Advice please!!!

[sarjon]

Hi, I'm new to mn but have been 'lurking' for a little while in the hope someone else would have my problem!!

I've been married for just a year and my dh would love to start a family. Its taken a while but I'm now thinking the same thing (and mn has a lot to answer for - reading all your lovely stories about the good - and bad - stuff has really helped me!!! ).

My question is - I really don't want to get to het up by ovulation dates and best times to bd etc!! but I was wondering if anyone can tell me whether I should go and see the dr as my af is all over the place - always has been. I can go 2 months without and then have af twice in one month. I don't want to waste the dr's time but I can't seem to find the answer in any books/articles etc!!

Any advice v much appreciated

you could have a chat with your g.p but the only thing they can really do to sort out the regularity of af's if to put you on the pill or similar which if starting a family isnt helpful! i have the same ting and my g.p told me to try and concieve and if nothing happened in 6 months to go back. good luck!

personally if you've only just decided I'd just have unprotected sex for 6 months then consider charting for 3 months ... mark down when your period starts, when you have sex, when you ovulate (sorry) then go see GP

alternatively you could go to GP and tell them the truth that you're concerned about the irregularity of your periods and wish to conceive

oh and start taking your pre-natal vitamins

good luck

My AF (before children) was always pretty iregular - never as far apart as 2 months, but could range between about 24/25days and up to about 40days.

When I decided to try and get PG with baby no.1 I didn't even 'know' about all this 'ovulation' stuff, best time of the month to fall pg etc etc (I know I sound like I was really naive - but I did the important fact that Unprotected sex=baby )

We started trying for DS1 straight after our wedding so were still at it like rabbits - incredibly fell pg 1st month of trying.

Have you actually started 'trying' yet??? If not could be worth trying for a couple of months and see how it goes - you never know your DH may "hit the jackpot" quite quickly

I'm new too, been lurking for a while though but your situation sounds a bit like mine a few years ago. My periods were all over the place and pretty bad when they came, I was eventually diagnosed with endometriosis, could you have something similar ? Just a thought. If you are at all concerned I would speak to the GP and put your mind at rest. Good luck !

thanks for your advice - think i will just go the natural route first and see how it goes for a few months!!

Lil Mermaid, I have heard bout this and someone else suggested it to me - as I say. I'll see how it goes for a while first tho.

I'll let you know how I get on!!

Hi,

I personally think you should seek medical advice.
To have no periods for two months followed by two bleeds in another month is not normal af behaviour.

As your AF's have always been irregular I would talk with your doctor initially. A blood test can be done to assess your hormone levels properly. If these are awry then you have your answer as to why your AF's are irregular. Irregular periods are commonly caused by hormonal problems.

Generally speakling you are less likely to be ovulating on a regular basis if your periods are irregular.

You will need to be persistant in order to get answers.

just to pick your brains further (sorry ) - which pre-natal vits should I be taking??

Sorry and thank you!

I too had irregular periods, and started getting hung up on the ovulation predictors. My advice would be not to use the predictors as the best time to conceive is a day or two before they tell you any way.

I just made sure i kept a very detailed calendar of my cycle, and made DH have sex every other day as soon as a bleed had finished until the next one started. After 6 months I had made an appointment to see a specialist (after seeing very rubbish GP who was no help), but found out i was pregnant just before we were due to go. So my advice on this one is to try to have sex through the cycle not just in the middle, as your ovulation time can vary due to irregular cycle.

the only thing you need to take before/during trying is folic acid. If you have a balanced diet you shouldn't need anything else.

good luck x

folic acid and healthy eating

possibly zinc for him?

I would suggest go to GP. Had a friend with the same problem periods. Turned out she had a thyroid condition. Her periods went back to normal after takign thyroxin