Hey all
Bumpless how are you feeling now? Any developments to report? Hope the bladder and other bits are feeling comfier now.
Dueling and Riggly hope the injections are going OK, no more accidents and no nasty side effects. Are you feeling alright on them? Let us know when your scans are coming up.
MM, sorry that you had to deal with asinine comments in the pub. Really difficult to shrug that stuff off at the best of times, let alone after a loss. Clearly they weren't thinking, had no idea that their comments would resonate like that, but you do wish people would shut the f* up sometimes don't you. I hope you have some nice plans for the weekend to treat yourself or let your OH look after you a bit?
Italian you sound very chilled out about the timing of your ET, which is definitely the best approach given that it's kind of out of your hands. It's probably a good idea to let your emotions blow every now and again rather than bottling things up and stressing over it, which is so easy to do. Hope the endless downregging isn't getting you down.
Amberc well done with the weightwatchers etc. Are you feeling quite focused on the healthy lifestyle? I think it tends to be easier at the start when you're all fired up to change your lifestyle, the trick is keeping it going when you have been at it a while! Have you set specific goals?
Pumpkin it must have been so frustrating to miss your counselling appointment because of stupid work! But good news that you have your appointment quite soon. Definitely worth asking them specifically whether a course of clomid on its own could be worth it for you, although adding IUI might make you feel as though you are giving it more of a go. Good luck with it.
Idream - how exciting to be getting started on Your Cycle! So if your nurses are all off on day 21, what's the impact on you? Do you just go in on day 22 instead, no harm done? Or does it change anything about the process?
I think the emotions wax and wane a bit through all this don't they. It would be pretty hard to be either always positive or always crushed when you get babies dangled in front of you. At times I positively glare at women with bumps/babies, and at others I feel reasonably normal and take it more in my stride. I do struggle to listen to people moaning (however lightheartedly) about their children keeping them up at night, or having better social lives than them etc - things that all parents seem to think are obligatory comments. I tend to glaze over or change the subject when they do that as it always pisses me off!
Yay for your two little passengers Kiwi. Very glad that they both made it to transfer. Fingers crossed for you and them! Have you got nicknames??
Chocolate, biscuits, a drink from the bar and a big cosy duvet for Isle to help you feel better. I agree with Idream that sometimes you have to just go with the sad times, they are there for a reason and you'd be kidding yourself if you just tried to carry on as though nothing has just happened to you. But you obviously have a great OH to lean on, and your own nature won't keep you down for long I don't think. In the meantime please don't feel you have to be upbeat for us if you're not feeling it, we all take our turn at needing a stroke here once in a while.
We had our appointment with the fertility specialist at Zita West today. She was really nice, asked lots of questions and we discussed everything quite thoroughly. The upshot is we have a referral to see Dr Raj Rai (who is a m/c specialist mainly based at St Mary's hospital, but does a session once a month at ZW). She seemed to think that it was likely we would get a diagnosis of "just bad luck", but the fact that we had a m/c at 10 weeks apparently is more notable than an early one and suggests some tests are a good idea. The appointment with him is in 5 weeks, unless we get a cancellation for his next clinic next weekend. So fingers crossed someone else gets pregnant and doesn't need their slot!
One interesting thing our lady said was that we should make sure we have sex when we're not in our fertile window (this may be of relevance to all of us who are feeling a bit meh about all the sex these days!) We have been timing it to start on about day 10 and continue until after ov has happened, but then stop - so there are usually around 2-3 weeks off the babymaking. She said it's important to keep cycling the sperm regularly, otherwise the first few attempts each month are going to be using old stuff. Which all makes sense. We'll give it a try once we get back on the horse again. Oh, and my husband's pants seem to be a bit on the snug side so maybe we have to go shopping and get him some new ones!
After that I went for my massage and it was LOVELY. Not only relaxing but also a bit "releasing", in that I felt quite soothed by it and had a couple of tears. Reminds me that I must make sure I do things to help the emotions out and not just try to focus on looking forward etc, which is all very positive but important to deal with the sadness too.
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend planned - we are having fish and chips tonight!