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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

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VivClicquot · 24/03/2010 16:58

So, I thought I'd take it upon myself to kickstart the new thread. As the title suggests, this is a wonderful home full of the bravest, funniest and most inspirational women on Mumsnet, who are always ready to lend an ear and a virtual glass of wine.

The new thread is kicked off with 3 bfps in 3 days, so here's to more love and luck along the way

xx

OP posts:
barrenbrook · 01/04/2010 19:22

Clareanna & Slimyak Happy Birthdays! Have a lovely birthday weekend both of you.

Red welcome, so sorry to hear your sad news I hope you find some solace here with us

Pollyanna I had a CP last month and cramped for two days then started light bleeding then it turned heavy later the same day. Like Alba says, it's not over til it's over. FX.

Redheadgal · 01/04/2010 20:36

Thank you ladies for being so welcoming and cheers for the hot cross buns, birthday cake and fizz. Happy birthday to Clareanna and Slim, enjoy the celebrations this weekend.

Thanks also Alba for the permission to rant. Feel very ranty this evening . After all the misery of last week our house sale has fallen through. So we're back to square one without house or baby. It has been a truly terrible two weeks

clareanna · 01/04/2010 20:58

red bad luck in the house- how frustrating, hope for good house karma coming your way. The week after my mc my dh was made redundant, so know how you're feeling - just one thing after another.

On another note ...
ooh bunnies !! (little things...)

littlemiss72 · 01/04/2010 21:07

Sorry couldn't help it..lol

littlemiss72 · 01/04/2010 21:08

get it right woman!!

Harry2007 · 01/04/2010 21:52

Good evening ladies,

Just wondering if I can join your thread, or perhaps lurk for a while before officially joining at least. I'm having a miscarriage at the moment - started Sunday evening, visit to epu Monday, couldn't see any sign of pregnancy on internal scan, miscarriage confirmed, feeling rubbish, back and fore to epu for hcg tests.

Anyway, after crying for what seemed like twelve hours solid on Monday night, I've amazed myself with how resolute and sensible I've been over the last couple of days. I'm looking at it from the positive aspect I.e. that it was early (6 weeks) and if there were chromosomal abnormalities etc. Now I'm just focussing on wanting to try again.

So what's your advice as to how long you should wait before ttc? I want to do it asap but I'd be grateful for your views.

Hi barrenbrook I think we were both on the CBFM for a while x

Harry2007 · 01/04/2010 21:53

...CBFM "thread" I meant to say x

WestYorkshireGirl · 01/04/2010 22:34

Harry You are in the right place. I too found comfort joining threads as the mc was happening. Crying is a good thing and ranting on this thread. I waited for next RTD before TTC again - it took five weeks to arrive. I am now on my second cycle and making lots of effort! Some people decide to try straight away, but I didn't feel up to that and my body was all askew. I took Floaradix iron tablets to help pick me up again as I was very washed out after the mc. I also took a week off. You need to look after yourself physically and emotionally. I found the leaflets on the miscarriage association website helpful too.

Hope you all have a nice weekend!

Cheepz · 01/04/2010 23:30

evenin ladies

today my DH sent me flowers, with a card that had a simple and lovely message about how it will all come good for us, he never gets me flowers so it made me blub, like I said - I am lucky!!

bleeding is surprisingly light, kicked off CBFM just so can track things - last 2 mcs had pretty normal cycles after (4 week, CD15 ovulation) so will be interesting to see what happens this time although defo waiting a full cycle - i feel like i need to emotionally this time

this is abit wierd but i woke up this morning and i was relieved not to be pregnant... of course i am not relieved to have lost the baby, but i was finding being pregnant so stressful and every day - every trip to the loo was so fraught with anxiety I was having a really shit time, and today I woke up and I didn't have to worry about any of that and it was a massive relief, don't know if that makes sense but i guess after 2 previous mcs its not surprising i was anxious and to not have to worry for a month is going to do me good i think

on the throwing and shouting - i could, and say how not fair it is ... but it doesn't make me feel any better, actually it makes me feel worse. I will try and post when i am next in a pessimistic state, or wait until DH irritates the crap out of me

now there was lots to catch up on so.....

harry welcome and sorry - I tried right away after first mc at 6 weeks but it took 6 cycles to get pg, then had mc at 4 weeks and got pg next cycle, which just mc at 10 weeks so you can try as soon as you are ready.

red sounds like you had a shocker of a week, mc is a horrible enough thing to deal with but the house stress is something else - ours is on the market at the moment and keeping it viewing ready is a fucking nightmare, having a sale fall through is about the most irritating and stressful thing after a mc so feeling fo you at the mo. xx

clare and slimy happy birthday ladies, kick back and enjoy and i hope you get spoiled rotten

viv i too am allergic to cats, and they love taunting me with their itchy cat dander which gets in my eyes and throat and stops me breathing - ironicallly developed the allergy when pg with DS ands ince then it has nver cleared up

under respect for your decision, its a biggie but I think you know when its the right time to call it quits for you, there is only so long you can put your life, relationships, and self through the whole TTC circus

barren viv and zayja abit excited to have you close to top of list (although I think we need the awol list back to make it clearer who is coming up to test as seems we have some awol candidates at the top - eeeek my OCD tendencies on the list are back) BTW where the hell is Zayja? not seen a post in ages , not hopefully for that matter....

alba hope you are doing ok, its hard when its over before it even starts, there is a moment of possibility then the next month yawns ahead and it can be pretty demoralising - was for me in Jan but I was pg a month later (even though thats gone tits up - it doesn't for everyone!)

pollya don't know what to suggest in your situation - could go either way - the only thing you can be sure of is that testing early is the devils work and does no favours! as someone else has said could be CP as a positive is a positive but cramping and spotting at this stage not great

mrsG mothercare eh? bummer. not just the shop but watching all the pregnant ladies and ladies with new babies going in and out .. gah ... we were in mothercare on tuesday because its the nearest ELC and DS needed more paints, there was a glowing pregnant lady behind me in the queue looking happy and radient, I smiled and moved on in my zen like state and then ate a bar of green and blacks

righto, thats all i can do, bed and book - DH decided we are going to westfield tomorrow to take DS to cinema and then do some shopping - must be nuts - so much for putting feet up and resting post op, nooooo we are going to the biggest shopping centre in the UK on Good Friday - noce call DH, without those flowers you would be in the doghouse for that suggestion.

xxx HAPPY EASTER ALL ...cheepz out....

ElmMum · 01/04/2010 23:36

Harry - poor you. I found my way here when I was miscarrying last month. I've been up and down since then, so expect to have bad days but don't beat yourself up about it. It's just tough, that's all there is to it.

As for trying again... I'm not sure there's a 'right' answer. Everyone seems to do it a bit differently. Personally, I'm going to wait til I get my next period and see what it's like/how long it takes to arrive and then have a think. I'm kind of champing at the bit to just be pregnant again, to kind of reverse what's happened, but I get the impression that if you wait a couple of cycles you increase the chances of success. I think perhaps just because of hormones getting settled and the womb lining being properly thick... (someone else probably has more facts than me).

I think it's common to want to just get pregnant straight away but you might be as well just looking after yourself for a couple of months and getting your physical and emotional strength back, however hard it feels to wait.

That's kind of where I'm at at the moment.

Thinking of you, big hugs ((()))

littlemiss72 · 02/04/2010 08:17

Morning all, updated the list.

Kaylo added you to the bottom, let me know the rest of your stats and I'll be happy to update them for you.

Only a couple of day until RTD had some cramping yesterday evening but that's about it on the signs front.. nothing to report. I think I'll be heading back to the bottom of the list shortly.

Fridays List

Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD48
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD44
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD36
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL26-28 cycle1 CD36
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD36
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD31
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD28
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD27
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD27
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD26
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD26
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD26
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD23
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD22
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD20
westyorkshiregirl TTC# 1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD16
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD12
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD11
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD9
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD9
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD8
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD7
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD4
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD3
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 4 CD2
Kaylo12 TTC #2 UCL ? cycle ? CD ?
PENDING STATS
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
ElmMum TTC#2 UCL 28/29 cycle WTF CD?
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010

JulesAbs · 02/04/2010 09:17

Morning all.

My sister in law is in labour today, I am looking forward to being an Auntie but it makes me feel a bit more sad than usual, I should have been 20 weeks if everything had worked out.

Red - House hunting is so stressful! Hopefully the perfect house will just come on the market for you.

Harry - Hello, sorry you have found yourself here, I haven't been here that long myself but i am already finding all the kind ladies here are helping me through it all. I gave myself a couple of months before we started trying again i wanted to feel healthy and ready to carry a baby again (fingers crossed it will happen soon)

Cheepz - I'm sorry for your loss. I know what you mean I have already been getting my self stressed about how i will be when i find out i am pregnant again. Don't think i will be able to relax and just enjoy the experience until i find out everything is going well.

littlemiss Fingers crossed for next month.

barrenbrook · 02/04/2010 09:39

Morning girls,

Harry Hello honey so sorry to hear of your loss chicken, I hope you are OK. As the others have said there's no right or wrong time to try again, do it when you are ready. I had a CP last month and we tried again right afterwards, awaiting the impending RTD at the moment, it's due today..... no sign as yet though . The first three months after m/c you are more fertile apparently. Glad you have found your way here, feel free to rant at will when you need to

JulesAbs Hope today isn't too sad for you. My sister in law had her baby last month, her due date was the day I miscarried and it took me a week to pluck up the courage to go over and see her and the baby. Be kind to yourself and be selfish if you have to, people will understand.

Cheepz How lush does your DH sound!? What a sweetie. Enjoy Westfield you crazy lady, rather you than me! Buy something nice!

Hello to everyone else!

Dirtgirl · 02/04/2010 11:19

Hello everyone. I can't begin to catch up I'll need days. I'm going to write this then settle down for a long read when DS is asleep.

I'm skulking back over to this thread after going AWOL for a while. I think I've been trying to forget about my miscarriage and all things to do with ttc.

So I'm due on on 7th, I've had two cycles now since my miscarriage. This month we started trying again. I was immediately convinced I was pregnant as have had very sore tits since oving and been feeling a bit pg. I tested using a first response test today and it was neg. I was totally convinced it would be otherwise.

Anyway, must go. I have to finish an argument with my nob end husband.

VivClicquot · 02/04/2010 12:12

Morning everyone

Think the bloody bastard RTD is on its way. Am dreadfully upset - the whole 'last chance to have a 2010 baby' thing is weighing heavily on my mind. Plus I'm just SO frustrated as I know we're doing everything right, so can't understand why it's not working. Am just so . Happy fucking Easter.

Apologies to Harry as this isn't quite the cake and wine welcome it should be. I'm so sorry you're here, but glad you've found us. I promise I'm not normally this miserable.

jules hope today goes okay for you. Look after yourself honey. x

Am off to gorge myself on chocolate and mojitos. Sod the wine; it's time to crack open the hard stuff.

Lots of love xxx

OP posts:
Goodluckbear · 02/04/2010 15:00

Hey Viv - get stuck into the Easter eggs early. You deserve it. I've got PMT and DH is getting it in the neck. Still, going on holiday today.

Welcome Harry - will pass you the wine, glad you found us.

Jules - hope today is alright. You can have the wine after Harry.

xxxxx

Goodluckbear · 02/04/2010 15:02

And Dirtgirl - how's the argument progressing?!?

xxx

barrenbrook · 02/04/2010 15:34

viv sorry FRTD has shown up, enjoy the mojitos yum ! My fave so if you don't mind I will pull up a chair and join you in a couple. I have a Hotel Chocolat dogs nuts posh mahusive Easter egg to share too. Am currently awaiting rtd myself which I expect will be here tonight or tomorrow. Daren't bring myself to think anything else but have been peeing alot and have had (tmi alert) quite an abundance of creamy cm, boobs have just started hurting a little too and this morning when I was out walking the dog I felt a little sick

anyhoo, don't get too down about the 2010 thing, I've always thought it'd be rubbish to have a birthday round Christmas time anyway.

zayja · 02/04/2010 15:47

Hi Ladies,
Sorry have been mostly AWOL for the last few months, just lurking every other week or so to see what's happening.

Like Dirtgirl, just trying to forget about ttc as it's been nearly a year since mmc, and nothing! Was taking clomid Jan and Feb and it turned me into an emotional wreck.

Decided to try to stop obsessing and start taking care of myself. Was considering taking myself off the list. Eating well, exercising, avoiding stress, etc. Well, I think it may have worked because I got a faint line yesterday and today. We'll see, trying not to be too excited.

cheepz, I agree the list needs organizing. Afraid I haven't been around much to see who's checking in and who's checked out. I'm glad your DH is such a gem, you derserve it. Been thinking about you lots lately and hoping you are recovering ok. Must admit I'm terrified to face mc or mmc again. You've been very strong about it all, don't think I'm as good a woman!

Welcome to our newbies, lots of great support here.

zayja · 02/04/2010 15:52

ooo barrenbrook, you and I are close in cycle and been trying for #1 for the last year, maybe this is our month? Sounds promising.

randomimposter · 02/04/2010 15:59

zayja that's terrific (whispered very quietly but with a squealy excitement). Hope lines get stronger with imminent effect. Keep us posted.

Happy birthday weekend to the birthday girls.

Hope all eggsellent with everyone else.

Have started spotting today so guess this could be the start of WTF cycle? Checked what my due date would be and it would be 5/1/11, so in that I would probably have a ELCS I could just squeeze a 2010 babe in yet... sorry must dash there's something airborne and porcine floating past my (just cleaned) window....

Cheers to all.

barrenbrook · 02/04/2010 16:53

zayja wowser, how exciting, all is crossed for you chick. Look at you being AWOL and then coming back in with good news!! here's to an ever darkening line and a sticky bean x

jollster have popped you back on list on CD1. Hope that's OK.

Will try and update rest of list with a MIA / AWOL list, apologies in advance if I take someone off who shouldn't be taken off!!!!

Fridays List

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD48
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD44
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL26-28 cycle1 CD36
cinnamonswirl TTC#? UCL23-30 cycle? CD36
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD31
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD28
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD27
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD27
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD26
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD26
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD26
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD23
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD22
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD20
westyorkshiregirl TTC# 1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD16
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD12
hippychick66 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD11
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD9
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD9
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD8
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD7
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD4
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD3
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 4 CD2
Kaylo12 TTC #2 UCL ? cycle ? CD ?
Jollster TTC#2 UCL ? cycle WTF CD1
PENDING STATS
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
ElmMum TTC#2 UCL 28/29 cycle WTF CD?
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Spottysox

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10

MIA
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD64
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD60
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD60
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD58
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD54
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD42
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD37
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD36
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD33

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010

Dirtgirl · 02/04/2010 18:42

Zayja - Hope you get a darker line soon. How exciting.

I'm waiting a couple of days before testing again. It is a bit early. Like you I've been concentrating on getting fit and eating better and have lost half a stone and feel much better. Hope I get results pg wise too.

Goodluckbear the argument is over now . We had a falling out because I was at home with DS (age 2) and DH was at work (he's a landscaper). He was frantically trying to finish laying some turf before the rain and I rang him twice. He was deeply snarly and pissed off with me and complained that I'd made him take off his gardening gloves.

Fair enough you may think, but the reason I'd called was because our bathroom tap had broken in half in my hand and was pissing water everywhere like a fountain. All I wanted to know was A) Where the water turns off and B) if we had another tap or should I go out and buy one. I thought that was reason enough to get him to take his gloves off and for me not to be patronised.

Gi1da · 02/04/2010 19:41

Happy Easter everyone . May Oestre and her fuzzy, fecund bunnies of fertility visit you one and all.

Great news Zayja sounds like you well and truly deserve it.

Harry, Redhead, Kalo - hello - sorry it's under these circumstances but pleased to meet you.

Viv sorry you're feeling pants.

Dirtgal. Men. Tsk. WTF goes on in their little heads? Hope he has apologised (in deeds if not in words).

Raises a glass to all, crikey there are a lot of us! Chin chin to birthday girlies.

PS Slim - fab cat comment.

BunnyBaby · 02/04/2010 20:05

zayja what lovely good news.

barrenbrook I have to admit, I really think you're pregnant. A really strong hunch that you've got a very sticky bean. (fortune teller bunny scuttles off).

I'm just pleased to have a 4 day RTD finish with 3 days of spotting. Instead of the last two cycles of 17 day RTD-bleedathons. Phew. It would appear the CP has sorted me out (thank you little soul). I think the MMC really screwed me hormonally especially as it was that bit later at 12 weeks.

Damage today is 3x hot cross buns, lots of M&S butter raisin cookies, mini eggs, and about to start on a pizza tonight. The heavy RTD has left me depleted, but that is obscene consumption!

Have managed to lose 4lbs but am likely to add a few more this this weekend.

Starting to feel horny again so hormones must be settling down. Poor DH won't know what's hit him!

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