time I check in next!

Off back to my desk for last few hours....

AlbaDeTamble · 09/04/2010 14:05

And welcome ladybee. Sorry you're here but hope it's helping. And hope you're hanging in there Urd, really tough time to get through

Alba passes round chocs to apologise for all other namechecks she's missed and dashes off

Dirtgirl · 09/04/2010 14:54

Littlemiss, hope you're ok.

Ladybee - you poor thing. I hope you can find some solace on this thread.

AF arrived yesterday for me, so we can cross this month off. I am so bored of TTC, and I feel like I'm losing that hopeful feeling when you look forward to trying again. I hope I'll be able to rally for another cycle of trying when the time comes.

clareanna · 09/04/2010 15:09

Hi dirtgirl - good to hear from you - albeit with evil RTD news- wishing you better luck next month x

ladybee so sorry to hear your news, the shock and feeling that your body has in someway tricked you is awful. Please don't try to put on a brave face- it's ok to cry in front of people, and you will. it is a grieving process. If you've got friends in RL who have also had an mc they can be a real comfort as they will understand exactly, as we do, and can help you through it- that's what helped me. Some people though won't understand and will be full of well meaning but unhelpful comments- just take each day as it comes and do what feels right for you. Take some iron supps and look after yourself and your dh.

I am off to the seaside again this weekend to PIL's house. It was a lucky location last time so here's goping it does the trick this time!!!

clareanna · 09/04/2010 15:13

Littlemiss - hope you are ok today

allba -have a wonderful holiday- you deserve it! Are you hurling yourself down mountains?!

Goodluckbear where are you?'!!!

ElmMum · 09/04/2010 15:36

Ladybee - how horrible for you. It's so unbelievably hard to manage all the emotions that you go through after a mc. Hope this thread does bring you some comfort and that you're getting support in RL. Thinking of you.

[Waves to everyone else]

I'm having a down day today. Period is coming to an end - think my hormones are all over the place. I'm incredibly spotty and DH and I had another blazing row this morning. All fixed before he went to work (late, again) but the combo of his job stress and my general stress and hormones is pretty awful.

At least the sun is shining, eh!

Hope you're all having good days x

barrenbrook · 09/04/2010 16:19

Welcome ladybee your story is so sad, I hope us ladies on this thread help you through a difficult time. Feel free to rant / moan / freak out at will, all can empathise with how you are feeling (as more than likely have been there ourselves!)

Have been brave and have taken myself off list, am going to lurk for a little longer though if that's OK girls. Have a good weekend.

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD51
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook 6th April BFP

barrenbrook · 09/04/2010 16:22

Sorry, forgot to update dirtgirl, sorry RTD got you chicken

Friday's List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD55
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD33
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD33
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD33
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD29
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD23
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD21
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD18
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD16
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD16
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD15
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD14
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD11
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD10
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD9
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD8
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26 cycle WTF CD8
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD5
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD2
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD1

PENDING STATS
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Kaylo12 TTC#2 UCL? cycle ? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook 6th April BFP

LadyBee · 09/04/2010 16:32

thanks for the warm & sympathetic welcome, ladies. Clareanna, you are absolutely right, I do have a habit of thinking I shouldn't put my friends in the situation of having me cry on them, but I'd be gutted myself if one of them didn't talk to me if they were upset about something. And one of them has had two mmc's before her current pregnancy - she'd be about 30wks now I think.

There are lots of small disappointments tied up in this big disappointment aren't there. I was thrilled that there was good chance me and my friend would be off on maternity leave together. Now it's unlikely at best.
Plus I was really hoping to have my 2nd by the time I turned

DH and I were talking about it last night when I was having a little cry, and I was upset that we had to start over with the SWI. Fortunately DH and I have a similar sense of humour and both started giggling that we thought we'd got all our sex out the way for the year in January-February.

Good thing I didn't get rid of the basal temp thermometer I bought just before testing +ve (was convinced it had been another fail month).

Dirtgirl if you're feeling jaded about the trying, maybe give yourself permission not to try this month. I know you'll still be aware of dates etc, but even just telling yourself if you don't feel like it, don't do it, can take some pressure off?

Alba have a lovely holiday. I'm off on holiday next Saturday for a week. It was all organised for ages - before I knew I was pg, and obviously before I wasn't again. Couldn't have been better timed though. Hopefully I'll be ok to go back to work sometime next week to tidy up loose ends then off for a week drinking too much wine and eating unsuitable food.

LadyBee · 09/04/2010 16:41

Sorry, obviously got sidetracked, I meant to say "Plus I was really hoping to have my 2nd by the time I turned 37". No chance there either. Still, what's a number?

ElmMum · 09/04/2010 16:53

"There are lots of small disappointments tied up this big disappointment" - that is so true and exactly how I felt in the immediate few days after the mc started. Things like being pregnant at the same time as friends, the specific age gap between children, the month the baby was due etc.

It's really hard to shake off those small disappointments. Sometimes though they just get overshadowed by intense sadness of it all and the small stuff just seems irrelevant. But not always.

Dirtgirl · 09/04/2010 18:15

Ladybee - that's exactly how I felt about getting all the sex over. DH and I joked like that too.

ElmMum LadybeeIt is really hard to shake off those disappointments. I kept thinking the mc didn't really bother me that much, but I was in denial. It is still there lurking, especially thinking of the due date, the age gap with DS and every time DS sees a baby he beams and tries to play with it. He says I've got a fat tummy and there's a baby in it...sigh. Weight Watchers can't be working that well eh!

Barrenbrook lurk away if you want to but it would be nicer if you kept in touch.

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