One-tubers TTC again....

[boodleboot]

right then,

DH has decided that after two regular cycles post EP we can try again....was very excited about that prospect until it hit me like a thunderbolt....i only have ONE TUBE NOW....of course i knew this but now i really KNOW this IYSWIM and now feel a peculiar mix of and of course and at the whole situation we find ourselves in....

I want to be positive that it will happen and won't require assisted conception but am really nervous and scared it is going to take forever....or not happen at all....{trying not to think like that....}

calling all one-tubers for a bit of handholding and good old MN support......lets go through it together....

oh my goodness that is wonderful news for you guys....i just had my twelve week scan and saw bubs wriggling around looking very much like a little human being....it really was the most wonderful thing i have ever seen, even more so tham my other two's scans as i didn't appreciate the miracle of them as much as i do this one....

totally understand how you are feeling that wait until you know what is going on is torturous....i am on the ectopic pregnancy trust website on a thread there in the 'pregnant after ectopic' section called 'BFP waiting for scan'....perhaps come an join me there? THere are lots of ladies that are in the same position as us and its a very busy thread with lots of love and advice.

xxxxx

Congrats to you too Scrumdiddlyumptious!! I have been having twingey pains low down on right as well but I know I ovulated on my left - very strange! The sonographer said it could be implantation pain. Sounds like you are having the same pattern of tests as me. I have my 6 week scan next Thurs - I can't imagine how I will feel sitting in the waiting room waiting to get scanned!

My bloods came back really high, especially progesterone at 130 - not sure whether that is good or bad. There's too much scary stuff on the internet that I shouldn't have read!

So glad to hear all is going well with you boodleboot. I will try and find the thread you mentioned. Sounds like just the place for me & Scrumdiddlyumptious!

xxx

scrum what news??

x

Hello again. I've been meaning to come back to this thread for ages, but after a particularly bad day at work (where I cried at my senior manager because a client had been mean to me - very professional!) I decided this would cheer me up!

Firstly, huge congrats to scrum and edwina - we're not doing so badly for a bunch of one-tubed girls, are we?!

And boodle, I'm thrilled things are going so well for you.

So, my news. I think the last time I posted I was going to get a scan before my 3 week holiday. I did get one, but it was too early (5w+1) to see anything other than an empty sac. I took away a letter saying the 3 possible outcomes were continuing preg, failing preg or ectopic. So nothing conclusive at all. The receptionist couldn't believe I was happy with the result, but it was better than the last time when I ended up in surgery later that day!

I was under strict instructions to go straight to hospital if any pain or bleeding while I was away. Needless to say, I had enough niggling pains (always on the right side) to keep me worried that my one tube was about to burst at any minute! But it was all fine in the end (had a lovely time when not worrying!) and I had a follow-up scan when I got back last week, which showed baby with heartbeat in the right place. So, I'm 10 weeks on Wednesday, and now counting down to my 12 week scan (3 weeks today!). Of course, I keep reading threads about miscarriage at 11 weeks, so have still only told a couple of people. I'm starting to get some stabbing pains where my left tube should be, I assume the internal scar is getting squished by baby - hope it doesn't get much worse!

Oh, and at the first scan they told me I'd ov'd from the left ovary - the one with no tube!

So, that's my update. Hope everyone else is well! x

Fab news Appleton!!! So it's true about eggs being able to jump across to the other tube - amazing!! Glad you had a good holiday too and were able to enjoy yourself despite the niggles. Keeping fingers crossed for your 12wk scan.

I'm not sure, but I think I might have felt sick this afternoon....!!! I'm so desperate to feel some kind of pg symptom that I'm wondering whether it's all a bit imaginary but I was giving DS fish for supper... the look, the smell, everything was making me feel queasy! It's either pg sickness or I've caught my niece's tummy bug - hope it's not the last one. This morning, I woke up & decided I needed to do a digital pg test NOW(!) to see whether I'd moved on in weeks. I hotfooted in down to Boots (with a very full bladder!) and got one, the test came up 3weeks+ (ie 5wks pg) which is as far as it measures so I guess that's positive.

I'm driving myself mad waiting for this scan but equally I'm dreading it... does that sound totally bonkers?!

xx

Hello Ladies

Appleton - firstly FABULOUS news...Gosh, I would have had a heart attack at your first scan and so glad you were able to enjoy most of your holidays and how wonderful to come back to great news!

Edwina...I am exactly like you and desperate to 'feel' pregnant but of course don't at all. I didn't have any symptoms with DS1 but would be very reassuring now I must say so I feel your anxiety but am sure all will be well.

I had my bloods back and they seem to be fine(although marker one was very low - that is my interpretation..the Dr said was fine) and another blood test tomorrow...I was so convinced could feel twinges on my right side (good side) that went to see the Ob who did my ectopic surgery and tube removal but he said bloods looked OK and whilst nothing could be certain until I had the scan I should remember that it is only a 3% chance this time round...I had read much higher stats on the internet but he said that in his considerable experience that was the rate...he also said that continuing to have half weekly tests isn't necessary but if it makes me feel better (which it does) then whatever works! I have my scan next Friday which should be at 6 weeks and a few days and think I will be beside myself..Appleton and Boodle how did you cope??

So, who would have guessed from am month or so that we would all have these worries and not the TTC worries at this point. Lets hope it continues to be a lucky thread and we are all the poster girls for one tubers (partic Appleton with her nifty egg/tube work!). Edwina good luck for your scan...is it tomorrow?? Positive thoughts from this side of the world.

xx

Hi Ladies

Just to update you, my scan went well. Baby in the right place with a heartbeat - hurray!!! Not going to breathe a total sigh of relief until we've had the 12week scan but we're heading in the right direction!!

Thanks for the good wishes scrum - best of luck for your scan too.

xx

fantastic news edwina! It's so hard sitting in the waiting room for that scan, but so worth it in the end! I know what you mean about the 12 week scan - I'm not telling anyone (even my parents) before then. It's actually been quite easy to keep the secret so far!

hope the wait for next Friday's scan isn't getting to you too much scrum - I sometimes wish they could invent something to knock me out for the first 12 weeks so I didn't have to live through all the waiting!

oooh fabulous Edwina, I am so pleased, whilst as you say still a way to go, it must be a huge sigh of relief on the way. Its funny isn't it that in 'normal' pregnancy you have so many worries and for us there are a number of huge worries before you even get to the normal worries! And Appleton, I said exactly the same thing to my OB when he said to try not to worry and I said oh do you have a pill then that will knock me out for the next 10 weeks! Yay for all of us and gosh lets hope that in 7 days I get good news too (although have been having king of low down period pains on and off and then a funny twinge on my right hand side so still going through the days with large mixture of terror).

brilliant news edwina. i tell u we gotta be the luckiest bunch of one tubers...i can't believe i will be fourteen wks monday!! that is crazy. that wait til 12wk is soooo long but u can do it i promise...who has next scan? xx

Hello Ladies

The lucky streak continues (please God!) and I had my early scan today and the bean is in the right place and has a good heartbeat for 6 weeks, 1 day. Hurrah! Early days I know but had convinced myself that it was another ectopic due to funny pains.....fingers crossed for all of us lucky one tubers (ps I had ovulated out of my good side!) xx

Fabulous news, scrum, I'm so pleased we're all getting over all the hurdles!

I have my 12 week scan a week on Monday (by which time I'll be 12+5), so now it's my turn to be on anxious countdown.

Hope everyone is coping with the pregnancy niggles OK. Seems bad to moan after all we've been through to get here, but jeez the constant nausea and tiredness is tough! x

good luck for tomorrows scan apple and yay for scrums little bean in right place....

i am still feeling pretty tired but thankfully nausea seems to be little less now....fifteen weeks tomorr and i swear i felt some swishy swooshy goings on in my tummy yesterday....is especially noticeable when i am laying still....joys of third babies are there are no stomach muscles left to speak of so you feel things quicker it would seem ha....

let us know how the scan goes....

Well done scrum wonderful news!!

How did you get on apple??

I am feeling rubbish - which is great!!! I totally lost all my symptoms last week which totally freaked me out but I know feel wonderfully awful again!!!

i think the scan for apple is next mon....misread the post.

glad your symptoms are back. i remember when mine disappeared for a bit and i totally freaked out.....im 15+2 today and this little baby is riverdancing in my stomach already....feels so bizarre....not kicks just lots of random rustling....

apple - what news from scan???

Good morning all! Thanks for putting this thread up top boodle - I had a half-arsed look for it yesterday, but was too tired to search properly!

All was fine at scan - baby looks great. The only downside was I had a huge row with DH just before, and he missed the scan! He made it for all the boring booking-in and blood tests. I am still annoyed at him, but admitedly did go a bit psycho on him (scan was at 2.20, he was supposed to leave work and get home to pick me up by 2, he didn't get here til 2.15 and wanted to stop and change out of his dirty work clothes - I got hysterical and refused to let him change, he wouldn't come into hospital with dirty clothes on and by the time he went home again to change and came back I'd already had the scan).

He has been good at dealing with DD while I've been nauseous/exhausted, but he just does my head in sometimes! He can be so unreliable! Hormones aren't helping - he thinks I'm a nutter!

Anyway, I'm 13 weeks today, so time is slowly passing. Looking forward to 16 weeks now - that's when I started feeling a bit more human when pregnant with DD. Although I have to have the Lucozade test at 16 weeks this time cos my BMI is too high

I'm now also starting to think about switching hospitals as Queen Mary's will only have MLU by the time I'm due - which is great if the birth is as straightforward as DD's, but not so good if anything happens, as there will be no labour ward/consultants. Not sure I like the risk of that.

Hope everyone else is doing well - boodle, you must be at the stage of feeling a bit better by now. I really can't wait for it - I feel like I'm walking around in a fog all the time, which isn't good for working full-time!

yay such great news apples - i have really liked my care at woolwich so far so can recommend it....apparently they will have a labour ward and a MLU by september so will be able to have the choice where to birth

i am 16.5wks and feeling a bit better for sure but having irrational panickly feelings today as i can't feel the baby moving like i have been for the last couple of weeks....i wish i had the money for a private scan this month as i would hotfoot it up there again today to see for myself taht bubs is ok....going home to have a bath to see if that helps.....

boodle this might be a daft suggestion, but in my last preg I hired a doppler from a company online and used it for checking the baby's hb in the long gap between scans - it was v re-assuring. Not sure I'd do it this time, but I might change my mind on that when I'm a few more weeks in!

I can feel some movement already - definite whooshing going on, esp when I eat sugar. But it's not frequent yet. Hope the bath helps.

Hi ladies, can I join you? I've just had an HSG which confirmed that I too have the distinction of having only one functioning tube. I had an ectopic 4 years ago and they did a laproscopy and saved the tube. I then went on to have DD (now 3.3) but didn't know which tube she had come down obviously. Now have been TTC for #2 for 9 months and am 37 so already going through all the tests, so they sent me for the HSG.

Obviously I knew there was quite a good chance that the ectopic tube might be scarred from the surgery but it is still a bit of a shock to have it confirmed. I guess I was just really lucky to conceive DD in the time I did (it only took 3 months). So obviously I know I can get pregnant with the one tube, but am still feeling a bit about it maybe taking even longer. I have other possible fertility problems too (unexplained spotting and a still breastfeeding DD as well as my advancing age) so this doesn't help.

Anyway would be good to chat about it with people who understand some of the issues (e.g. fear about having another EP and fear of losing the other tube). Congrats to those of you who have managed to grow a bean in the right place - I see it's all go at the moment !

welcome lilysma....sounds like you have been through it a bit...don't worry we all know what that feels like on here!

Are you charting your cycles?

apple - am considering doing that actually...i still don't feel settled today to be honest and i swear my bump is shrinking....i don't know if im just being paranoid but when i rang QE EPU today they said that i cannot go to them any more and between wk 16-20 if i have any probs i have to go straight to a&e....thats just so crap. anyway i have rung my friend who is a community midwife and will be waiting for her to call me back to see about an appointment to listen to the heartbeat but i know that at 16wks it can be difficult to hear it and worry that i will just stress my self out further.....

Welcome lilsma - like boodle said, we all understand what you are saying on here. I was still breastfeeding when I had my EP, although they say there's no link, I did decide to stop before trying again incase it was suppressing my hormones. I also had a series of acupuncture sessions which I also did before conceiving DS, I think it's really, really helpful.

Congrats apple really pleased the scan went well. I think I would have gone spare if DH had cut it that fine too. Men hey?!

I've got my 12wk scan on 22nd - now on the same calendar page - eek!!! Am stressing a bit as both DH and I had upset stomachs in the week, we're not sure if it's something we both eat or something viral. Desperately hoping it hasn't harmed the little bean. I've generally been feeling quite rough but the symptoms have been fluctuating quite a bit. I seem to be better when I'm at work but maybe that's because my mind's occupied more. Anyway, I'm just taking each day as it comes and keeping my fingers very tightly crossed.

Thanks for the welcome boodleboot and edwinak. Sorry you are both having such a stressful time re scans. The early phase of pregnancy is so hard that way isn't it, especially when you have had bad experiences in the past. Boodle are you trying all the usual tricks - drink of cold water and lie down, etc? Bump shrinking could just be baby moving around a bit couldn't it?

Boodle, I am charting my cycles as of 3 months ago and finding it v helpful but also feeding my TTC obsession cos of having to think about it every morning at least!

Had my first session of accupuncture on Thursday and am feeling very positive about it all. Should help me get a bit more energy and perspective if nothing else. But accupuncturist thinks she can help with the spotting. Watch this space!

Happy spring/fertility festival everyone .

not panicking this week. bubs moving freely and clearly around....i think i am destined to stress out until i hold him/her in my arms...

Edwina - not long to go now....am quite sure a stomach upset wont affect anything....

i swore by the book Taking charge of your fertility by toni weschler....just found it to be soo useful and informative and i never realised what an ignoramus i was about my fertility until i read that book! made me feel all empowered!

I also think that my nightly meditation called female Fertility Enhancer did a great job at helping me focus on preparing my body to conceive....recommend both Lilysma

Thanks Boodlebot, glad to hear bubs is making her/himself a bit more clear this week .

I agree edwina a tummy upset is very unlikely to cause any problems. Count down to the 12 week scan!

I'm using TCOYF for charting and do find it very helpful but am not that good at some bits. I find my CM quite confusing and it can get me a bit stressed - obviously not the aim .

Where did you get the meditation? Is it a CD? I'm quite into relaxation CDs so happy to try any variations on a theme .

Have just ovulated, I think, so now begins the 2WW, though I'm not feeling v positive about my chances this month as we didn't manage that much of the business for one reason or another and my spotting last month was so bad.

BTW does anyone know whether most women ovulate from alternate ovaries every month? What I have read is confusing and contradictory on the matter